To think I am a complete idiot?

[pinkchoctruffle]

DH's birthday is in September and I booked a trip away for us in Cornwall for four nights.

I booked the flights and then the hotel through a website which said I could book now and pay later but I obviously didn't read the fine print very closely and the money has all gone out.

I now have NO money until Friday.

Sigh. And I know, I know, it's my fault, but ...

I'm only being rude because some people are being rude to me.

I don't have money for a bus fare; that's what 'I have no money' meant.

No, you got very aggressive with people first. Complaining about 'this place' when people assumed you had no money. You know, after you said you had no money?!

Except you do have money. Why can't you tell dh you need more this week? What's the big deal?

You'd rather keep your ds in and bored while you annoy each other because you won't take an extra £20 this week because you wiped yourself out on a holiday your ds isn't going on? That's crazy!

I really haven't Walter but whatever I have said at least three times I can't access the money in the joint account but people apparently know my circumstances better than me.

It isn't my money. My names on the bank card so I can use it eg for online shopping at sainsburys but I don't & wouldn't just help myself to it especially not because I made a stupid error.

But like I say whatever you all know apparently better than me.

But your husband can sub you? he is not going to be so cross as to leave you penniless is he?

Like I say; you all know best so I'm not going to repeat what I've said several times already.

Op why are you booking a holiday for a man who won't allow you joint funds?

I'm not annoyed with you, far from it. I'm saddened by you defending somebody who seems to be very controlling. You remind me of myself when I used to defend my controlling boyfriend, I couldn't see why people were apparently getting annoyed with me at the time but I can now I've read your posts.

You're not an idiot. Easy mistake to make when you're excited.

Don't beat yourself up. Try not to think about the money situation too much. I find, if I know I have none I really need it, but when I have got money I can go a week without spending any! Granted, what's when I'm at work with a tank of fuel and food in the cupboards. The school holidays have cost me a small fortune so far .

Have a great time away.

Thanks

Is there no way you can just say to DH, you are short of cash until Friday. Would he really blink at the thought of giving you £30?

I really don't want to get into it and that's 'said' very politely I'm just not up to the verbal assaults on here right now. Thanks.

Hon, I would just leave it now, don't stress yourself!

OK, I'm not trying to harangue you. But can't you tell dh you need an extra £20 or whatever?

You're not being verbally assaulted .

Posters are asking you questions.

You compose attention seeking threads then brush off well meaning questions.

This is really upsetting and people mistake upset for anger.

I say - 'I have no money until Friday. I've got food in and I'm ok but I'm cross with myself.'

That isn't attention seeking - well I don't think it is

• it's just the sort of thing I might say to my friend in a 'God I am a muppet!' way, expecting reassurance and 'oh don't worry I've done that sort of thing as well.'

I didn't want people thinking I was hinting for money (I wouldn't have dreamed of taking it) so I hastened to explain it wasn't destitution, and I get told I'm disingenuous and some people are ACTUALLY without money and how dare I post.

I just feel I can't do right for doing wrong and I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Point out where I've been rude - I haven't been. But I have answered everybody's questions they just don't like the answer so keep asking me. That's not attention seeking. It's upsetting. It makes me feel awful and I don't know why my thread has people getting so upset and annoyed and wound up.'it's a normal thing to book a holiday and a normal thing to make a mistake. But I apologise for ANY offence caused; I don't want a row.

MrsD I didn't mean it was; I said 'I wasn't up for a verbal assault' not 'someone called me disingenuous and this was verbally assaulting me.' I don't think it was fair in all honesty but I did not say it was a verbal assault.

In any case I meant it - I don't want a row.

I think you need to find a reason to 'borrow' a tenner off your DH and then get on with your week.

It will be Friday soon enough. Cornwall is lovely btw.

this is weird.

Are you not aloud money out of the joint account OP?

Pink what happened was everyone who commented on your initial post got the exact same message from the way you wrote it, that you were in a really bad financial situation. People were given you ideas how to get by etc. only much later on you reveal that you actually do have money but can't access it.
You should have mentioned that in your original post or initially to posters when you saw that everyone had got the wrong idea. That's what went wrong.

I didn't say I was in a really bad situation; I made it plain from the start that I would be getting money Friday and that we had food etc; I know I did.

Obviously you didn't if every single poster thought you were skint. Jeez.

I know I said we had food and I know I said I was getting money on Friday.

I don't understand what is wanted from me here at all.

You did say you were getting money Friday but friday is six days away, people wondered what you were going to do until then...

Why don't you tell dh you need money?