Should my MIL and SIL come to DMs funeral

[missnevermind]

Mum died suddenly a few weeks ago.
Mum and Dad have been living in Spain on and off for the last 5 years and were there when it happened. Mum was cremated in Spain as per her wishes but within 3 days as is usual there. The speed of everything took us by surprise.
We are having ' a funeral without a body' here at the local church with drinks afterwards as Dad has brought her ashes home. We are expecting about 70 people.
Now my dilemma / bad thoughts
It has not even occurred to any of DHs family to attend. We have been together 26 years. Married 22 with 4 children.
Is this normal? Am I expecting too much? Would you expect yours to attend?

It was a fantastic send off though. It was two miles to the church and a funeral director with a big cane and a top hat walked in front of our cortege all the way.

Not one person tried to overtake or beeped even though it took ages.

I'm really grateful to anyone stuck behind us that day.

limited That is heart breaking. I genuinely don't know what to say, other than offering my sympathies.

Thanks bunbaker

Thank you kua

Limitedperiod
You did the very best you could.

Oh, limited I'm so sorry for that.

This thread has, like so many times on mn, been a total eye opener for me. Seriously, the number of times mn has been good for me in terms of showing me a viewpoint that I literally had no idea existed.

I am Irish and as so many people have said, it is completely expected to go to all the funerals of friend's parents and all relatives etc. A full church or funeral parlour or whatever is seen as a fitting tribute to people's lives and to their grieving families. To be fair, I have been to English friend's mums funeral in London and it was standing room only, but they are quite posh and quite social - like Four Weddings and a Funeral-ish - does that make a difference?

I would always have assumed that it was a mark of respect and support to attend a funeral, but now I will know to make sure that people actually want me there! In fairness I've never rocked up to a funeral with nine people at it.

Condolences to all those who have lost loved ones including OP