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I'm an entitled spoilt bitch

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OnlyWantsOne · 30/07/2015 17:27

Last week we got married

Today is my birthday. My husband bought (and wrapped) for me, a bag of morisons popcorn.

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SkatesMcgee · 30/07/2015 17:29

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WanderingTrolley1 · 30/07/2015 17:30

Maybe he has a more exciting present to surprise you with at some point...

limitedperiodonly · 30/07/2015 17:30

Is there a diamond ring hidden in it?

giantpurplepeopleeater · 30/07/2015 17:31

I take it you voiced your disappointment at the popcorn and got called that?

Or are you feeling like you are entitled and spolit by being disappointed??

Do you know the reason for popcorn as a gift? Lack of money?

iwanttogotothechaletschool · 30/07/2015 17:31

Do you like popcorn?

TheRealAmyLee · 30/07/2015 17:31

Damn I'm so jealous.

twirlypoo · 30/07/2015 17:31

Im clutching at straws: it means a cinema date? He's made a meal, got wine and film and the popcorn is for that?

Happy birthday op Thanks

Whatabout · 30/07/2015 17:32

Is it like on the generation game where it means you are going to the theatre or something? Sounds a bit wanky.

The80sweregreat · 30/07/2015 17:32

I broke a tooth eating that stuff, be careful!

CrohnicallyAspie · 30/07/2015 17:32

Is he taking you to the cinema (and maybe a meal)?
Or is it a clue- isn't there a brand of popcorn called Hollywood, he could be taking you there! (I saw one on Facebook, it was 2 apples of different sizes with an arrow pointing to the larger one- ie big apple/New York)

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OnlyWantsOne · 30/07/2015 17:33

Nope there's apparently some beer too (4 pack of bud bottles) but I've told him to keep them himself.

Yesterday we went to big city to do "birthday shopping" with 3 kids... I picked up some uniform for September. That's it. On the way home I cried. He then popped out to the shops when we got home.

I have properly lost my shit like a complete child and have spent the whole day in tears.

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Pancakeflipper · 30/07/2015 17:33

Is popcorn significant in your lives?

ShuShuFontana · 30/07/2015 17:34

is this new behaviour then? What happened last year?

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OnlyWantsOne · 30/07/2015 17:34

I don't really like my birthday. Never have, he knows that and I had I didn't want to do any thing and I quote he said "BUT wife presents are lots better than girlfriend presents"

And he booked a baby sitter, (he sent our baby sitter a text to book her) but had no suggestion what we should do. I've now cancelled said baby sitter.

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Pagwatch · 30/07/2015 17:36

Does he normally make a fuss of you - is this unusual?

Why did you buy uniform with your birthday spend - is money really tight? Did you spend a lot on the wedding?

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OnlyWantsOne · 30/07/2015 17:37

The popcorn is really significant.

I broke my back tooth on it in April and have yet to have it fixed. He knows this. I haven't eaten popcorn since.

There's no hidden meaning. That's what he has bought for me.

He hasn't called me anything. He's barely talking. I've ranted about how clearly there's no love care considered thought or any thing between him and I. I've thrown my toys out of the pram and I'm calling myself a selfish bitch.

But I feel sad.

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Pagwatch · 30/07/2015 17:38

Gosh I'm really sorry you are sad.

It is a bit difficult to understand what you want though - even on here.

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OnlyWantsOne · 30/07/2015 17:38

No money isn't a problem

I bought the inform while we were there, not for a birthday gift. I mean we spent all day in the city "shopping" and all was purchased was some John lewis socks and school skirts!

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OnlyWantsOne · 30/07/2015 17:40

I don't know. For him to give a shit.

He knows there are several things that I would really appreciate. He knows. He just didn't think. Which is so blatant now.

Who the hell buys their wife a bag of morisons popcorn.

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TurnOverTheTv · 30/07/2015 17:41

So you don't like your birthday, and don't want to do anything. I can't work out what exactly you do want?

Pagwatch · 30/07/2015 17:41

I think you need to just say clearly what you want.

I think 'I hate my birthday' , going uniform shopping when it's your birthday, cancelling the babysitter he booked is a bit self sabotaging .

Why do you say 'I hate my birthday' when it sounds as though you would really love a fuss on your birthday?

If it's to pre disaster it to lessen potential disappointment it's not really working.

TurnOverTheTv · 30/07/2015 17:42

Have things not been a bit hectic with the wedding?

attheendoftheday · 30/07/2015 17:43

That is a shit present. It belies a lack of any thought.

Pagwatch · 30/07/2015 17:43

Honestly - I really sympathise - but you are sounding like a bit of a martyr.

I absolutely would have said 'I'm not looking at uniform - we are going to whistles/Tiffany/the apple store /wherever to get me a prezzie.

And, in the absence of a suggestion I would book a restaurant I liked.

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OnlyWantsOne · 30/07/2015 17:44

I don't like my birthday because every year he buys some crap that's useless, or writes 'IOU a trip to London to go shopping"

Which he never actually wants to do.

So this year I said it would be nice just to have a take away and a quiet evening. To which he built up and said we should celebrate and have fun and the wife presents comment -he built this all up, then bought pop corn.

So yes I've cancelled the baby sitter. Because we had no reservations any where and what's the fucking point.

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