daughter having probs with a customer at work

[ghostspirit]

i dont know the answer to this: my daughter is 18 she works in a shop. There is an old man that comes in the shop. she said she thinks hes a paedohile (she dont know that) and he keeps hitting on her. i asked what does he do. he keeps grabbing her hand telling her shes beauiful,sexy and wishes she was with him. its happend 3 times. she said she ended up crying when he left the shop. She said the manager was acting harsh and expected her not to get upset over it. she said to me if it carrys on she will leave the job.

she has been told she can refuse to serve him.

does she have to put up with him. or should something be said to him. is he doing anything wrong. i would have thought if its upsetting someone then he is. i dont know how it works. any advice please thanks

She's going to learn the hard way evidently.
Many of my clients have - and they're the ones with no work background or qualifications and even as adults find the job centre requirements very difficult to negotiate.

Just make sure she gives you the money for her board. You aren't made of money and the disposable income she'll be left with won't get her very far.

yes i will defo do that. do feel i have let her down though :( still i cant turn back time

I don't think it sounds as though you've let her down at all. You've had a difficult time with her. I do think you'd be letting her down though if you don't insist she has an income coming in, looks realistically at work and training and if you fail to insist she makes a meaningful financial contribution to the household.

sooty i think i just made the assumption that she would know theses things. like i did. i had to do all theses things on my own when i was a teen. and i never had google. i tried to bring her up how my dad did me...it did not work.

oh yes defo shes not staying in the house all day omg no thanks.

ghost I agree with ilovesooty ,, take some rent from her even if not a major amount . I don't know how much week she would get but even if you do what my Mother done which was put some away for Me. I had no idea but it went toward my future wedding .

It will teach her. hopefully, budgeting skills and you do need some housekeeping toward your rent.

She'll get a bit over £57 a week. I think you have to allow for the fact that you're a low income household ghost and you're no longer able to claim child benefit for her, plus I assume you'll be losing your single person council tax discount. I think personally that you'd be quite reasonable in asking for £20 from her - that's just over a third. She can fund her phone and transport from the rest, which she'll need to look for work anyway.

She can't realistically expect to have much left for socialising or luxuries.

not sure if this will make sense as its hard getting sense out of daughter. she said that she lost the shop over 6000. 0ne being the phone.

This is the bit i dont get..apprently when she opend her till she also opend the safe. and daughter new nothing about it till she was saked.. i have no idea what she/they mean....anyway im now thinking they might not pay her.

A till does not have a link with a safe does it?

No I wouldn't have thought so . Nor would I have expected that someone new and junior would have been able to access that amount of money in the safe. Could that have been the stockloss over the period of her employment? Are they trying to blame her specifically or was that why the new manager had been brought in to look at the problems. Maybe she a best drawing a line under this and needs some help to ensure she comes better next time. Does she know how much she is due as a final pay?

yeah i agree. im not 100% sure about pay. she was on 4.50 an hour. then turned 18 on the 11th so would the wage have gone up because she turned 18 or stayed at 4.50 for that month?

im wondering if they will pay her because of the loss.

Has she signed on yet?

I think quite honestly she'll just have to draw a line under this.

They would really need to prove that she was directly responsible and take disciplinary action to do that. Having said that 6k would be a lot to lose over a short period. Hate to suggest it but is there any way that she could have been responsible, selling stuff at a discount to mates perhaps. What type of shop was it that sells iPhones but old men come in to browse around on on a daily basis. Something about your dd's account doesn't ring true, whether she is naive and confused or just wanting to dismiss the problem. What is her plan now, did she sign on ?

The shop sounds like CEX.

yeah she will.draw a line...just wondering about pay mainly not sure if they can refuse to pay her..

no not signed on just yet its complicated with how my benefits for her have been messed up clashes of dates and things so i need to contact them first

liz shes defo naive. no she would not sell to friends at discount price no way. plus she does not have many friends anyway. im not sure if her account does not ring true i just dont get what shes saying and its impossible to ask as shes hard work. thats why i asked if theres a link with tills and safes. she also said she does not even know the safe code...as said put line under it...just hoping she gets paid

wayne yes it was CEX

need bit more advie: as known daughter no longer works. i need her last wage slip. company are not sending it. and wont email it...i really need it as not having proof of daughters income has put me in over 500 pounds in rent arrears.

i want to be able to write to them/ring them and say something like under the act of bla bla you have to supply a wage slip...but i want to sound like i know what im talking about.

Ring ACAS ? She needs a p45 too to sign on. However the company don't have an obligation to deal with you , it should be your dd. I didn't think she was earning enough as to create a £500 shortfall though. What are her plans now?

m.acas.org.uk/index.aspx?articleid=1650

There is an online enquiry service for common problems.

she did not earn enough liz because i had not sent proof hb refused my claim by the highest that they can...

i have sorted it now after telling daughter im not putting money towards her phone till its sorted...so poxy angry with her in all them arrears because she could not be arsed. telling me the company were refusing to give her a wage slip. had big row with her last week telling her we could be evicted...still nothing then i questioned her again a short while ago and it turns out it was in her emails she had not even checked...telling me they were refusing. really sick of her and the stress its causing!!!!

she says shes going to college. i probably have crap from her about that to.

She's 18, her phone she pays, maybe she'll just have to find evening / weekend work to fund it while at college.

its part of her birthday present thats why i was giving her money for it. the bill is 18 pounds a month. i pay it in return for her doing things for me

ghost she messed around before not bothering to attend college didn't she? I'd be furious too with her not checking her emails and causing all that stress.

Now it's sorted she should surely be putting in a claim for jsa and seriously looking for full time employment.

sooty im kind of scared of her claiming jsa because its only 3 weeks till college starts. and it will just mess up my HB again...all i have had is loads of stress with it since i have been on maternity leave. and yes she messed about like mad. i told her she cant mess about this time as i have had it 2 years running and i cant manage that all over again... i was going to add if she does it again she can find somewhere else to live but i was not sure if that was taking it a bit far.

and yep i could have had is sorted out ages ago