To think coming down for breakfast in a hotel in your PJs is really bad manners

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We were away at the weekend in a hotel with a couple of friends whose teenage daughters insisted on coming down to breakfast each morning in skimpy pyjamas. We were embarrassed and could see hotel guests looking a bit askance. However, their parents didn't say anything so there was nothing we could do.
They also lounged around the general reception area for about an hour afterwards using their ipads, before going upstairs to get dressed.

AIBU to think this was rude and they should have been told firmly to get dressed before coming downstairs?

It is bad manners but they are teens they think it looks cool

Really? I spent a week in a few 5* hotels and came down to breakfast in the hotel dressing gown at least once. Not really an attention thing since we were one of four people in the whole hotel (out of season, small-ish boutique). I just wanted to eat my cosy continental breakfast in my cosy dressing gown and have a leisurely morning.

I don't always do it - after breakfast to pop back to my room, pick up a few bits and go but I can't imagine ever batting an eyelid over someone wearing pyjamas in a hotel and I don't see how it's bad manners to wear the clothes you want to wear and that make you feel comfortable - it doesn't affect me at all!

If my (similar aged) teens refused to get dressed then they would not be having breakfast. Luckily it's never been an issue. I think it's a very odd thing to want to do and I'm not sure I'd expect to get served.

It's not something I'd do but I really don't get all the outrage. It's just pjs. I bet their normal clothes are just as "skimpy"

I wouldn't bat an eyelid.

AIBU has a very particular audience. I wonder what results this questions would yield on Chat or other boards.

AIBU seems like a parallel universe to the Feminist chat board where there has just been a three day debate about an 11 year old's RIGHT to wear a skanky-looking mini skirt and a crop top to the school disco.

Lots of people here are horrified at pajamas; plenty of feminists on the other thread absolutely refusing to be remotely peturbed by girls of any age wearing anything other than whatever-they-like-thankyouverymuch.

FWIW yes, I think its bad manners to wear pajamas in a public place. Also agree with the sentiment that it would have been done in a deliberate, I'm-So-Cool way.

AIBU seems like a parallel universe to the Feminist chat board where there has just been a three day debate about an 11 year old's RIGHT to wear a skanky-looking mini skirt and a crop top to the school disco.

An 11-year-old boy or girl?

I don't really have an issue with the pjs, although wouldn't do it myself or let my dcs.

This will probably out me, (feel a name change coming on), but I once, to my absolute and utter horror, woke up in the foyer/bar area of a very busy hotel abroad, wearing nothing but a pair of knickers, having sleepwalked out of my room, along the corridor, and down three floors in an elevator!

Oh the shame. I was so confused and not one fucker did anything to help me, just stared at me open mouthed. As soon as I realised where I was I turned and fled. I have no idea how long I'd stood there before waking, and then to make matters worse, struggled to find my way back to my room (we had only arrived that day, I'm phobic of flying, and stress brings on sleepwalking for me). When I finally found my room I was locked out and had to bang and bang to wake up dh to open the door, which brought other curious holidaymakers out to see what the noise was, furthering my humiliation. Dh's face was a fucking picture!!

Slept with a chair behind the door (and a huge tshirt) for the rest of the holiday.

I find the 3 strangest parallel universes are AIBU, Feminist chat and the Doghouse - it's as if there's a door with "abandon rational thought all ye who enter here " written on it that must be gone through.

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Shock horror different groups of people have different opinions! The feminist issue is girls getting abusive comments and behaviour directed at them for what they wear, plus other issues about gendered clothing.

PJs are pretty gender neutral really, and I don't think that anyone was suggesting that these girls should be abused for their breach of etiquette were they, or that boys wearing PJs in public areas of hotels would be treated differently? I see no feminist issue here at all.

I don't think anyone's saying it's a feminist issue, are they?

although I'm sure if you posted about it there they'd be all over it in a feeding frenzy

I'm lost with this, to be honest.

If the girls were a few years younger and wanted to cavort naked all holiday people would be saying that it was lovely, that paedophiles were a myth invented by the Sun and what was offensive about a preteens bottom?

Add on maybe six years and it's disgusting when they are wearing pyjamas.

I don't see an issue, at all, with this.

It's about appropriate wear, e.g they wear pjs to other public places? School? Work? Whether we like it or not, there are places you wear X to, and places we wear Y to. Teenagers are old enough to know and understand that.

I think most people would be fairly unhappy if they had to eat breakfast at their hotel surrounded by naked children, yes. Small children in PJs at breakfast probably rather less so. Teenagers should know better.

I think breakfast is a perfectly acceptable place to wear pyjamas to tbh. I wear my pjs to eat breakfast at home.

I think 'at home' is fine.

I don't know about people coming down to breakfast in PJs. However we were forced to live in hotels because our house was flooded. In one establishment we were served breakfast by a man in bare feet.

So it's not a feminist issue but just a good opportunity to slag off the feminism board for no reason at all then? Plus the doghouse for some weird reason, because of course that's relevant too

Yep, absolutely nooka - that's what it is

Ooh I might check out feminist chat!

Not seeing a massive issue here, tbh.

It is generally considered not on to wear pjs to hotel breakfast I guess. A sort of manners/ formality thing.

But I don't see any issue in them being "skimpy" as opposed to any other pyjamas. Teenage bodies are hardly indecent and shame on anyone who was looking in that way. As others have said their normal clothes are probably the same.

I don't really like getting dressed before breakfast but always do in hotels (often bring separate comfy outfit if for work!) because of manners and because I'm old (er).

YANBU
I was at a wedding where the bride appeared in the residents bar in her checked pjs 10 minutes after the end of the reception

So do people return to their messy,sweating room after breakfast in a hotel to shower and get ready for the day ? Srikes me as all wrong, the correct order is
i) wake
2)Coplimentary tea/coffee and biscuits in bed whilst watching telly
3)Run/swim/gym
4)Shower and dress
5)Breakfast

gravel

Miss out the run/swim/gym - too much effort on holiday or any other time really

Gravel? Ouch!

Otherwise I agree with your list!