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AIBU?

To think coming down for breakfast in a hotel in your PJs is really bad manners

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Nurserywindow · 22/07/2015 13:48

We were away at the weekend in a hotel with a couple of friends whose teenage daughters insisted on coming down to breakfast each morning in skimpy pyjamas. We were embarrassed and could see hotel guests looking a bit askance. However, their parents didn't say anything so there was nothing we could do.
They also lounged around the general reception area for about an hour afterwards using their ipads, before going upstairs to get dressed.

AIBU to think this was rude and they should have been told firmly to get dressed before coming downstairs?

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PosterEh · 22/07/2015 14:25

I wouldn't do it. But I'd struggle to give a shit if anyone else did.

Pantsalive · 22/07/2015 14:26

I thought this was going to be an Archers thread. Not sure I like the thought of Joe Grundy in skimpy pyjamas.

muminhants1 · 22/07/2015 14:40

My mum once told me off for going down to breakfast with wet hair (there was no hairdryer in the room). She told me it looked slutty!

Gruntfuttock · 22/07/2015 14:42

OTheHugeManatee why wouldn't you do you hair and makeup before going down to breakfast?

yogababymum · 22/07/2015 14:50

YANBU it's very bad manners and clearly neither the parents or teens have any social awareness.

As a manager of a hotel I can say that often staff are reluctant to say anything as usually people like this have an attitude to match. However in a case like this It staff should have addressed it.

Salmotrutta · 22/07/2015 14:51

It's all about what's appropriate isn't it?

(Cue old lady saying :- "One should never appear downstairs unless appropriately dressed"

If I was at home then my own teenagers lounging around in PJs wouldn't bother me (mine are grown up) but I wouldn't have been impressed at them doing that in a public hotel.

And I certainly had/have no desire to see other peoples teens in skimpy PJs whilst eating breakfast.

Jayne35 · 22/07/2015 15:04

No YANBU. PJ's in any public place, skimpy or otherwise is just awful. Always seeing people in the local shop in PJ's, dressing gowns and slippers! Why would anyone do this??

Nurserywindow · 22/07/2015 15:06

Thanks. Glad it wasn't just us. They're self absorbed little madams and, to be honest, them coming on the weekend away with us was kind of imposed at the last minute

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Salmotrutta · 22/07/2015 15:08

Ooh - I'm sensing some more stories Nursery...

Care to amuse us ask our opinions?

thegreylady · 22/07/2015 15:11

If theyhad knickers under pjs and the material was opaque I wouldn'tbe shocked, just surprised that they felt it appropriate and even more surprised at their parents. However...seaside hotel, jersey shorts and cropped top would be quite usual so why not pjs? I often wear slippers in a hotel.

Nurserywindow · 22/07/2015 15:11

I'd love to but I suspect I might out myself.

Let's just say, we won't be going away with these friends again until their dds have well and truly left home.

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Salmotrutta · 22/07/2015 15:14

Spoilsport

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 22/07/2015 15:14

Not being unreasonable at all, it's disgusting to behave like this in a hotel. It never used to happen, there's no good reason for it to happen - then again, supermarket shopping in nightwear is only a recent contrivance by the attention-seeking. This is the same. Complain to the hotel manager.

Jen1610 · 22/07/2015 15:15

Our friends got married in June.

I went and stayed the Friday night (I was doing the wedding make ups on the Saturday morning). I wore wedges, skinny jeans and a nice top to go as we were having cocktails and a meal in the restaurant.

Woke up the Saturday morning and threw jeans and a hoody on and realised I had forgot my converse to wear down to breakfast and either had to put my high wedges on or slippers. So, I went with slipper. I was a bit embarrassed but just wanted to be comfy. Luckily it turned out it was only wedding guests I knew and two couples so it was fine but there's absolutely no way I'd of went down wearing jammies.

Having said all that though, I probably wouldn't frown on young teenagers wearing them down.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 22/07/2015 15:16

Oh, just re-read and these are children of friends of yours - I would complain to the friends and not sit with them to eat. Will dinner be a repeat performance? How utterly self-absorbed and pretentious these girls are.

Marmiteandjamislush · 22/07/2015 15:18

YANBU. We don't eat in pjs at home because I think no matter how clean they or the person wearing them, they have a musty smell, which is off putting.

PamBagnallsGotACollage · 22/07/2015 15:18

OTheHugeManatee why wouldn't you do you hair and makeup before going down to breakfast?

Yes, why wouldn't you do your make up? All women must put make up on before going to any public areas.

luckiestgirlintheworld · 22/07/2015 15:19

The people who think this is inappropriate and rude- would you think the same if they were normal pyjamas (not skimpy)?

The last thing I want to do on holiday is get dressed before I eat breakfast. I don't do it at home. And I can't understand what is so offensive about the sight of somebody in pyjamas. They're just like regular clothes, just a different colour and material.

Unless it is only the skimpy thing you object to?

Sparklingbrook · 22/07/2015 15:23

Call me old fashioned but I do think getting dressed before leaving the hotel room is what you do.

I am not offended by people in PJs I think going down to breakfast in a hotel in them is just lazy and weird.

Nurserywindow · 22/07/2015 15:23

I often wander around at home with a bath towel wrapped around me, but I wouldn't wander around a hotel like that. It's probably no more skimpy than a lot of sun dresses, but it would still look odd and inappropriate.

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ThinkIveBeenHacked · 22/07/2015 15:24

In the Hotel I work at they would have been asked to return to their rooms and get dressed before dining. Not mega-posh, but a chain, and one which likes to uphold standards.

SheGotAllDaMoves · 22/07/2015 15:25

DH and I went away for the weekend recently to a pretty smart hotel and I was surprised to see a couple in their slippers at breakfast.

And not the hotel freebie slippers, they'd obviously brought their own from home.

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SaggyAndLucy · 22/07/2015 15:27

Meh.

Salmotrutta · 22/07/2015 15:28

I don't think wearing any pyjamas downstairs to breakfast in a hotel is appropriate.

Slippers are fine though as log as they aren't comedy novelty ones...

Wideopenspace · 22/07/2015 15:30

I don't really understand why it is rude or disgusting. Sounds like they were just PJs in light material.

Why is it rude?

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