To think coming down for breakfast in a hotel in your PJs is really bad manners

[Nurserywindow]

We were away at the weekend in a hotel with a couple of friends whose teenage daughters insisted on coming down to breakfast each morning in skimpy pyjamas. We were embarrassed and could see hotel guests looking a bit askance. However, their parents didn't say anything so there was nothing we could do.
They also lounged around the general reception area for about an hour afterwards using their ipads, before going upstairs to get dressed.

AIBU to think this was rude and they should have been told firmly to get dressed before coming downstairs?

[Salmotrutta]

I don't think its about being chavvy (hate that term) but I do think sitting down to breakfast in a dining room of a hotel in your PJs is inappropriate.

Going to the shower block of a campsite is a bit different because everyone is probably doing it and it's the normal state of affairs for that situation.

That's just my view though - like I said that old expression "Don't come downstairs until you are appropriately dressed" was just what my parents and grandparents generation lived by and that rubbed off.

Mind you I live in a bungalow so no stairs!

[Lucked]

I have taken my toddlers down in their pyjamas whilst they still fit in highchairs because they are messy eaters who hate bibs and I only want to get them dresses once. Last time we were in a hotel my oldest was almost three and I put him in trousers but kept the pyjama top on, this was because I felt he was getting to an age were it was really no longer acceptable so YANBU teenagers should get dressed!!

The parents have condoned this though, I think if they had had a fight about it you would have heard or you would be able to tell from the atmosphere. So the fault lies with the parents as it should have been "get dressed or no breakfast."

[Flashbangandgone]

Using the 'majority agree' is a poor line of argument, sorry.

The most popular party at the polls in 1933 Germany was the Nazis...

[usualsuspect333]

The parents obviously thought it didn't matter.

So there is no fault on the parents part.

[SirChenjin]

Really - Godwin's Law on this thread??!

It's not a poor line of argument at all - we're talking about social norms.

[Wideopenspace]

SIR..you know the rules.

[SirChenjin]

I really don't!

[Lucked]

usual Ignorantia non excusat in my opinion, well maybe I would excuse them coming down once. However one look around all the other guests and they should of realised they made a mistake.

Maybe that's it! They don't want to admit to their children they got it wrong.

[usualsuspect333]

In your opinion they got it wrong.

Just because you would have a fit of the vapours at the site of a pair of PJs over your cornflakes, doesn't mean it's wrong.

[usualsuspect333]

sight*

I do wish MN had a bloody edit button.

[ChilliAndMint]

Bad manners, poor disciple on parents part ,but I also sense a bit of " look at me" from the girls.

I know at that age girls are mostly very self conscious and wouldn't leave there rooms without full slap and hair fixed.

Would rile me no end..I'd have said something to the girls

Recently saw a mother at school in her pj's and Uggs....sad.

[Wideopenspace]

Sir

Invoke Godwin's Law and the discussion has to end

[usualsuspect333]

I can just imagine all the cats bum faces in the dining room.

I would have laughed.

[SirChenjin]

That's news to me - but an eminently sensible rule nonetheless.

[LassUnparalleled]

YANBU.

[fastdaytears]

I love my pjs and have been known to pop to Tescos in them (it's a Tesco Metro which I feel helps) but staying in a hotel is mostly a nice treat and breakfast is my best bit. I don't think it's polite to other guests to be sitting there in PJs.

[Sparklingbrook]

I don't think anyone noticed, all too busy making sandwiches for lunch out of the breakfast buffet and filling their pockets with fruit.

[usualsuspect333]

Every one seems to be wearing brightly coloured patterned trousers around here.

I really wouldn't know if they were wearing their PJs or not TBH.

[Salmotrutta]

I've noticed the patterned trouser things too.

Are they Harem Pants?

[mummaAJL]

You sound awfully judgemental. If I were their parents and heard you speaking about my children like that I can tell you that our friendship would be over.

They're teens, don't you remember being one. Free and easy, no responsibility or commitments. What harm are they doing

[Stinchcombebabycafe]

If they'd been my kids, I'd not have allowed them to go to breakfast in pj's, skimpy or not - especially after the first morning, when other people had obviously not been in pjs. However, it's not THAT bad a thing to have happened, especially if they were otherwise properly behaved in the dining room.
Just to stir this a bit more, I'm a member of a ladies' group where, on the last morning of our annual convention, most of us go to breakfast in our pjs - but these are special outfits, definitely NOT the ones we've slept in, and it's only if the hotel management agree beforehand.

[TheRealAmyLee]

I think anyone who wears pjs in public is lazy and inconsiderate. I find it ridiculous, unnecessary and setting a terrible example. It takes 2 mins max to throw on proper clothes which include a bra ffs! Yep those judgey pants fit really snugly!

[Eminybob]

I don't understand what you mean my inconsiderate? How is it effecting anyone else in the slightest? It's just clothes. Pyjamas these days are a lot less revealing than some day time clothes would be. What if the girls had been wearing shorts and crop tops? I just don't get how anyone's choice of attire has an impact on anyone else, provided they are not attending breakfast naked.

[fastdaytears]

Eminy I don't think it's about how it affects other people. The question was is it bad manners. There are lots of things which are bad manners but don't affect anyone else. If you're in a restaurant full of adults and one table is swearing loudly that doesn't affect you but is still inconsiderate and bad manners,

[fastdaytears]

But finishing a post with a comma is totes fine.