To think coming down for breakfast in a hotel in your PJs is really bad manners

[Nurserywindow]

We were away at the weekend in a hotel with a couple of friends whose teenage daughters insisted on coming down to breakfast each morning in skimpy pyjamas. We were embarrassed and could see hotel guests looking a bit askance. However, their parents didn't say anything so there was nothing we could do.
They also lounged around the general reception area for about an hour afterwards using their ipads, before going upstairs to get dressed.

AIBU to think this was rude and they should have been told firmly to get dressed before coming downstairs?

[crumpet]

Well, wideopenspace, if I'd been there the word presenting itself to my mind would probably have been something like "pillock", but it would have had as near as dammit the same intention.

[Aeroflotgirl]

I was going to say YABU but saw the skimpy bit. I thought proper pj or lounge pants with t shirt is fine.

[sunflower49]

Wouldn't bother me as long as the pjamas were clean and not scruffy and no bits of inappropriate flesh hanging out!I like to see people relaxed and enjoying themselves!

[HemanOrSheRa]

BitOutOfPractice would you like to see a photo of the cocktail hat?!

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

I don't much care how far people let their personal standards slide out of my view BUT if you're in public place then the 'Onslow' fashion statement is going to jar. I probably wouldn't complain about you but I would think you had no standards of dress and I would say something in feedback to the hotel - and not stay there again.

Why is it so important to some people not to wash and dress before presenting themselves in public? It's very sad because it says to me that somebody has self-esteem issues, which they probably don't. On the contrary, they probably think they look dee-liteful.

Please... just get washed and dressed before coming down.

[Marynary]

Why on earth do you care what they are wearing? What's it got to do with you? I wouldn't let my own teenagers wear skimpy pyjamas as it could attract the attention of perverts but I don't care what other people do.

[fastdaytears]

Eminy I specifically said no kids were in my hypothetical sweary restaurant. It's not any easier not to see things than not to hear them (I can't eat breakfast with my eyes shut or beans will go everywhere).

[BitOutOfPractice]

HemanOrSheRa I need to hear more about your cocktail hat...

[Eminybob]

For the record I wouldn't do this, only because I like to have a shower and get dressed before breakfast as I like to head out for the day straight after when I'm on holiday. But I wouldn't judge someone who chooses not to.

[Eminybob]

Don't people in those fancy spa hotels go down for their meals in their hotel issue dressing gowns? only seen this on telly as not posh enough to have first hand experience Is that ok?

And Fast being loud and sweary is inconsiderate as you have to hear it and potentially have your kids subjected to foul language. Someone wearing an item of clothing not deemed appropriate by you just because it was bought in a different department of the shop is not inconsiderate. You don't even have to look.

I wear harem trousers which my DP thinks look like pajamas. My actual pajamas look more like sports clothes.

Still don't get the issue.

[daisychain01]

Free and easy, no responsibility or commitments sure thing, and giving those expectations is likely to turn them into entitled and selfish adults!

[Wideopenspace]

Wow. So now they are being dicks

[crumpet]

Renate678 the point is precisely that they were being dicks.

[crumpet]

What grumpy old biddy said.
It is socially innappropriate. So i would judge. Either the attention seeking or the complete failure to understand appropriate behaviour in a hotel environment. I'd be quite relaxed as to what I was judging

[PrimalLass]

I've said this before on here, but we saw a whole family in pjs in a service station (that nice one with the pond that everyone goes on about). The girls had proper bulky dressing gowns on top. Now that's worse.

[ForalltheSaints]

Age is irrelevant. If you don't want to be dressed at that time of the morning, choose room service.

[GrumpyOldBiddy2]

I can just imagine all the cats bum faces in the dining room.

I would have laughed.

And that's it, in a nutshell: 'Look at me, being cool and breaking a social convention and not caring because I'm so much more cool than anyone else'

It is that it's gross going out in public in pyjamas you've slept in, but for me it's more that it's such self obsessed and attention seeking behaviour but with nothing of substance or interesting to look at. If you want to be cool, do something worthy of it, at least make an effort; dye your hair a weird colour, do something creative with your clothes or something. Wearing pyjamas to the shop or dining room of a hotel gives the impression that you should be on Jeremy Kyle, literally showing your dirty washing in public.

this is one of the very few things that I get riled about, hence the rant

[fastdaytears]

But finishing a post with a comma is totes fine.

[fastdaytears]

Eminy I don't think it's about how it affects other people. The question was is it bad manners. There are lots of things which are bad manners but don't affect anyone else. If you're in a restaurant full of adults and one table is swearing loudly that doesn't affect you but is still inconsiderate and bad manners,

[Eminybob]

I don't understand what you mean my inconsiderate? How is it effecting anyone else in the slightest? It's just clothes. Pyjamas these days are a lot less revealing than some day time clothes would be. What if the girls had been wearing shorts and crop tops? I just don't get how anyone's choice of attire has an impact on anyone else, provided they are not attending breakfast naked.

[TheRealAmyLee]

I think anyone who wears pjs in public is lazy and inconsiderate. I find it ridiculous, unnecessary and setting a terrible example. It takes 2 mins max to throw on proper clothes which include a bra ffs! Yep those judgey pants fit really snugly!

[Stinchcombebabycafe]

If they'd been my kids, I'd not have allowed them to go to breakfast in pj's, skimpy or not - especially after the first morning, when other people had obviously not been in pjs. However, it's not THAT bad a thing to have happened, especially if they were otherwise properly behaved in the dining room.
Just to stir this a bit more, I'm a member of a ladies' group where, on the last morning of our annual convention, most of us go to breakfast in our pjs - but these are special outfits, definitely NOT the ones we've slept in, and it's only if the hotel management agree beforehand.

[mummaAJL]

You sound awfully judgemental. If I were their parents and heard you speaking about my children like that I can tell you that our friendship would be over.

They're teens, don't you remember being one. Free and easy, no responsibility or commitments. What harm are they doing

[Salmotrutta]

I've noticed the patterned trouser things too.

Are they Harem Pants?