To think coming down for breakfast in a hotel in your PJs is really bad manners

[Nurserywindow]

We were away at the weekend in a hotel with a couple of friends whose teenage daughters insisted on coming down to breakfast each morning in skimpy pyjamas. We were embarrassed and could see hotel guests looking a bit askance. However, their parents didn't say anything so there was nothing we could do.
They also lounged around the general reception area for about an hour afterwards using their ipads, before going upstairs to get dressed.

AIBU to think this was rude and they should have been told firmly to get dressed before coming downstairs?

[GrumpyOldBiddy2]

I can just imagine all the cats bum faces in the dining room.

I would have laughed.

And that's it, in a nutshell: 'Look at me, being cool and breaking a social convention and not caring because I'm so much more cool than anyone else'

It is that it's gross going out in public in pyjamas you've slept in, but for me it's more that it's such self obsessed and attention seeking behaviour but with nothing of substance or interesting to look at. If you want to be cool, do something worthy of it, at least make an effort; dye your hair a weird colour, do something creative with your clothes or something. Wearing pyjamas to the shop or dining room of a hotel gives the impression that you should be on Jeremy Kyle, literally showing your dirty washing in public.

this is one of the very few things that I get riled about, hence the rant

[ForalltheSaints]

Age is irrelevant. If you don't want to be dressed at that time of the morning, choose room service.

[PrimalLass]

I've said this before on here, but we saw a whole family in pjs in a service station (that nice one with the pond that everyone goes on about). The girls had proper bulky dressing gowns on top. Now that's worse.

[crumpet]

What grumpy old biddy said.
It is socially innappropriate. So i would judge. Either the attention seeking or the complete failure to understand appropriate behaviour in a hotel environment. I'd be quite relaxed as to what I was judging

[crumpet]

Renate678 the point is precisely that they were being dicks.

[Wideopenspace]

Wow. So now they are being dicks

[daisychain01]

Free and easy, no responsibility or commitments sure thing, and giving those expectations is likely to turn them into entitled and selfish adults!

[Eminybob]

Don't people in those fancy spa hotels go down for their meals in their hotel issue dressing gowns? only seen this on telly as not posh enough to have first hand experience Is that ok?

And Fast being loud and sweary is inconsiderate as you have to hear it and potentially have your kids subjected to foul language. Someone wearing an item of clothing not deemed appropriate by you just because it was bought in a different department of the shop is not inconsiderate. You don't even have to look.

I wear harem trousers which my DP thinks look like pajamas. My actual pajamas look more like sports clothes.

Still don't get the issue.

[Eminybob]

For the record I wouldn't do this, only because I like to have a shower and get dressed before breakfast as I like to head out for the day straight after when I'm on holiday. But I wouldn't judge someone who chooses not to.

[BitOutOfPractice]

HemanOrSheRa I need to hear more about your cocktail hat...

[fastdaytears]

Eminy I specifically said no kids were in my hypothetical sweary restaurant. It's not any easier not to see things than not to hear them (I can't eat breakfast with my eyes shut or beans will go everywhere).

[Marynary]

Why on earth do you care what they are wearing? What's it got to do with you? I wouldn't let my own teenagers wear skimpy pyjamas as it could attract the attention of perverts but I don't care what other people do.

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

I don't much care how far people let their personal standards slide out of my view BUT if you're in public place then the 'Onslow' fashion statement is going to jar. I probably wouldn't complain about you but I would think you had no standards of dress and I would say something in feedback to the hotel - and not stay there again.

Why is it so important to some people not to wash and dress before presenting themselves in public? It's very sad because it says to me that somebody has self-esteem issues, which they probably don't. On the contrary, they probably think they look dee-liteful.

Please... just get washed and dressed before coming down.

[HemanOrSheRa]

BitOutOfPractice would you like to see a photo of the cocktail hat?!

[sunflower49]

Wouldn't bother me as long as the pjamas were clean and not scruffy and no bits of inappropriate flesh hanging out!I like to see people relaxed and enjoying themselves!

[Aeroflotgirl]

I was going to say YABU but saw the skimpy bit. I thought proper pj or lounge pants with t shirt is fine.

[crumpet]

Well, wideopenspace, if I'd been there the word presenting itself to my mind would probably have been something like "pillock", but it would have had as near as dammit the same intention.