That you should do a job you don't like for the good of the family?

[Wrongornot]

DH left old job 6 months ago.

Old Job:

Reasonable money
40 miles each way commute
Starts of 4am
Works 5 over 7 inc weekend never 2 days off together
Physical job

New job:

Works 4 on 4 off
50% payrise on previous job
8am - 6pm
10 miles commute
Desk job

He has just told me that he is going back to his old job as of next week.

I hit the roof. It will mean less money (to the point we will struggle, esp due to petrol cost), less time (need to go to bed very early), I will be by myself with DCs in the morning again, I can't stay away from home for my job as he is away at 3am, meaning I am not going to progress in my career, he is not getting any younger and the job is very physical. He will be stuck in this job forever more as I would imagine he would be too scared to ever try anything new again.

However, he says he hates new job but can't quite say why. Mainly down to being in an office environment with a bit more responsibility. He has had nothing but praise and his new employers and very upset and can't understand why he is leaving. Neither can I - AIBU?

RedHelenB OP will be worse off because she took advantage of DHs civilised hours to do some overnights with work, in order to advance her career. Her ability to do that may now be under threat.

"My career is starting to pick up since your job allowed me to do overnights and help at home, and I've realised how important that is to me. If you can show me what you'll do while working at your old job to allow me to continue with my job then Im willing to listen"