For thinking my mum needs to make more of an effort with her appearance?

[animefan89]

My DM is 52 and has now been single for the past 4 years. I am worried about her being lonely as she enters the later years of her life. She doesn't really have anyone in her life except me and her cats. Both of her parents have passed away, and she isn't very close to her siblings. She is a lovely, friendly, kind person who has a heart of gold. Now, I mean this in the nicest possible way, but she has let herself go quite a bit. She dresses much older than her actual age, hasn't been to a salon for a long time (she has grey roots showing through) and just doesn't seem to be bothered as much as when she was younger.

I just think if she wants to find a man then she needs to make more of an effort. If she doesn't, then she is running the risk of becoming a lonely old spinster with a cold, empty space on the other side of her bed for the rest of her life. I don't judge her on how she looks but I can see how men on online dating sites would. It's a very competitive arena. I haven't mentioned anything to her about this but I'm wondering if I should.

Why do you feel it's so important to snag yourself a man OP?

YABU

'As she enters the later years of her life' are you for real!

I'm 48 and have a 5 year old and a 2 year old.

If anybody needs to be 'changing' its your attitude

She doesnt seem to have anyone in her life except me....
Do you mean she doesnt have any friends either op? I think youve probably got the message by now that not everyone wants a man. But if your mum isnt close to anyone else at all then thats more of a worry.

Oh op get on here.

in the later years if her life seriously thats deranged as your dm is in her 50s. Don't post silly things then.

And don't post that she can't get a man. Why should she want one?

You sounded circa 1950s.

That's why people took the piss! What did you expect here. Really!

EustaciaBenson how pray is Joey? Are you still in the wing of Freudeshime?

then she is running the risk of becoming a lonely old spinster with a cold, empty space on the other side of her bed for the rest of her life

Why are you so invested in her being in a relationship? Perhaps she doesn't feel that her bed is cold & lonely. perhaps she has cottoned on to the fact that she doesn't need a man in her life.

Not to mention that you are concerned about her roots...not everyone has a pressing need to cover up their natural hair colour.

This is a horrible thread.