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Original poster

To divorce DH over this?

161 replies

StoneCuttersStreet · 08/07/2015 13:00

DH is incredibly fussy.

For supper I am making a watermelon, halloumi and bulgur wheat salad (I know, but I meal planned when it was boiling hot). He likes all of these things separately, not just tolerates they are high on his favourites. But he does not like the idea of fruit with savoury. He has made it very clear that he is sceptical about it but has agreed to try it.

AIBU to think that he could just eat the watermelon and savoury parts in separate mouthfuls (the salad will literally be chunks of watermelon, halloumi, bulgur parsley and pumpkin seeds - dressing on the side Hmm )and just not say anything?

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Gatehouse77 · 08/07/2015 13:03

Nope, I'm with your DH!
One of my biggest dislikes is meat and fruit together!

murphys · 08/07/2015 13:04

Halloumi for starters, bulgar wheat salad or main, watermelon for dessert.

No divorce...

Sansarya · 08/07/2015 13:04

I had that salad a few nights ago and it was lovely and refreshing. Tell him to make his own dinner if he's that fussy!

Nromanoff · 08/07/2015 13:04

Tbh I am huge fan of halloumi and of water melon. I wouldn't eat them together. If they are on a separate plate i would eat the halloumi and have the melon later

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StoneCuttersStreet · 08/07/2015 13:06

But wouldn't you just to not be a dick just eat them in separate mouthfuls. Bearing in mind I spend my entire life pandering to his culinary needs and not eating what the DC and I want.

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midnightvelvetPart2 · 08/07/2015 13:06

Halloumi & watermelon together will be nice.

If he doesn't like the sound of it then he can cook something for himself, I wouldn't be having all of this 'sceptical but agreeing to try it' like he's doing you a massive favour.

It sounds delicious :)

AuntyMag10 · 08/07/2015 13:06

That sounds like a nibble or snack to me. Five minutes later I need a proper meal. I agree with your dh.

Original poster
StoneCuttersStreet · 08/07/2015 13:06

Also Gatehouse, halloumi isn't meat!!

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Agrestic · 08/07/2015 13:06

He's said he'd try it, he may like it!

I wouldn't. GrinWink

WhoNickedMyName · 08/07/2015 13:07

I like all those things separately, but putting them together sounds rank, sorry!

Apart from that, I don't get the problem here.

He's agreed to try it, but you want to dictate how he should try and and if he doesn't like it you expect him not to say anything?

YABU.

fearandloathinginambridge · 08/07/2015 13:07

LTB and come and live with me. I would love to have that made for me.

Gatehouse77 · 08/07/2015 13:09

Oh I Know it's not a meat, just adding that as one of my dislikes...

ShatnersBassoon · 08/07/2015 13:09

I wouldn't put those things in my mouth at the same time, and I wouldn't want to faff around picking a meal apart. Can't you give him something as an alternative to the melon, like tomato?

Original poster
StoneCuttersStreet · 08/07/2015 13:09

You're all fussy buggers!

If someone makes me a meal id just eat it and say thanks unless it something I could not bear in it (of which there are few things)

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KinkyAfro · 08/07/2015 13:10

Not for me, I'm on your DH's side Grin

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StoneCuttersStreet · 08/07/2015 13:11

I'm not making a grown man an alternative. If I posted on here I was making the DCS something separate I'd get so many responses saying 'not in my house, eat what you're given' etc! Grin

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morelikeguidelines · 08/07/2015 13:11

Twat. Him not you. You can only make stipulations about the food of you are making it. If not, tough.

Don't spend time pandering to him.

morelikeguidelines · 08/07/2015 13:13

It's not about whether he is right or wrong to not like it. Those are just preferences, neither right or wrong.

It's the fact you are cooking for him and he is being sniffy about what you are making.

Jackie0 · 08/07/2015 13:13

I was going to say he being a child but then I thought actually my dh just wouldn't eat something he didn't fancy.
I wouldn't really make him something new without asking if he'd like it so , yabu a bit I suppose.
It annoying though and I see where you're coming from. It's a!l stuff he like fgs.

catsrus · 08/07/2015 13:14

My dd makes lovely salads, then ruins them IMO by adding fruit! I don't think it really works and makes the meal far less enjoyable for me. And I am really not a fussy eater - it's just a combination that doesn't work for me.

Nromanoff · 08/07/2015 13:14

No I wouldnt. Sorry op thought you were asking for opinions.

I wouldn't eat fruit with halloumi, I have it with ham. I do not like fruit with a salty cheese.

If you don't like cooking for him then dont

NomiMalone · 08/07/2015 13:15

I wouldn't eat something I didn't like out of politeness or gratitude.

You eat your minging salad.

He can make beans on toast.

Sorted.

Summerisle1 · 08/07/2015 13:16

My DH will eat pretty much anything and is almost ridiculously grateful for any catering services. However, if presented with this particular supper suggestion I can picture the look of disappointment that'd momentarily pass over his face.

However, I note that you also said that you always pander to his dietary needs. That's much more unreasonable than serving up an unappetising salad.

Chewbecca · 08/07/2015 13:19

YABU to divorce him over this, most certainly.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 08/07/2015 13:19

I would eat it. I think it sounds lovely.

I do think picky eaters should do what they can to be as un-picky as possible. So in the case of your DH, eat all the bits separately. YANBU.

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