To divorce DH over this?

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DH is incredibly fussy.

For supper I am making a watermelon, halloumi and bulgur wheat salad (I know, but I meal planned when it was boiling hot). He likes all of these things separately, not just tolerates they are high on his favourites. But he does not like the idea of fruit with savoury. He has made it very clear that he is sceptical about it but has agreed to try it.

AIBU to think that he could just eat the watermelon and savoury parts in separate mouthfuls (the salad will literally be chunks of watermelon, halloumi, bulgur parsley and pumpkin seeds - dressing on the side )and just not say anything?

Oh and halloumi is fab! I dry-fry it, rather than grilling it. One of the few cheeses that really refuses to actually melt. Very salty, makes a lovely toasty snack!

I generally dislike fruit in savoury courses and salads, with a few exceptions. I wouldn't have to try this meal to know I wouldn't like it, even though I like all the ingredients individually. Feta would be better, but still not great.

As for not checking with the other before trying something new, we probably would as meal planning is a joint activity in our house, but if we hadn't done it would be perfectly acceptable for someone to say sorry, I really don't fancy that and leave part of it.

Orange and halloumi go amazingly well together in a salad.

I make a great strawberry risotto.

DH's not convinced.

[Nobody eats a tomato dessert because it has a savoury taste.]

But they sort of do... Physalis [cape gooseberry] is basically a tomato [and tastes less sweet] and is plonked on many a pudding.

Apple sauce with pork?

Apple sauce with pork is grim. I do like sweet chilli sauce though, I do have a few exceptions.

I had something very similar from a BBC good food recipe (it sounds identical in fact!) and it was delicous - your DH is just being awkward to not even try it if he likes it all separately! I usually hate fruit and savoury together but this was really good.

You could just whack the watermelon on the side though.

"I like pineapple, I like pizza but I would never have pineapple on a pizza."

! We make our own pizza (GF bases) and to us, it's not a proper pizza if it doesn't have pineapple on it! DH makes a meat feast, I make a tuna/anchovy/caper one - both with pineapple. (DH also has anchovy on his).

And what about classics like duck a l'orange, or lemon chicken, or Chinese stir fried duck with pineapple? Would people who don't mix fruit and meat really not eat any of these?

Just had a green leaf salad with ham, cottage cheese and a cutted up peach scattered on top.

One of my favourites is prawns with mango and chilli. Sweet with savoury is lush imho. Your proposed dinner sounds lovely OP. It takes all sorts (thank goodness).

Hate apple sauce with pork. Raisins in curry, apple or grapes in salad, pineapple on pizza, creamy curries. No, because I don't like sweet and savoury together. I love savoury food and want it to taste that way.

Apple sauce with pork is grim to you but most people think of it as a classic combination. ( I don't much like it either to be honest )

Loving the sweet and savoury debate. I'm all for trying all combinations.

And to answer earlier question DH does not cook, food shop or make any suggestions to the meal plan. If he were to devise a meal plan that included a few new things every so often (ie not rotation of shepherds pie, pasta etc) that everyone liked I would gladly make it. But I ask him every week for suggestions of things he'd like and he can't think of a thing.

Although I do admit apricot in tagine is not my favourite thing.

Sweet and savoury together = genious.
Bacon, mapel syrup and pancakes anyone? Or Turkey, brie and cranberry....

This thread is quite literally making my mouth water

My DH wouldn't eat that, so I would direct him to the kitchen to make himself something else. You can't insist on someone eating food they dislike or don't want to eat, but you can insist on not offering alternatives.

Fridge thataway...

He has agreed to try it, whats the problem?

I won't eat sweet with savoury or sweet & sour,..I just don't want to, whether it is made for me or not.

I think that you should do somthing for yourself & the kids a coupl of times a week tbh.

It doesn't seem fair that your meals are also limited,especially if he can't/won't even come up with suggestions for himself!

Thanks OP. I have found my people here. Everyone I know puts raisins in rice and apricots in stuffing. Fucking weirdos. I live in Canada as well so bloody maple syrup on EVERYTHING. Candied salmon! You heard me, sugary fish.

Sweet and savoury can never be together. Lemon chicken doesn't count, as lemons are savoury in my world (and can't go in desserts).

What, no lemon cheesecake?!

I think if you are grilling/frying thehe halloumi it won't be such a great combination because watermelon is best eaten cold from the fridge, which is why it works so well with feta. It's different from serving a salad with say, hot chicken and leaves because salad leaves can be wilted and still taste good.

That aside, I think when you are the main carer/food maker for small children you're so used to eating leftover breadsticks or weetabix, or cold pasta - standing up - that the idea of expressing a preference when someone offers you food is a bit alien. Whereas your DH is still under the impression he has the luxury of choice.

Bastard.

I hate duck or chicken a l'orange, duck with cherry sauce, pineapple in any savoury meal, fruit in curry, apricots with lamb, pork or goose with apple, having tried them all. I do like cranberry sauce with turkey and sweet/savoury sauces such as balsamic or honey and mustard dressings though.

lemons are savoury in my world (and can't go in desserts).

Blasphemy.

The lemon is the Meryl Streep of the fruit and veg world, endlessly versatile.

Lemon is the meryl Streep of the entire food world. Everything it touches turns to gold.