To divorce DH over this?

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DH is incredibly fussy.

For supper I am making a watermelon, halloumi and bulgur wheat salad (I know, but I meal planned when it was boiling hot). He likes all of these things separately, not just tolerates they are high on his favourites. But he does not like the idea of fruit with savoury. He has made it very clear that he is sceptical about it but has agreed to try it.

AIBU to think that he could just eat the watermelon and savoury parts in separate mouthfuls (the salad will literally be chunks of watermelon, halloumi, bulgur parsley and pumpkin seeds - dressing on the side )and just not say anything?

Just one question, Op: WHY THE HELL ARE YOU COOKING FOR THIS MAN??
Is it the 1950s and I've just ended up here by mistake?

Make him cook his own bloody food.

If your dh is that fussy then perhaps he needs to step up and do some of the meal planning and cooking. Must be a PITA cooking for him if he whinges and picks at things like a fussy child.

I have told him he has to do the meal plan and food shop for next week.

We will likely end up with a week of oven pizzas.

And to answer earlier question DH does not cook, food shop or make any suggestions to the meal plan. If he were to devise a meal plan that included a few new things every so often (ie not rotation of shepherds pie, pasta etc) that everyone liked I would gladly make it. But I ask him every week for suggestions of things he'd like and he can't think of a thing.

So there's your problem. Suggest that he takes responsibility for at least a few nights a week. Often people don't realise the amount of time and effort that goes into meal planning unless they do it themselves. I always ask my dh and dc for suggestions for meals for the week - helps them to get involved (even if ds asks for meatballs every week) and think about healthy balanced meals. Well. That's the intention anyway!

I'm with you OP. I don't particularly like cooking every night, but I do because I'm the one home in time to do it. DH eats what he's given and is grateful (enough). He likes some meals better than others, obviously (and so do I). Sometimes I make something he especially likes, sometimes something I prefer. We both eat it and survive. I wouldn't cook something he loathes, nor something I loathe, but if I try something new and it's not great, he doesn't complain. If I didn't, meals would be deadly boring.

Good news, OP! But tell him meals have to be balanced and no cheating by having the same 2 nights running...

I've told him he has to make sure it's healthy, vegetables that DCs will eat, something new or at least not recently eaten. I will be so shocked if he manages all that for five of us for £60 including lunches for everyone every day and loo roll etc. it takes me bleeding ages every week!

Good for you op. As much as I disliked your salad, your DH needs to be more involved in meal planning and shopping.

The only problem with him doing the meal plan is veryone again being limited by his fussiness.

You do somtimes do different stuff for you & the kids, don't you?

When no one here has suggestions I cook what I like!

To his credit DH has done a meal plan. Not very adventurous but there is something kind of new on there and I think everyone will like it.

Now to see if he can make it come in under budget (there is NO way he will).

And yes I do sometimes do different stuff for me and the DC although not much to be honest. Being very upfront I have a bit of a complex as his DM was just the most perfect mother and wife of all time (read subservient) and cooked them all different meals that they liked every night. I know it's crazy but it makes me feel crap if DH is not getting as good treatment at home (which is not DH's fault at all he does not expect it) even though I work FT and she did not. I don't like it about myself at all and I know it is the path to becoming such a martyr but I can't help it.

He's an adult though.

I don't think that it's a big ask for him to cook for himself so that you & the kids aren't limited by his likes.

Could be his mum didn't do him any favours by cooking different stuff for them all.