To divorce DH over this?

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DH is incredibly fussy.

For supper I am making a watermelon, halloumi and bulgur wheat salad (I know, but I meal planned when it was boiling hot). He likes all of these things separately, not just tolerates they are high on his favourites. But he does not like the idea of fruit with savoury. He has made it very clear that he is sceptical about it but has agreed to try it.

AIBU to think that he could just eat the watermelon and savoury parts in separate mouthfuls (the salad will literally be chunks of watermelon, halloumi, bulgur parsley and pumpkin seeds - dressing on the side )and just not say anything?

But everyone can try it. A bowl with melon in, a bowl with bulgar wheat and halloumi on their plates. Then everyone can eat how they want

Oh and yes definetly divorce him, but get custody of the water melon

I am not particuarly fussy, but there is something that makes my heart fall when people put fruit in salad.

I love a good salad. Salad with fruit in is not a good salad.

Maybe I'm in a strange mood but I don't like how you've used the word "divorce" over such a trivial and stupid thing. Why would anyone use that term in a lighthearted way?
Just put the watermelon aside for him. It's not rocket science is it.

I often have grapes & feta in a salad.

And tomatoes!

Mozzarella & tomatoes.

Does that count as fruit & savoury??!!

watery watermelon with halloumi and bulgar wheat, no.
YABU

Not keen on fruit in my dinner but I would eat it at a friends as I am a guest, but I am not a guest in my own home. If DP made this I would eat it and probably say "thanks but it was not my sort of thing" but I would find it very rude if knowing I disliked it he continued to make it and expect me to eat like a good little girl.

I detest sweet and savoury together. I was recently on holiday in the Canadian Rockies and had some lovely meals there, although I avoided cooked breakfasts as they tend to put maple syrup on what would otherwise be a savoury dish. However the worst thing I had was a side of coleslaw, (with dinner) which tasted as though it was just a mixture of shredded carrot, white cabbage, cream and sugar! Yeeeeuk! That's not what I call coleslaw.

Sounds ming and a bit pretentious

Now I'm doubting the meal myself! Maybe I'll do it with feta and DH can have a piece of bread.

Gosh, I was thinking this morning I am so middle-class as to be out of synch entirely with the world. Then I read For supper I am making a watermelon, halloumi and bulgur wheat salad... and realised I'm scum. Thanks, OP.

Seriously though, why make a fuss if the dislike in question is something as common as not liking sweet and savoury together? (Personally I think those who feel the need to bung something sweet and sugary in every dish are the weirdos, but there you go). And as simple as having one ingredient of a salad in a separate dish so everyone can add it if they wish.

With fussy eating in general, I'm with you. Perhaps this meal is a bad example of his fussyness.

But I like the separate ingredients, particularly halloumi. But not together! I like pineapple, I like pizza but I would never have pineapple on a pizza.

My husband eats almost everything, including avocado at a push, but I leave it out of his salads because he doesn't really like it - I'm not sure why the fact that I am chopping up a bit of veg makes me the arbiter of what he, or indeed anyone else should eat. I feel the same way about my son's diet though and never present him with a meal that I know he will have a fundamental aversion to either.

[Can't you give him something as an alternative to the melon, like tomato?]

Which is a fruit.

Yes of course. I have said I would not plan to make something I kbeq anyone actively disliked.

Ha I was just about to post re tomatoes being a fruit and you find them in salad! And all these people saying no to sweet and savoury together do you eat Asian food? Middle Eastern? Quince paste or chutney with your cheese?

I don't eat chutney with cheese no.

I agree that it might be the texture of the watermelon that means it wouldn't go well.

Just put it separately for everyone.

Put some cucumber in, then he's having fruit in it!!

My DH would explode in a mushroom cloud of working class righteousness if presented with a watermelon, halloumi and bulgur wheat salad.

He wouldn't even know what halloumi is. I don't even know what halloumi is.

(My DH is the most middle class bloke you ever met. Yet proclaims his working classness from the rooftops and sneers at things he sees as "Middle class." These include:

couscous
sushi
skiing
Tuscany (the place itself is allowed to exist, it's just going there on holiday that is middle class)

and would definitely include halloumi, watermelon and bulgur wheat.

So what is halloumi?

Pickiness isn't a choice, and to be constantly under pressure to eat outside what you cand tolerate is a lot of stress.

It was a major trigger for the anorexia I suffered in my teens and I had to explain to DH that I was slipping back that way when he was trying to 'train' me to like other foods.

Let him choose what food he likes.

Tomatoes are used and eaten as a vegetable though, in spite of it actually being a fruit. Nobody eats a tomato dessert because it has a savoury taste. Like rhubarb is eaten as a fruit although it's actually a vegetable.

So what is halloumi?

One of the best ever cheeses! Grill it or put it on the BBQ.

Watermelon in salad is lovely. I've done it with feta cheese before and no one has complained. We would have had the salad with either burger (no bun) or lamb chop before now.

I've also put apple in salads before, and then mixed in a tin of mackerel. I have no issue with mixing sweet fruit with savoury, it's a nice combination.

Does he do anything towards mealtimes at all?

Make suggstions?

Cook for himself so that you & the kids can eat something of your choosing not his?