To think that if you don't have the appropriate bra don't wear the dress?

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Out and about yesterday I saw so many women with their bras on show - and not a bra strap peeping out on a shoulder, the whole bloody thing in some cases. Strapless tops with strapped bras, backless dresses with bra straps going across the middle of the back, halter necks with strapped bras, you name it, it was all on show - and in many cases there were combinations of low back, halter straps and a normal bloody bra. This wasn't confined to the young either - so I don't think it was some kind of fashion thing [old gimme emoticon]

It's underwear isn't it? Meaning it goes under the clothes? There are halter neck bras, strapless bras, backless bras etc so it's not like its impossible. I appreciate some dresses/tops aren't designed to be worn with any kind of bra so either go without or don't buy the dress or top! I've put many an item back when I've realised I won't be able to wear sufficient scaffolding support with it.

AIBU to think it's not that hard to dress so your bra isn't totally on show?

so the message is...women, dress for other women, follow fashion, and always consider how other people would like you to look. And if you cant afford a vast array of different underwear, or arent comfortable in certain styles, cover yourelf up or stay home, cos mners will get irritated, annoyed and judge you harshly if your appearance doesnt meet their standards.
how fucking depressing.

winter, amazing extrapolation there.

Many on these thread already say they don't care what others think of their sartorial style. And others like me are just expressing our opinion. It does not go any further than that.

not that amazing, since its practically direct quoting

Better supported with visible pretty bra than unfettered and drooping!

But why does this matter so much to people ? I am so comfortable with my unfettered and droopy boobs. Why should I truss myself up in a strip of irritating fabric to please the eye of others ?

bloody hell.
it is hot. not everyone has extensive coordinated wardrobes.
there are days you just have to get through.
but now i shall add the occasional flash of bra to the list of things to shame me in public. i probably should stay home so i dont risk embarassing the family and dishonouring our name

Let's face it, this thread is just split into three factions; those who have bra straps showing is one - those who are offering some good tips, two - and those who just really want to say some comments that aren't very nice, using safety in numbers, about women in general not looking good for a variety of reasons, they can't stand alone and say it nor ever would without somebody with them...

Ach, again, nobody's talking about the occasional flash of bra. As I type, my (black) bra strap is visible on my shoulder. I haven't bother to hoick it out of sight (yet).

It's the deliberate selection of clothing for which one has no suitable underwear that is under discussion.

I don't understand "strapless plus bra straps" or "backless plus bra band". It defeats the whole point of the top/dress. For example, a backless dress is, IMO, supposed to elongate, to be seductive, to reveal a smooth expanse of skin, to tease. A strapless dress is, IMO, supposed to enhance a creamy decolletage, smooth shoulders, hollowed collarbones.

Neither of those can be achieved by the addition of a bra strap/back.

winter, you have reason to be depressed if you insist on reading the thread in this way.

I'm quite excited at the statement Primark do bras in all sizes - I'll nip along for a 36j will I?

The more trashy they look, the more classy you look. Just tut and feel superior.

Insist on reading it that way? If youre reading it any other way you cant read at all. Its actually titled; if you dont have the appropriate bra dont wear the dress! Its chock full of comments about how ridiculous people look, how they shouldnt wear this or that,how annoying it is, how they should wear something else.
Its not an interpretation, its all there in black and white.
How about y'all just concern yourselves with your own underwear and leave everyone elses underwear to them?

I do, neli

maid: "It's the deliberate selection of clothing for which one has no suitable underwear that is under discussion."

This.

I don't buy a low back dress without considering the style and colour of the underwear that has to go with it. Frequently, I choose styles that do not have a low back precisely because I do not have or want to wear the complicated underwear that goes with it.

And as maid says, many dresses do not allow the wearing of any underwear. My wedding dress had a plunge back and I was bra-less - oh the days.

I think the high street (ASOS - I am looking at you) has a lot to answer for. So many needless cut outs.

No idea why those who are saying exposed bra straps look good are saying they don't have a choice, because "not everyone has extensive co-ordinated wardrobes."

I own the grand total of three bras (aside from sports bras). Two nude, one black.

I just choose not to wear them with strapless things because I think it looks daft.

"it is hot."

Not here it isn't.

I think MaidOfStars has summed it up perfectly.

I just choose not to wear them with strapless things because I think it looks daft.

Which is fine and dandy. However if someone else didn't think it looked daft and/or chose to wear them, what business is it of anyone elses to tell them they shouldn't do so?

There is some odd comment upthread about backless dresses meant to be seductive, and strapless is teasing...and the wrong bra ruins that. So now we're meant to dress as to be as fuckable as possible, and no spoil the seductiveness with our choice of underwear? wtf?

I don't understand "strapless plus bra straps" or "backless plus bra band". It defeats the whole point of the top/dress. For example, a backless dress is, IMO, supposed to elongate, to be seductive, to reveal a smooth expanse of skin, to tease. A strapless dress is, IMO, supposed to enhance a creamy decolletage, smooth shoulders, hollowed collarbones.

That reads quite creepily to be perfectly frank, 'hollowed collarbones' It honestly makes me want to have both visible bra straps in saggy elephantine grey and also festoon my skin with bits of coloured duct tape, feathers and tinsel, just to make sure I wasn't seducing or 'teasing' anyone with my choice of garments.

I did actually deliberately make a very odd top and bra choice this morning purely because this thread has fucked me off so much

my pretty bras deserve to be seen, imo.

and my boobs are great.

i think the haters are just jealous

Why would she be joking? If she wants to show her bra thats her own affair.

odd comment upthread about backless dresses meant to be seductive

That reads quite creepily to be perfectly frank

shrugs

I think clothes are made to show off particular attributes. Why wear a backless dress if you don't want your back to get attention?

Cos you're hot, maybe? Cos you like it? For a hundred other reasons than to be "seductive" ?

Cos you're hot, maybe? Cos you like it?

Not sure a backless dress is the most obvious way to cool down, but whatever.

Liking it is valid. But if you like a backless dress, why would you make it "non backless" by plonking a bra back across it?

Because you feel like it. No either reason necessary. If we're talking obvious reasoning, then I don't think being seductive and teasing is the most obvious reason you're wearing anything to go to Lidl or do the school run......

Apparently this woman is quite fashionable and likes the look:

bra out at the back

bra out everywhere

black bra under white lace

bra plus liberaces coat