To think that if you don't have the appropriate bra don't wear the dress?

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Out and about yesterday I saw so many women with their bras on show - and not a bra strap peeping out on a shoulder, the whole bloody thing in some cases. Strapless tops with strapped bras, backless dresses with bra straps going across the middle of the back, halter necks with strapped bras, you name it, it was all on show - and in many cases there were combinations of low back, halter straps and a normal bloody bra. This wasn't confined to the young either - so I don't think it was some kind of fashion thing [old gimme emoticon]

It's underwear isn't it? Meaning it goes under the clothes? There are halter neck bras, strapless bras, backless bras etc so it's not like its impossible. I appreciate some dresses/tops aren't designed to be worn with any kind of bra so either go without or don't buy the dress or top! I've put many an item back when I've realised I won't be able to wear sufficient scaffolding support with it.

AIBU to think it's not that hard to dress so your bra isn't totally on show?

Oh please.

It's hot and sticky and frankly I don't care one bit if my bra straps show a bit.

I'm huge of nork

Couldn't read anymore for laughing my tits off at that

Yanbu anyway. Fancy giving a fuck about something so irrelevant.

There was a trend a few years ago, of having brightly-coloured, pretty bra straps showing under a strappy top. That still looks fine.
But these strapless/halternecked/low backed items don't just happen to be in your wardrobe do they? If I'm shopping I just avoid anything that won't go with any of the bras I own, except maybe for a special occasion, but the dress or top would have to be pretty spectacular and supportive for me to be prepared to dedicate a shopping trip in order to find the right bra ( yes I have done that).

And no, it doesn't matter in the scheme of things; I don't really care what others do, but I don't understand how it happens. It's easy to just not buy the thing in the first place if you don't have suitable underwear.

Well i don't have any grey bras, not even sure i own a white one...
Strapless ones i don't feel secure in.
halternecks iv already said, they bring on headaches or migraines for me, so id rather wear a normal bra than suffer with that for a few days.
Thankfully non of my group of friends judge.

As for backless bras, those to me are just shit, id rather show a bit of my bra.

Shotgun " don't really care what others do, but I don't understand how it happens. It's easy to just not buy the thing in the first place if you don't have suitable underwear."

I wear those sorts of dresses at home with no bra. I wouldn't go out with them on but I can imagine some women do, especially when it's been unusually hot for the UK, and just fling on a bra that they have, which won't go with the dress because they never intended to wear it out.

backless bras are ludicrously uncomfortable for me, so sometimes it will be a case of picking the cheapest summer dress and who cares if the bra shows? Some of us don't dress to be style icons.

SuperFlyHigh I think it's comfy enough. It's tight, but it has to be to stay up. I feel relieved at then end of the day when I take it off, but only cos of the tightness. If you can get to debenhams and try it on then maybe you could see how it compares to your other one.

Pleased to see that Fashion Police numbers do not appear to have been affected negatively by government cuts.

We can all sleep safe in our beds, in our appropriate nightwear, of course, knowing that these people are working tirelessly on our behalf to protect us from fashion faux pas.

The wonderbra runs small in the band sparta so ime you're probably about right with the 30e. I have it in a 32g when I normally wear around a 30hh and it knocks spots off everything else I've tried. I've also heard good things about the curvy Kate luxe

I find it particularly annoying when you see women who are a B/C cup who have access to reasonably priced bras in a rainbow of colours and shapes.

How do you know what size they are? Are you a professional bra fitter?

Seeing as professional bra fitters can mis-measure my boobs by up to four cups sizes, I doubt you are much more skilled than them.

OP, YABU, it is hard to get bras in my size, and they are expensive. I don't feel the need to buy a different bra for each outfit and it doesn't make me feel uncomfortable. Your problem, get over it.

YANBU. Why on earth would someone buy a strapless/halterneck dress unless they had a strapless/halterneck bra to go with it (or were prepared to go braless)? Baffling! It's like wearing a short skirt with ankle-length popsocks, or French knickers poking out under your hotpants.

Oh for goodness sake! you don't have to be a bra fitter to guess that someone might be a A, B or C cup!

MamaLazarou - yes! To me it's the same thing.

Whole bra on show with a strapless dress is on a par with popsocks and a short skirt. Or big black knickers under pale trousers. Or a bright red thong poking out above tight black leggings. Or a robust sports bra with a silky cami top. Etc.

I just don't know why you would do it. As a pp said, strapless dresses don't just end up in your wardrobe by accident. So why buy one if you haven't got a bra to go with them, and don't want to go braless? Would you buy white linen trousers if the only knickers you owned were red shorts, and you didn't intend on buying more?

Oh I fucking hate threads like this! We are our own worst enemies - women. We judge each other so harshly on appearances, it makes me so cross.
Life is short, I intend to live mine to the fullest therefore I don't give a flying toss what anyone else wears; whether they've got a fluorescent pink bra with a wedding dress, whether they've got no bra on or a bunny rabbit strapped to their chest, ears taped over nipples for the sake of decency.

Do people honestly care about this stuff? Ye gods, live and let live eh? I've said this before but people should wear whatever the hell they like if it makes them happy. Corsets were also undergarments but steampunks consider them essential outerwear. Bikini straps are always visible and no one has gone blind in horror. But a bra strap? Avert thine eyes at this abomination!

Whole bra on show with a strapless dress is on a par with popsocks and a short skirt. Or big black knickers under pale trousers. Or a bright red thong poking out above tight black leggings. Or a robust sports bra with a silky cami top. Etc

Bravo to all of those

Maybe we should have actual fashion police, they could be situated at quid g points and quiz people as to the suitability of the underwear they own wrt the garment they intend to purchase.

Is it so hard to understand that while you are busy judging some of us just do not care? Not because I don't care about my appearance, I do actually, but only to the extent that it pleases me, couldn't give one tiny fuck what a passing stranger may think.

I'm not judging anyone. I just find it a bit weird.

Unless it's a sports bra and you're at the gym / running / similar, I do think it's a bit tacky, sorry. It's like those god awful notches on the back of jeans which they had in the 90s, designed to show the back of your thong (I was a tacky teenager).

I wouldn't show my pants off, I wouldn't show my bra off.

I like the look of a halter neck top and bra straps, on some people, depending on how the whole outfit is put together.

I've struggled to buy clothes this year. Ideally I would of bought maxi dresses with small sleeves, I found two.

So yesterday I wore a strapless maxi from New Look and wore a normal bra, I wore a sheer kimono over it.

I push my Mum around in a wheelchair, have my 6 month old GD, work and go to the gym daily, so I need flat sanldles/pumps/trainers.

I don't "lunch", my outfit does me all day.

If the clothes were available, I'd "dress better for the weather".

But as they aren't, I'll make do and get on with living my life.

Go and work in Stroke Care/Adult aquired disabilities and you'll stop caring about the crap your filling your head with.

The only thing I like about French Woman (and I have French relatives) is that they don't adhere to anyone's notion of what/how they should be.

Go and work in Stroke Care/Adult aquired disabilities and you'll stop caring about the crap your filling your head with.

That's really rather a nasty thing to say.

Yes it is, it's pure lashing out and disproportionate to silly judgements that really don't matter.

""That's really rather a nasty thing to say""

No, it isn't. Telling other Women what they should concern themselves with, looking as good as they can, or rather how a few less confident want them to look, is nasty.

Try getting up of a morning and get yourself about your business, whilst trying to be kind and non judgemental and stop with the assumptions.

Yours and everyone that you come into contact with, will have a much more pleasant day, regardless of what underwear your wearing.

A lot of people's lack of confidence is because they've grown up listening to this crap and think that it's the end of the world if they aren't "putting on a good front" constantly.

Your life can dramatically change at any time and all the worries and gripes that you have today won't matter and you'll look back and realise that you should of been counting your blessings and getting on with things.

Like when you look back at your teen self and wonder why you didn't realise how good you (and your friends) looked.

you don't have to be a bra fitter to guess that someone might be a A, B or C cup!

I'm a DD/E cup and most people would think I'm hardly a B, unless I wear really tight clothes.

It would be interesting to test your skills.

""Silly judgements that really don't matter."

Since when did a judgement not matter when you think you can tell other women what they should and should not leave the house wearing.

Yes, it's s silly judgement, one that should be dismissed.

These are people (although female) that have whole lives going on. Some of us have bigger/other concerns than underwear.

We all judge each other on our outfits.
Most women also judge men who wear sandals, shorts, socks with sandals, bare chests, vests and so on.

For those who can only afford one good bra, I'd choose a strapless with detachable straps. That way you can wear it with a large range of clothes.