To think that if you don't have the appropriate bra don't wear the dress?

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Out and about yesterday I saw so many women with their bras on show - and not a bra strap peeping out on a shoulder, the whole bloody thing in some cases. Strapless tops with strapped bras, backless dresses with bra straps going across the middle of the back, halter necks with strapped bras, you name it, it was all on show - and in many cases there were combinations of low back, halter straps and a normal bloody bra. This wasn't confined to the young either - so I don't think it was some kind of fashion thing [old gimme emoticon]

It's underwear isn't it? Meaning it goes under the clothes? There are halter neck bras, strapless bras, backless bras etc so it's not like its impossible. I appreciate some dresses/tops aren't designed to be worn with any kind of bra so either go without or don't buy the dress or top! I've put many an item back when I've realised I won't be able to wear sufficient scaffolding support with it.

AIBU to think it's not that hard to dress so your bra isn't totally on show?

I find all sorts of fashion baffling and therefore, I wouldn't wear it.

Other people's choices? None of my business. I'd never dare to presume the right to tell other people how to dress.

It's just bits of fabric. I can't get excited about it.

I'm with soupdragon.

YANBU some people don't care & some genuinely don't have any fashion sense!

I attended a Wedding recently where woman was wearing a backless dark dress with a white (grey) bra, how anyone thinks that looks ok, I don't know.

But then again I am a control freak who couldn't possibly NGAF so it winds me right up.

I'm with soupdragon too.

Eh who cares? What an odd thing to worry about!

Soupdragon's on the money. So much of the bra strap showing is not about choosing, e.g. green strap against purple top, but more often frankly slack.

Let's wind this back and see how much we luurve men's undies being on show.

Thought not.

Couldn't give a fuck.
I wear halter tops without halter bras as they give me a headache.
I also wear low back tops with my bras on show.
I couldn't give a toss.
I wouldn't go without a bra, but because of this i shouldn't buy the dress/top incase i offend someone by showing off my bra?
Fuck that

YANBU it's just weird. Why buy nice clothes if your underwear is going to make you look rubbish anyway? If you want to be comfortable then you don't need to wear strapless dresses and jumpsuits! They just don't realise how grotty it looks, I reckon.
I'm almost every day at work in the summer, seeing women in their twenties and thirties with smallish boobs wearing visible greyish bras. (And I know that's horribly ageist, but I think it's inexcusable for anyone younger than me; I'm slightly more tolerant otherwise)

I too agree with Soup Dragon.

I'd rather be slack than spend my time giving a fuck about what other people wear.

I wouldn't go without a bra, but because of this i shouldn't buy the dress/top incase i offend someone by showing off my bra?
Fuck that

Personally I think that anyone who is offended should go get a bucketful of grips.

However, I don't understand not wearing the erght shaped bra for a dress. Isn't the point of a halterneck the shape of the halterneck? Standard bra straps ruin the line. Ditto backless and strapless.

Having the bra straps showing underneath the straps of the top is different - they're just visible rather than ruining the shape. I wear ordinary bras under strappy tops and don't care if the straps are visible provided they follow the same line. Of course, some people think this is also wrong.

It doesn't look good but if people don't care what they look like (or do care but have bad taste) it is up to them.

YABU maybe you should be worrying about why you're worrying rather than worrying about other people.

I'd rather be slack than spend my time giving a fuck about what other people wear.

I don't give a fuck, I just wonder why in a passing thought kind of way.

Another here with Soupdragon. I am generous of boob and everything else unfortunately and don't get on with strapless bras. I therefore don't own any strapless tops and have managed not to melt in the heat because my tops all have decent straps to hide my old, grey, scaffolding

Of course we are all BU to judge what anyone else wears as long as they are not breaking any decency rules but hey we're human aren't we? Opinions like arseholes and all that?

Bloody hell. I can't even afford food at the moment let alone a suitable bra to hide behind each of my cheap and ancient summer tops.

I cant believe how many women think its any of their business whst other women wear. I dont dress for your approval, and I couldnt give a shiny shit whether you think my underwear is appropriate for my clothing. The fact that you spend even a second thinking about the appropriateness or look of other womens bras, let alone debate it online, is bizarre and more than a little pathetic.

I don't get it either, particularly strapless tops with scrappy bras, it's not just the straps on show, the whole shaping is wrong.

But there are a huge range of designs on the high street (Zara is a particularly regular offender here) where tops and dresses are cut with no way to wear any kind of bra at all. I have one from Zara which has slightly racing back and v.low cut at front and under arms, I have loads of shapes of bras and not one of them isn't sticking out somewhere looking rubbish when I wear it. It's sheer laziness on the part of designers.

I'm quite old (55) so I was brought up with the Idea that bra straps should never be seen. I've got to say, I've got over this in the last few years, along with wearing tights and high heels. Wearing a strapless dress with bra straps showing is a step to far for me though.
I couldn't care less what other people do though. It's only a bra, no different to a bikini top really.

YABU.

I cannot imagine why you'd give the first fuck about what other women are wearing. It's this sort of picking at women that makes us paranoid about appearance. Sorry OP if it bothers you that all women don't conform to your levels of acceptable presentation, how upsetting. Personally I've got too much interesting stuff going on in my life to spend my time sneering at complete strangers for their clothing choices. You crack on though.

I try and wear brightly coloured sports bras nowadays and think it's kind of cool to have a neon pink bra strap showing to the side of my black vest top. Am I sad?