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AIBU?

To think that Waitrose should not ask my 23y DS for ID for fruit&veg delivery

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funnyperson · 04/07/2015 17:20

My foot fractured so when the local Waitrose home delivery came this morning my bearded DS went down in his pyjamas to answer the door. The delivery boy asked if he was over 18 years and DS said (truthfully) he was. I was then astonished to hear the delivery boy asking for DS's identification. This is probably our 15th waitrose home delivery, prepaid, mainly fruit and veg, milk and eggs, no alcohol cigarettes or medicines in the delivery. I asked DS to ask the delivery man to come upstairs and asked him why he was requesting ID. He said because if someone looks ver 25 and it is a delivery pf alcohol we need to see ID. I said but you have the list in your hand to be signed off and can see there is no alcohol/cigarettes etc. I signed the form.
AIBU to think my 23 yo son should not have to produce his passport to the local delivery of fruit and veg on a Saturday morning? Especially given it wasnt the first delivery? Abel and Cole simply leave their fruit and veg with my DD who is 21 and have never requested ID.

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MaggieJoyBlunt · 04/07/2015 19:34

There are plenty of us who were routinely IDed into our 30s.

It's irritating, it happens, get a large grip.

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NerrSnerr · 04/07/2015 19:38

It is in the terms and conditions! Do you honestly think he woke up this morning and thought 'do you know what? I'm going to really annoying a random lady today by IDing her son'?

Why on earth is this such I big deal? I'm 32, I got asked for ID recently and the meter reader asked me if my parents were home the other day. If I got this cross every time it happened it would be exhausting!!

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MaggieJoyBlunt · 04/07/2015 19:42

It's along the same lines as calling someone doing work in your house 'the little man/woman'.

Or worse; "house boy".

and god knows what relevance having lived in the house for 25 years is supposed to have

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NobodyLivesHere · 04/07/2015 19:42

'Get out more' is a turn of phrase, not intended literally. Obviously. And given the fact OP has a fractured foot and not quadraplegia, I dont think it's insensitive.

It's not hassle or demeaning. It's the shops policy. Get over it.

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ItsNotAsPerfectAsItSeems · 04/07/2015 19:44

Can I ask again, why it's in the T&Cs? I'm curious to know why as it's not a credit agreement. The money has already changed hands.

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MrsWooster · 04/07/2015 19:47

I really hope that some of the people on here who are getting REALLY UPSET come home one day to find that their 9 yr old has ordered and taken delivery of 2000 quids worth of chocolate and fruit shoots and is having a massive party with 25 of their closest friends. It's in the t&c's, it's not a big deal, get a grip.

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MrsWooster · 04/07/2015 19:49

Also money doesn't change hands until delivery is complete or not with Ocado anyway

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Enkopkaffetak · 04/07/2015 19:49

Did you have eggs and flour in there? Plenty of shops wont sell that to under age.

The T&C says over 18 He was id. For this,

Yes the delivery man may have been a bit over zealous when he said the policy is for alcohol. However he does need to know that the person is over 18 an ID can sort this.

It is not just tobacco and alcohol that falls under restricted products

Amongst others

Christmas crackers
Party poppers and similar low-hazard low-noise fireworks (category 1)
Lottery tickets
Video/DVD recordings/Games: classification 12/15/18
Volatile substances / solvents (this can include glue)
Aerosol spray paint

Like I said many shops wont sell Flour and egg to under age people.

I actually think the delivery man was correct. He asked for an id as he has to challenge 25. When asked to come up to see you he did so and took your signature. In my opinion he was helpful.

so I think YABU.

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funnyperson · 04/07/2015 19:51

iaflaa I didn't call him the delivery boy to his face and I wasn't rude and condescending to him and no I don't care if he gets the sack. I don't think he should get the sack incidentally as he was probably trained up to act as he did and that is a decision for his line manager. Not reading the delivery list isn't the worlds worst crime. However I'm fed up with unnecessarily officious people like I said in my OP. If he gets the sack he can always get a job with the police.

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CassieBearRawr · 04/07/2015 19:54

Anyone else ever read An Inspector Calls at school?

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Redglitter · 04/07/2015 20:03

If he gets the sack he can always get a job with the police

oh charming! I find that quite offensive

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LashesandLipstick · 04/07/2015 20:05

Did you have eggs and flour in there? Plenty of shops wont sell that to under age.

What why?! I feel like I'm missing something here

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CassieBearRawr · 04/07/2015 20:06

My local force are full of ex delivery drivers. Think it's a requirement, given they're such similar roles.

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Redglitter · 04/07/2015 20:06

Because they might get up to mood good with them - throwing them at windows etc. Ridiculous isn't it

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LashesandLipstick · 04/07/2015 20:09

Redglitter

I didn't even think of that! My thought was "what's wrong with kids making cakes?!"

Showing my naivety!

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NerrSnerr · 04/07/2015 20:10

OP- are you remotely aware of how you are coming across here? You sound really unpleasant.

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TurnItIn · 04/07/2015 20:24

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ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 04/07/2015 20:32

Under the Criminal Justice Act 1988 (as amended by the Offensive Weapons Act 1996) and the Violent Crime Reduction Act 2006, it is an offence for a person to sell to a person under the age of 18:

"16 to 18 year olds in Scotland can buy cutlery and kitchen knives"

www.gov.uk/buying-carrying-knives

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Pumpkinpositive · 04/07/2015 20:39

Under the Criminal Justice Act 1988 (as amended by the Offensive Weapons Act 1996) and the Violent Crime Reduction Act 2006, it is an offence for a person to sell to a person under the age of 18:

"16 to 18 year olds in Scotland can buy cutlery and kitchen knives"

What are the poor wee sassanachs to do if they live independently??

I know there can't be that many of them, especially in these straightened times, but it must be an issue for a few...

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WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 · 04/07/2015 20:42

Y'know if you're summoning delivery boys to your boudoir in your nightie to berate them, Waitrose might have a complaint against YOU.
You might find yourself banned from Waitrose home delivery. You'll have to shop at Aldi (the horror)....

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BakingCookiesAndShit · 04/07/2015 20:43

It's in the ts&cs, why does no one ever read the bloody things? Don't like them, don't order anything to be delivered, then you won't be needlessly upset when the little people follow the rules set up to protect terribly important people such as yourself.

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choccywoccywoowah · 04/07/2015 20:55

You sound awful op. Its Waitrose's policy to only deliver to under 18s. Your early 20s son answers the door. Delivery guy asks for id to double check.
WTF is your problem?! You sound unhinged with ridiculous comments about your son being hassled in his own home and treated like a boy. Come on!

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funnyperson · 04/07/2015 20:56

eggs yes, no flour. got flour (spelt) last fortnight.

nerrsnerr obviously anyone who complains risks being called unpleasant.

But do you know what, I'm in my fifties, I'm articulate, and I don't give a fig if I'm called unpleasant. I can be very seriously embarrassingly unpleasant by complaining though I don't usually choose to be. And I've got to the stage when I won't put up with stuff that offends me any more and I complain. If the manager person on the other end of the phone decides to put on one of those nasal sneery voices do you know what I can hold my nose and put on a sneery voice too. In a polite way of course.

I suppose in another 20 years I'll be like my poor parents too frightened to complain. They live down the road. What if my son had answered their door (as often happens) and this chap refused to deliver because DS didnt have his ID on him?

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choccywoccywoowah · 04/07/2015 20:56

Err that should be over 18s obvs

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MaggieJoyBlunt · 04/07/2015 20:57

Maybe T&Cs don't apply to people who have lived here for 25 years (count 'em!)

You know, pillar of the community types.

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