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list of sexual partners

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maxxytoe · 27/06/2015 21:44

so i was over at my friends house earlier this evening. I don't know how we got onto the topic, but she keeps a list of her 'sexual conquests' in the notes on her iPhone Hmm in chronological order
She claims this is normal and everyone has a list
I am confused
Should I have been keeping tabs? Grin

OP posts:
ShipShapeAhoy · 28/06/2015 14:06

I wish Avan Jogia was on my list.

fastdaytears · 28/06/2015 14:07

beedee I will hopefully learn my 2 DD differently

you've overdone it now. You were just about borderline plausible but this is now transparently a wind up...

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 28/06/2015 14:07

I don't think people should start sleeping around in earnest until at least their 20's. I think teenagers are too young and immature to handle all the baggage that goes along with being sexually active.

Wideopenspace · 28/06/2015 14:08

So what are you planning on teaching your DDs bee?

And if they disagree with you and decide they enjoy sex in much the same way some people enjoy tennis, will you be calling them slags?

Wideopenspace · 28/06/2015 14:09
  1. The one who's mum said sex was evil
theDudesmummy · 28/06/2015 14:11

I kept a list when I was young. It is still in a hidden place in a cupboard in my parents' house (it's in code, you would never know what it was!). No I'm not saying how long it is! (It is not however complete, as it only goes up to 1986!).

Roussette · 28/06/2015 14:12

So we're disgusting then are we BeeDee.

It's views like yours that make my blood boil. "sex is dirty. You have to 'save' yourself for the right man. You are a slut, a whore, a slag. Stop kissing that boy, it might lead to something. You'll get a disease if you do that"

Are you one of the Duggars? They had views like that and look at the recent news on them.

LHReturns · 28/06/2015 14:13

Re. 'It depends on how you were brought up'...not sure about this...I am one of the slags you refer to because I have enjoyed sex with lots of lovely men....while my mother has had sex with one man in her entire life, and she always tried to teach me her way was better.

Sorry, to speak Bee's language, she tried to 'learn me' that sex with one person was much better. I just don't agree...possibly more generational rather than how I was brought up.

SoOverItNow · 28/06/2015 14:13

I did keep a little book when was around 16. Who I had snogged etc.

No list from age 17 onwards. To busy shagging around to care about keeping records Grin

2rebecca · 28/06/2015 14:14

I don't think it's anything to do with how you were brought up. My parents only slept with each other to my knowledge and were quite religious. I didn't start having sex until I moved away and became a student. My sex life was nothing to do with them.
I haven't taught my teenagers that you should wait for your one true love before having sex, I have taught/ advised them never to feel coerced in to having sex and to use contraception and protection against STDs (although they know these aren't 100% effective for either), and impressed on my son the fact that if he gets a girl pregnant he gets no say in whether or not she has a TOP and may end up paying child benefit to a kid whose mother he has no relationship with.
I think some people give sex far more importance than I do. The consequences of sex can be life changing, the sex itself rarely is.

YouPooPooBumBum · 28/06/2015 14:15

Is there an actual iPhone app for this? There should be

DioneTheDiabolist · 28/06/2015 14:18

Bee are you having sex with your current DP or are you waiting for him to marry you first?

Backforthis · 28/06/2015 14:20

'people who have managed to bonk her.'

It is so depressing that you think of sex in terms of something a man does to a woman. Sex should be something you are an active participant in. I shag, I fuck, I have sex. I am not the object in the sentence or any other sense. There doesn't seem to be a place for a woman's sexual desire in your world view.

GlitzAndGigglesx · 28/06/2015 14:21

My mum tried to "learn" me too. Can't say it stopped me Grin

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt · 28/06/2015 14:21
  1. The one who fell over afterwards
ExitPursuedByABear · 28/06/2015 14:25

Another disgusting slag signing in.

I had a list in my old filofax. I think I was bored in a meeting once and decided to try and make a chronological list.

Would be fun to find it and have a read.

Happy Days!

CrystalHaze · 28/06/2015 14:29

"beedee I will hopefully learn my 2 DD differently"

you've overdone it now. You were just about borderline plausible but this is now transparently a wind up...

They always do, don't they Wink

Garlick · 28/06/2015 14:30

possibly more generational

Indeedy. After being widowed at 70, my mother became a slag for several years Grin She's in a LTR now, but I'm getting bored with this celibacy lark so might have to take up the reins of elderly slagdom.

Saladspork · 28/06/2015 14:31

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beedeepullen · 28/06/2015 14:35

yeah I agree, you can only teach advise your children differently if you choose to do so.
not to say they will listen.

but like I say it is my personal opinion that I don't agree with "too" many partners. I mean over the 20 mark I find ridiculous.

yes people enjoy sex. but why with so many different partners?

I know its 2015 and times have changed, but a 100 year ago it would of been frowned upon man or woman.
maybes you all find my opinion wrong, or maybe I am just a little old fashioned.

I my self am no angel. but defo not even close to number 10.
I am happy enough going to bed with the same man every night and I think if you have young children, seeing mummy with a different man every weekend could be very confusing.

isn't there anyone on this thread who have kept their numbers below 20 and have a stable relationship with one man??

beedeepullen · 28/06/2015 14:35

yeah I agree, you can only teach advise your children differently if you choose to do so.
not to say they will listen.

but like I say it is my personal opinion that I don't agree with "too" many partners. I mean over the 20 mark I find ridiculous.

yes people enjoy sex. but why with so many different partners?

I know its 2015 and times have changed, but a 100 year ago it would of been frowned upon man or woman.
maybes you all find my opinion wrong, or maybe I am just a little old fashioned.

I my self am no angel. but defo not even close to number 10.
I am happy enough going to bed with the same man every night and I think if you have young children, seeing mummy with a different man every weekend could be very confusing.

isn't there anyone on this thread who have kept their numbers below 20 and have a stable relationship with one man??

Garlick · 28/06/2015 14:37

why with so many different partners

Why not?

It's not like you have a limited store of sex, so you have to be careful and save it up for The One.

PHANTOMnamechanger · 28/06/2015 14:38

1 here (just DH) and I'm proud of it. Married almost 20 years and very happy.

I also feel that people like me, who choose NOT to have many many partners get far more incredulous/judgemental reactions/ridicule than those who say they have slept with 1000s. people often seem to think there is something wrong me or with choosing this way - there isn't.

Wideopenspace · 28/06/2015 14:41

Actually, 100 years ago, I don't think men would have been frowned on at all. Women would have been cast out of polite society.

How many is too many though bee? Just because a number below 10 was your limit doesn't make it right for everyine.

And why the assumption that a mum with young children would make the choice to let them see her go to bed with a different man each weekend? Why not do it on the countertop before picking child up from nursery ?