Page 10 | list of sexual partners

maxxytoe · 2015-06-27T20:44:01+00:00

so i was over at my friends house earlier this evening. I don't know how we got onto the topic, but she keeps a list of her 'sexual conquests' in the notes on her iPhone [hmm] in chronological order She claims this is normal and everyone has a list I am confused Should I have been keeping tabs? [grin]

keeptothewhiteline · 28/06/2015 16:38

Eew. I'm no prude but it adds a whole new dimension to a sticky bar.

Dogsarebetter · 28/06/2015 16:47

In fairness, you had to be covered in the bar area and weren't allowed to 'do' anything anyone so I didn't see much, but at the end of the night when we had to venture out of the bar area to collect glasses from the rooms it could be eye opening

keeptothewhiteline · 28/06/2015 16:48

Did you enjoy the job?

Roussette · 28/06/2015 16:53

Bee there is not one town centre I could walk into where a group of men could say they had all slept with me, mine were all spread about the world nicely.

Of course it is your choice to not sleep with anyone but you don't know what you're missing. I have been married forever but I look back on my free and single time with a big smile on my face, I had a blast. I enjoy sex, I love that I have experienced many different men, I have no sexual hang ups and I was ready for marriage when it came about eventually

Even the words from you 'sleeping around' has connotations. Stop judging others, we aren't judging you.

Dogsarebetter · 28/06/2015 16:53

I actually loved it! They were the most fun, non judgemental group of people I've ever met, they also have some of the best marriages I've ever seen, which I know probably sounds totally bizarre but they have 100% trust and respect for each other. I couldn't do what they do (what's mine is mine ) but after talking to them I understand why they do it :)

mrsdavidbowie · 28/06/2015 17:04

Just laughing at bee and her Mary Whitehouse outlook.
I am in my fifties and have had about 35- 40 partners.....and they were between the ages of 18 and 33. Never had an STI. Average of 3 a year..hardly Jezebel.

Newly divorced, there might be a few more.

beedeepullen · 28/06/2015 17:12

I have not had a personal dig at anyone on here. If anyone thinks it was aimed at them directly then i apologize. But i have called no one a slag. I did say that where i live you would be named a slag. Which is a word i hate or even hate to use. It was only a comment nothing personal to any of you ladies. It was not aimed at no one directly. All though i do feel as if i am being targeted for having my own opinion. Everyone is free to live their life how they choose and if it works for you then good on you. But i am most certainly not heartless in fact i am the total opposite. Hope that clears things up

ahbollocks · 28/06/2015 17:13

my list is less than 10, the only reason for that is that I was too much of a scaredy cat to have a one night stand . Im always a little bit worried that they will erm.. try to murder me or something!
Also of the 9 blokes,4 of them count as unofficial because I will deny to the end of the earth that I ever went anywhere near them.

fastdaytears · 28/06/2015 17:15

bee you need to read your posts again if you don't understand what you actually said. I was insulted because what you said was insulting. I can show up where but honestly I think just read it with a fresh pair of eyes and see.

Wideopenspace · 28/06/2015 17:17

bee - I'm sorry you feel targeted, but some of the things you said were frankly outrageous!
It may not have been targeted to an individual, but it certainly was insulting to a number of others.
Perhaps re read some of your posts?

NobodyLivesHere · 28/06/2015 17:22

beedeepullen

does she have a list of how many times she has been to the sexual health clinic too??

because some one who has had too many partners to remember by mind may have caught a STI or two (geese I feel sick)

keeping a list is not normal.

there's a name for girls who sleep around and I am sorry to say but she sounds like a slag!

she may regret when she is older dropping her nickers more than Dr-Dre drops a beat

So you didn't say this then bee? My mistake.

keeptothewhiteline · 28/06/2015 17:26

bee - just to quote some of your delightful comments:

she sounds like a slag
were you are learned right from wrong and sleeping around is most definitely wrong.
think people who need to sleep around have serious low self esteem OR maybe they
just a total sack of potatoes in the bedroom department therefor no man will stay with them,
hence why she maybe still looking for her prince in shining armour.
its all about setting a example for the next generation.
i dont like the fact of walking into the town centre and a group of men all able to say they have slept with me

isn't there anyone on this thread who have kept their numbers below 20 and have a stable relationship with one man??
You haven't managed that either though. With your latest squeeze only living with with you for a matter of weeks and a parent to two children- what point are you making?

Bogeyface · 28/06/2015 17:32

isn't there anyone on this thread who have kept their numbers below 20 and have a stable relationship with one man??

Yes, me.

It doesnt mean that I judge anyone on this thread who is in higher figures than me, or call them a slag (lovely woman hating phrase there....). Just because there are women out there who are not ashamed of their sexual needs and are happy to indulge them with whomsoever they choose, doesnt mean they are in anyway lacking in morals or self esteem. In fact for the vast majority I would say the opposite. Anyone who can happily have casual sexual encounters for the sheer fun of it and not be ashamed of that has probably got higher self esteem than someone who is constantly worried about what other people think.

A handful of mine were LTR, the rest were most definitely not and more than a few of those were unashamed ONS.

I still dont see the point you are making.

Bogeyface · 28/06/2015 17:33

Oh and I ended up marrying my most recent ONS (well it was supposed to be one with a man I was friends with for years. We are still together.)

LikeIcan · 28/06/2015 17:34

Roussette - I'm a bit jealous, sounds like you've had a fantastic life !

DioneTheDiabolist · 28/06/2015 17:44

What you said Bee:
Sleeping around is definitely wrong. No it's not. It may be wrong for you, but for some people it is most definitely right.
People who need to sleep around have serious low self esteem. No one needs to sleep around. It is a choice that is made and has nothing to do with self esteem. Indeed my self esteem was so solid that I didn't feel the need to play a game where I had to deny my sexual feelings in order to gain approval from the type of people who call women slags.
Or maybe such a total sack of potatoes in the bedroom department therefore no man will stay with them. Most of the women on this thread are in or have been in long term relationships. Why did you feel the need to comment on their sexual prowess in such a negative manner? Do you understand that the choice to be in a relationship or not is one made by both parties, not just the man?
STI written all over it. You only need to have sex with one person to contract a STI. Just because a person is having sex with different people doesn't make it unsafe sex.

You made unpleasant and quite immature comments about women who have had multiple sexual partners. None of which are necessarily true. Of course you are entitled to your opinion, but that doesn't make it true.

msgrinch · 28/06/2015 18:06

Bees posts stink of jealousy, especially as the comments and language are so venomous "slag/slut/sack of potatoes".

I've slept with a fair few men, always safely on a ons, I've had some wonderful fun and if you think I'm a slut then fine.

StarsInTheNightSky · 28/06/2015 18:08

As I said upthread, I am surprised about keeping lists, I either trust my memory or think that if they weren't memorable they don't deserve to be on a list .
When I first became sexually active I had a lot of odd ideas as I had suffered sexual abuse in my teens. I travelled around the world for my job, usually staying in each place for several months, sometimes a year or more (I'm a scientist and get commissioned by Governments to do research) and I had my share of steamy tropical romances.
The most meaningful relationship I've had other than DH was when I lived in South America, with an army general (we were engaged actually). He was a lot older than me (but holy hell was he hot), but he was the first person who taught me that there is no shame in sex, and that other peoples opinions don't matter. I went into the relationship thinking that it would be a ons, but it changed my life. If I'd have been too hung up on what other people think, I wouldn't have gone home with him that night and my life would probably be very different, sounds cheesy but its true, you have to live your life for yourself and what suits you.

I don't care what anyone thinks, that part of my life is over now, but I've had a blast, and none of them were from the UK, except DH, so no chance of them propped up in a bar together comparing notes

Roussette · 28/06/2015 18:18

LikeICan thanks, I suppose I did have a great single life on the whole and whilst all my girlfriends were getting married I was putting it about a bit to make up for it waiting for the right man to come along. And he did! And the fact he had led a rootless life and been about a bit himself (he was a nightclub manager and a poker player) meant it was the right time for us to start behavin' and settle down.

Bee it's no good wrigging out of it now, what's said is said but just remember, everyone should or does have a past of one sort or another and don't start judging your daughters for their choices in life when their time comes.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 28/06/2015 18:19

beedee casual sex is morally neutral. It's not right or wrong, it has no moral value at all.
Associated things do - practicing safer sex, being honest with partners, not deceiving anyone, keeping sex partner separate from children. But sex with multiple partners? Morally neutral.

I caught an STI from my husband and never caught one from any of the other 25+. Meh.

Goshthatsspicy · 28/06/2015 18:21

When l met my Dh, I was on the verge of starting to sleep with quite a few men. Particularly that year.
For me, l'm glad l stopped.

CrystalHaze · 28/06/2015 18:32

I have not had a personal dig at anyone on here. If anyone thinks it was aimed at them directly then i apologize. But i have called no one a slag. I did say that where i live you would be named a slag. Which is a word i hate or even hate to use. It was only a comment nothing personal to any of you ladies. It was not aimed at no one directly. All though i do feel as if i am being targeted for having my own opinion. Everyone is free to live their life how they choose and if it works for you then good on you. But i am most certainly not heartless in fact i am the total opposite. Hope that clears things up

You're either an amnesiac or a hypocrite. Read your posts back (I see that several posters have kindly collated the more venomous and judgemental of your earlier comments for you, so you won't have to scroll back through the entire thread) and tell us which of your earlier comments correlates with "Everyone is free to live their life how they choose and if it works for you then good on you"

crispandfruity · 28/06/2015 19:01

I've got two 0.5's who were only 0.5's because they had ginormous todgers. Seriously - ginormous. I've had a blessed existence.

BadgersNadgers · 28/06/2015 19:34

Newly divorced, there might be a few more

Good work

I look back on my carefree days as a load of harmless fun and good times. One of the very few things I regret is the people I never slept with when I had the chance.

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maxxytoe · 28/06/2015 19:36

the one that cried afterwards

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