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list of sexual partners

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maxxytoe · 27/06/2015 21:44

so i was over at my friends house earlier this evening. I don't know how we got onto the topic, but she keeps a list of her 'sexual conquests' in the notes on her iPhone Hmm in chronological order
She claims this is normal and everyone has a list
I am confused
Should I have been keeping tabs? Grin

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poshfrock · 27/06/2015 22:39

I had a friend at school who used to keep a bar chart of penis size. We were 17 though. I don't have a list but I do have a good memory.

magimedi · 27/06/2015 22:48

This thread makes me feel very old. Am about to hit 60 (yes, Happy Birthday, Magi) and I have just had to go back & do a count.............. from my youth, my wild & very silly youth.

And I am not telling.....

QueefOfTheSporned · 27/06/2015 22:50

I'd rather forget some of mine. And there's a few from the Uni days whose names, if ever I knew them, are lost in the mists of time and Tesco vodka Like 'the one I fell asleep on mid shag'. I'd rather not know how he describes me on his list Grin

Tessbrookes · 28/06/2015 00:50

Completely weird, and nowt to boast about. Must be insecure in herself if has to re-assure herself with written tallies of people who have managed to bonk her.
If she kept it to herself, fair do's. If felt the need to brag to you and tell her the number on her phone, then she has esteem issues or just wants to brag and seem show offy.

Tessbrookes · 28/06/2015 00:53

On reading some of these replies - Why do people shag people they can't even remember the names of? If they mean that little to you that you have to make up stupid nicknames as can't remember their name then why go there?!
Doesn't smack of much self respect.

minkGrundy · 28/06/2015 01:14

tess why not? If you feel like it and you're not harming anyone unless someone hives themselves a judgey knickers wedgy
Glad I am not the only one who has lost a few in the hazy mists of vodka time.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 28/06/2015 01:15

29 years wow. Fantastic. Happy anniversary, Muskey
So you were married 1986, then

DioneTheDiabolist · 28/06/2015 01:18

I'm around the 30mark. Some were memorable. Some weren't.

Tess, I shagged them because at that time I wanted to have sex with them and they wanted to have sex with me. That was enough.

Not sure what your self respect comment has to do with it.

cruikshank · 28/06/2015 01:26

I did have a list once. I composed it during a very boozy, giggly night with my then-squeeze who wanted to know. It has since been lost, probably in some back-packer hostel somewhere, and so has the information - my memory is not what it was, and while I remember the face (or more!) I no longer remember the name, and the years and men all jumble into each other these days. If I'd had a phone that night I wrote The List, I'd probably have put it onto there - I don't think it's so weird. Certainly no weirder than carrying it around for ages and then losing it in a dorm or whatever.

Melonfool · 28/06/2015 01:26

I had a mental list til it got over 20, then I made a decision not to keep track any longer. So, no list, and no idea how many, couldn't name them all, probably don't remember them all

Had a bf once who had a paper list, was a bit odd when I found it.

Melonfool · 28/06/2015 01:29

I had a mental list til it got over 20, then I made a decision not to keep track any longer. So, no list, and no idea how many, couldn't name them all, probably don't remember them all

Had a bf once who had a paper list, was a bit odd when I found it.

JessieMcJessie · 28/06/2015 01:57

I have never written mine down but I do sometimes go through it in my head like counting sheep if I am having trouble getting to sleep Smile.

swimmerforlife · 28/06/2015 02:34

YANBU, surely no one does this after they leave school??

I didn't meet DH until I was nearly 24 so I had a few flings boyfriends,
I have a rough list of those mentally but their are too many one night stands to remember, some I didn't even know their name. I do have self respect, I just wanted a shag without being tied down to anyone.

There is no point in keeping names anyway if you are in a long term relationship as it's not like you can go back to them, best left in the past.

MrsV2012 · 28/06/2015 02:36

What kind of eejit puts that in writing! Anywhere?!

^this Grin

I'd learnt my lesson about writing things down by the time I was 15- my DSDad read my diary think he still has the mental scars

He said "Don't write things down that you wouldn't want your worst enemy to read- because one day they might find it".

He did me a favour really! Smile

MrsV2012 · 28/06/2015 02:38

Totality and Giles another 0.5 here

Bogeyface · 28/06/2015 02:40

Not normal!

I have had my fair share but am not out of the teens and even then there are a couple whose names I cant remember! One I went out with for a couple of months when I was 20 and I am buggered if I can remember his name :o

Bogeyface · 28/06/2015 02:47

I have two 0.5....how does that work?!

They definitely dont add up to a 1 between them :o

JointheJoyride · 28/06/2015 02:48

Jaysus I'm glad there were no iPhones when I started out. I'd have to upload my list to the cloud every day! Only kidding Wink

cruikshank · 28/06/2015 03:03

MrsV, I hope I'm not alone in thinking that your DSD grossly violated your privacy. That is really not ok. At all.

NobodyLivesHere · 28/06/2015 04:26

Tess, did you hit your head and wake up thinking it was the 1950s?
I couldn't even tell you what number my list begins with. And there are some who's name I didn't even know the name of at the time, let alone now. And my self respect is fine with that.

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maxxytoe · 28/06/2015 04:27

please can we hear the 0.5 tales? im strangely intrigued

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sofato5miles · 28/06/2015 04:37

When a good friend of my mother's was widowed 15 years ago, she found a list amongst her husband's things.

Several names after hers had been added and she was devastated. They were a very tight couple. However, it did help her let go of her idea that he was perfect which helped her grief.

Ashbeeee · 28/06/2015 04:38

Yes please do,tell what a half a shag is like. Intrigued nosey

sofato5miles · 28/06/2015 04:43

I know I stopped counting at around 60 lovers, which seems shocking now. Got together with DH 13 years ago and am pushed to remember 15 names Blush.

sykadelic · 28/06/2015 05:39

I made a list once to figure out "my number" because I didn't know what it was. I kept it on my phone for a month or so then deleted it out of fear it would be found. I've forgotten what the number is now but I know the range at least :P

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