To get married in jeans?

[SusiePaloozie]

I'm 42 years old...we're getting married in a hot country (DHs home country) and it won't be a formal affair...it will be in the garden..not during the hottest months but in Spring. I'm too old for floaty hippy style and the affair will be too relaxed for any of the wedding dresses aimed at older brides.

I thought I could wear some really nice jeans and a gorgeous white top...maybe a flower in hair and some fabulous shoes.
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Essentially the whole day will be a BBQ with friends and family....I will feel daft in a formal dress....I hate those 50s style tea dresses...and don't really want to buy a long or formal frock when I will never wear it again!

I have a good figure and look nice in jeans...I have no desire to be a princess for the day ...I've worked as an actor for years and have had loads of chances to wear big dresses....AIBU though?

Summer... My God people on here are so up themselves! What's with the headmistress language?

I got married in a huge meringue and hadn't thought it through - I needed two helpers just to go for a pee...

Some bridesmaids really are called on to go above and beyond!

In the absence of a back story, why wouldn't you assume that people got married in their work clothes because they were busy/nipping out from work and hadn't time to change, rather than that they were showing off? Plus scrubs are easily the least flattering garments known to humankind.

But the 'try hard'/ 'too cool for school' responses to the idea of casual brides and grooms on this thread are puzzling me - am not from the UK originally, so is there some cultural thing I'm being oblivious to? I don't see why wearing jeans is more 'try hard' than shopping for months for a white dress...?

OP-as they say on Mumsnet-do you mean to be so rude??

I have a good figure and look nice in jeans...I have no desire to be a princess for the day ...I've worked as an actor for years and have had loads of chances to wear big dresses....AIBU though?

PP's: Maybe too casual, would you wear a nice dress?
OP: No

PP's: How about linen?
OP: No

PP's:

OP: No

You obviously think you are not BU, so why ask the question? I can only imagine you wanted to hear the response of how alternative and different you are from everybody else in the world.

YANBU - Wear your jeans, enjoy your day. Have a lovely wedding.

NoMilk, no, it wasn't some coordinated thing - plus it was in March! DH was wearing a work suit.

My God people on here are so up themselves! What's with the headmistress language?

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It's patently obvious that a large proportion of MNrs are unable to see beyond their own ideas of what is "acceptable" and are almost offended by someone asking a simple question! I'll stick to the Style & Beauty thread then...the people there are MUCH nicer and FAR less stuck in their own narrow minds.

Bye!

See ya.. wouldn't wanna be ya

It's patently obvious that a large proportion of MNrs are unable to see beyond their own ideas of what is "acceptable" and are almost offended by someone asking a simple question! I'll stick to the Style & Beauty thread then...the people there are MUCH nicer and FAR less stuck in their own narrow minds.

Oh dear op. I think what everyone has said has completely gone over your hearld. Wear whatever you want, we don't care. Just don't be rude when people suggest other options, after you have started a thread asking for feedback.

Was that a flounce? A bridezilla flounce?

A bridezilla flounce indeed

I just hope your wedding will be less drama than this thread. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and think that this is your bridezilla coming out before the big day

molyholy Surely the question is "is it okay to wear non-traditional attire at a wedding", so rejecting suggestions of other non-traditional attire is not saying anything about the original question. It's just a silly suggestion, and an odd one. If non-traditional attire is fine (it is) then the choice is down to what the OP feels comfortable in, suggesting other clothes doesn't contribute to the question.

Jeans are great for a wedding, but if my DP turned up wearing white jeans, I may well have walked out until she changed... But that doesn't actually say anything about the inappropriateness of white jeans, just that I think they look hideous.

" I should perhaps have pointed out that most of our mates don't lead conventional lives...many are artists and performers"

Of course they are

Seriously though, wear whatever the hell you like, your head sounds so far up your own arse you can wear it for a hat - so the headgear is sorted

Dh wore jeans to our wedding, I couldn't have cared less, neither could the guests even though they weren't artists and performers

Well you're lovely aren't you *Purple" I do hope that post made your life seem more attractive...or fun...or whatever.

You sound crackers.

I love a curtain call..............

Fred maybe I should have just asked "Is it ok to wear non trad clothes for a wedding?"

But then people would have said "Oh yes it's fine! Wear a coloured dress or a trouser suit."

Which wasn't what I wanted to know. People are very mean on here.

I'm sure you comment about walking out was just for comic effect fred, but if a groom walked out because of what his bride was wearing, I'd be outraged if she was still there when he got back.

The very early poster who seemed to have overreacted to something called OP exactly right.

Blue I really don't think so...I DO think a lot of posters on here do though...Mitzy it's part of who I am...can't help but love the drama.

No one's being mean! Wear your jeans with pride and have a great day OP.