To get married in jeans?

[SusiePaloozie]

I'm 42 years old...we're getting married in a hot country (DHs home country) and it won't be a formal affair...it will be in the garden..not during the hottest months but in Spring. I'm too old for floaty hippy style and the affair will be too relaxed for any of the wedding dresses aimed at older brides.

I thought I could wear some really nice jeans and a gorgeous white top...maybe a flower in hair and some fabulous shoes.
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Essentially the whole day will be a BBQ with friends and family....I will feel daft in a formal dress....I hate those 50s style tea dresses...and don't really want to buy a long or formal frock when I will never wear it again!

I have a good figure and look nice in jeans...I have no desire to be a princess for the day ...I've worked as an actor for years and have had loads of chances to wear big dresses....AIBU though?

Mitzy thank you but they are you know. Calling me crackers and attention seeing and all that. It's quite awful when someone's asking about their wedding.

Can't be arsed to go over to S&B, but what about - don't laugh - a playsuit? Casual but could be really nicely dressed up with beautiful sandals/jewellery/hair.

Kind of this Med boho chic vibe...

What are you going to ask them in S&B though? What are you unsure about or wanting advice/suggestions for?

I thought you just wanted to tell everyone how alternative and ungirly and cool you are, which you've achieved so no need for further action!

SuziaPaloozie I reckon more people get married in jeans than trouser suit, it's not at all odd.

Rubbish no I didn't want that...I never even considered people would think it "Cool" or anything...so you're just another poster being mean for no reason. The people in S&B have been just lovely. I should just have posted there.

Well yes, it did make me smile, but that was mostly remembering my wedding day, which was fab

I am serious though about wearing whatever the hell you like, it is your wedding, what you wear will have no impact on the actual marriage, after all, which is what's important.

I'm sure you will look lovely in jeans as you will be comfortable and therefore happier if your wearing what you like best. It's just all that wanky "oh my friends are so boho so I don't really care anyway" irritated me.

You sound confident enough to be sure of your clothing choice!

Not dissin' the jeans but I think some jumpsuits look great. They can be comfy and casual with an edge of ass kickiness (real word).

Purple I only described my friends when about twenty posters showed concern for them!

*you're wearing, apologies.

I've said before on here that I think marriage ceremonies should be like doing a will or something, just a legal formality in a solicitors office

Why were you reluctant to tell us you were getting married in Aus but on S&B you mention it in your OP? Just curious!

I used to live in Aus and would be uncomfortable in Jeans during spring.

"AIBU to get married in jeans?"

"Hmm, jeans don't seem the nicest thing to get married in. "

"No! You were supposed to say IANBU and clearly very much in love, very cool and a special kind of person. You are all so conventional and narrow minded, unlike me"

Blue I just decided it didn't matter.

Rubbish you're obviously attributing your own insecurities onto me here...I simply don't think that way.

I think writing your will at the solicitor's would be more fun. Purple

'To my SIL I leave my Will and Kate commenorative mug'
'To my cousin, I leave some advice. Beige chinos don't do your arse any favours'

I'm not being mean for no reason, I'm expressing my irritation at you being so rude and abrupt to people who thought you posted because you wanted their input.

You seem to have pretty much decided on jeans so I'd go with that and I'm sure they'll be fine.

But. Jeans are an everyday item of clothing, nothing special about them and I can't see why you'd want to wear them on such an important, special day. Honestly I can't, i'm not being snippy.

It's patently obvious that a large proportion of MNrs are unable to see beyond their own ideas of what is "acceptable" and are almost offended by someone asking a simple question! I'll stick to the Style & Beauty thread then...the people there are MUCH nicer and FAR less stuck in their own narrow minds.

Right-o. Chalks another one to the board. Next

Rubbish no I didn't want that...I never even considered people would think it "Cool" or anything...so you're just another poster being mean for no reason. The people in S&B have been just lovely. I should just have posted there.

I wonder if Susie realises that AIBU is not a homogenous group. I, like many others on this thread are regulars in Style and Beauty yet I still think OP is being dismissive and unnecessarily rude.

We have all agreed that you should wear what you feel best in for your wedding day, and perhaps all thanked our lucky stars that we're not invited.

Rubbish I think you have been mean. But you obviously don't. So whatever.

Been that's just getting personal and there is no need for it;

If I was getting married in a garden in Australia footwear would be my main concern. What about all the killer whatnots lurking in the grass!

Are you a delicate flower?

Your wedding, wear what you like. I don't know you at all, but just wonder if you have thought about this fully? This is an important day in your life which you will always cherish and look back on. Most people on special occasions like to mark the celebration (parties, weddings, naming days) by wearing special clothes. People like to look their best at special times. If you went for a job interview would you wear jeans? Most people wouldn't out of respect. IMO wearing jeans gives the appearance you're not that bothered about the wedding. A pp said she wore jeans and had strangers for witnesses. I think that fits together. It seems odd to me to have a wedding with guests and your husband's family attending but not make the effort to wear something special. I am struggling to think where abroad people wear jeans for weddings. In all the cultures I can think of weddings are celebrated with people wearing special clothes. I hope you find an outfit you feel good in that also is fitting for such a special occasion.

What part of my post is "getting personal" Susie?

I'd say that your comment to RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime is way over the line in terms of 'getting personal':

Rubbish you're obviously attributing your own insecurities onto me here...I simply don't think that way.

Who are you to judge Rubbish's insecurities or otherwise?

What was the point of wearing scrubs? Where I work you're not allowed to wear scrubs outside of theatre as then they won't be sterile anymore.

After the wedding they'd of had to scrub up again and wear different scrubs so there was no point at all to wear scrubs to the wedding.

I went to a wedding in Texas where the bride wore well cut jeans and a pair of boots that probably cost more than I make in a month. She was stunning. Wear what makes you feel beautiful. Congratulations and best wishes for a wonderful life together.