To get married in jeans?

[SusiePaloozie]

I'm 42 years old...we're getting married in a hot country (DHs home country) and it won't be a formal affair...it will be in the garden..not during the hottest months but in Spring. I'm too old for floaty hippy style and the affair will be too relaxed for any of the wedding dresses aimed at older brides.

I thought I could wear some really nice jeans and a gorgeous white top...maybe a flower in hair and some fabulous shoes.
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Essentially the whole day will be a BBQ with friends and family....I will feel daft in a formal dress....I hate those 50s style tea dresses...and don't really want to buy a long or formal frock when I will never wear it again!

I have a good figure and look nice in jeans...I have no desire to be a princess for the day ...I've worked as an actor for years and have had loads of chances to wear big dresses....AIBU though?

Hot pants and a boob tube?

does aibu really have to be taken so literally? can't you just link ideas?

Scrapt that peasant top, that was fashionable this summer and wouldn't be next spring.

White jeans with a gorgeous pair of sandals or wedges & a lovely well-fitting top that you know really suits you - you will feel brilliant.

I think it'd be weird to be ina wedding dress in a garden.

I am in my 40s and if I ever got married, I think I would try to put a twist on most things. I would just feel it was less slavish, more me, less last minute dot com. Having the confidence to think, nope, gonna do this a different way.

OP, post again in S&B !

Well, at the end of the day (i hate that phrase, why am i using it!?), you can wear whatever you like on your wedding day.

I sense a longing in you to go for the hippy look though and i think you should give it a go! 42 is not old and you might regret you went for the safe option (outfit wise) in a few years :)

Max no idea what DH will wear....if I wanted a formal wedding, then he'd just wear a suit....I suppose he will wear something smart and comfortable. I will tell the guests it's casual yes...the tradition is the same as here really...

Bonnie thanks I will I forgot AIBU is literal...sometimes it's not and sometimes it is! No telling.

Epona...I do like the hippy look...I suppose I want to do it but in jeans!

Going to post in S&B now though.

YANBU to wear jeans but YABVU and rude to other people.

YANBU go for it! Sounds fun, and relaxed. Lovely to see something a bit different, so many brides look the same. Congratulations.

Where what the hell you want! It's your wedding. Bear in mind that they will need to look OK in photos though if you are planning on having those - you might want a better quality/cut than normal, perhaps?

White jeans?!

I wore ivory capri pants for my wedding (in France in August, but it wasn't a hot day). I had a matching top and light jacket made by a friend. I never wear dresses, wasn't about to start just for a wedding ;) Absolutely no regrets - was comfortable all day.

Funnily enough I just got the trousers out of the attic - bit small for me now but fit my slender teenager daughter perfectly, and as they are quite high waisted they are fashionable in a retro way apparently.

Spring where was I rude? Go on....quote my rudeness.

Personally, I love an excuse to dress up and would feel a bit deflated to be invited to a wedding (even one I knew was a casual one) to find the bride in jeans. I would always wear a dress to a wedding and it would feel really odd to feel more overdressed than the bride. That said, it's your day, obviuosly, but would something like a smart trouser suit be an option if you really don't like dresses? Jeans just shout casual to me ...

Mistigri that sounds lovely. I like capri pants. I might see what's about in that line too.

"Spring where was I rude? confused Go on....quote my rudeness."

That's quite rude

Contrary I know what you're saying...I don't like trouser suits at all thought. I don't mind if guests want to dress up at all...I really wouldn't care.

oh Adventure really I would like her to point out my supposedly rude post though.

Maybe not rude but some of your posts are abrupt and dismissive I think. I dunno you come across a bit stuck up and full of yourself. Maybe not your intention it's hard to read tone online

We have a benign thread on weddings and suddenly it kicks off with people accusing other of being rude. Lighten up, everyone. This is supposed to be fun outfit debating, not a bosom hoiking moment.

Cunty thanks for the heads up....I don't mean to sound stuck up though...I don't see much point in discussing other options apart from saying "I don't like that" though....if I don't....what else do I say?

Any damned thing you like; just tell your guests to dress informally too.

Is there anyone you want to make look foolish who you could tell it was going to be white tue and tails for men and long dress for women?

Behave, Andrew!

Andrew I could put that! Lol...I'd stand out for sure! "Ladies in black tie and men in white gowns please."

I think it would be grand, I can't abide tea dresses or linen stuff. My bil and sil got married in jeans, we all survived.

Wiggle thanks for the vote of confidence....I've tried tea dresses one and feel like a little girl somehow. I would rather spend the money on some gorgeous shoes and very good jeans and designer top...all of which I can use again.

Oh I'm sure you aren't really stuck up OP. People post differently and like I said it's very difficult you to read the tone of a post sometimes. Some people like to write long posts, others (like you!) are a bit more efficient with their words so I think it's easy to be misinterpreted.

This is AIBU people are on high alert for anything worthy of getting the pitch fork out

Congrats on the wedding though,