To get married in jeans?

[SusiePaloozie]

I'm 42 years old...we're getting married in a hot country (DHs home country) and it won't be a formal affair...it will be in the garden..not during the hottest months but in Spring. I'm too old for floaty hippy style and the affair will be too relaxed for any of the wedding dresses aimed at older brides.

I thought I could wear some really nice jeans and a gorgeous white top...maybe a flower in hair and some fabulous shoes.
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Essentially the whole day will be a BBQ with friends and family....I will feel daft in a formal dress....I hate those 50s style tea dresses...and don't really want to buy a long or formal frock when I will never wear it again!

I have a good figure and look nice in jeans...I have no desire to be a princess for the day ...I've worked as an actor for years and have had loads of chances to wear big dresses....AIBU though?

If as others have suggested that your choice to wear jeans is because of your feminist views, then I am not sure why you are considering marriage.
Most hard core feminists would consider marriage an outdated and patriarchal alliance to consider.

You've only skimmed the thread (s), haven't you, Whiteline?

This is one of the topics on the wright stuff this morning. i wonder if they got the idea from here.

OP really does see herself as 'speshul' and alternative and what was her comment about no-one imaginative here?! slinks off into the corner with her crochet for trolls kit (joke!)

Tacky.

OMG they are discussing this thread on Wright Stuff right now!

Ha just came on to say the same Berry !

Yes Cardboard they showed the original post!

I just noticed this thread and have Wright stuff on in the background!

Ha Winter, I managed to do it first!

I still genuinely don't get the vitriol being expressed on this thread.

It's beginning to sound slightly like 'Well, I saved and dieted and shopped and altered and wept myself into a corseted, strapless ivory fishtail Vera Wang with diamante detail and matching tiara, so its not fair for you to think it's OK to throw on some jeans and a nice white top, because that would be too easy and comfortable, and I suffered so you have to, and how dare you think it's OK not to present yourself as a white meringue-clad show pony for your DP and guests? Have you no shame???!!!'

Ummm, how many people have expressed that sentiment HipsterBeard?

Lol HipsterBeard. Sock puppet more like.

Well the power of Mumsnet for you! :)
To the topic my good friend got married in jeans. She and the groom wore blue jeans and white t-shirts with writing "bride" and "groom" at the front.

I assure you I'm not the OP, Morris. (Also, as a David Lodge fan, I've always noticed you around, and your tone has got noticeably snippy and aggressive lately which seems completely out of character in relation to the poster I remember - has someone else started using your username?)

Mitzy, no one has said it, but I'm trying to account for the level of vitriol on the thread. The OP hasn't been particularly sweet in her responses, but there seems to be something more going on than 'the OP isn't that nice'. The getting married in jeans thing seems to have hit a nerve with a lot of people, and some of it seems to come down to 'It's arrogant/pretentious/somehow unfair to the groom and your guests not to worry and take enormously trouble over your wedding day appearance'...?

Disclaimer: I got married in jeans, but I didn't ask anyone whether I could, and it was less a style decision than a hurried one for a casual, 15-min witnesses-and-lunch reg office wedding.

Here. With her permission (she doesn't live in the UK)

I don't want to state the bleeding obvious but it's your wedding. One day going to be your memories. Wear what you like. Plus you can dress jeans up or down, but won't it be a bit hot for jeans

I still genuinely don't get the vitriol being expressed on this thread.
It's beginning to sound slightly like...Have you no shame???!!!'

Welcome to Mumsnet, Hipsterbeard.

I disagree HipsterBeard. I don't think it's the getting married in jeans that people were remotely bothered by as the first wave of responses will testify.

I think people are reacting to the OP's crabbiness and the misleading and now deleted thread that she posted on the FWR board.

Hipsterbeard - totally agree with Mitzy.

The OP was very short with pp on this thread. Meandered to style & beauty with a "you are MUCH nicer than those nasties on AIBU" type post, then when pulled up on it, went "waaahhhh" to the FWR board. Who also pointed out that her attitude leaves a lot to be desired.

No one cares that she wants to wear jeans.

Frankly, if the OP wants to get a box, cover it in Rice Krispies and go to her wedding as a fishfinger, no one gives a shit!

I was here on first page with OP - she was totally dismissive, had her own mindset (I'm wearing jeans so stuff what the rest of you think!) then feigned innocence at what AIBU stood for.

She was then very quick to rush to S&B and Feminist Boards to 'state her case' and say what meanies we vipers on AIBU are.

She actually WANTED options and AIBU on wearing jeans and we gave it to her straight. If you can't handle that then don't post on AIBU. And she was unbelievably snippy and rude the first 2 pages!

I do hope you're not going to fall into the trap of wearing your jeans on your legs like all those conventional and narrow-minded people do. Your actor and performer friends will surely be expecting to see the jeans fashioned into something that society cannot use to quash your creativity.

berry where did she get married? (Registry office/chapel?)

I'm just wondering where that look could have been pulled off, and the context.

This was on today's The Wright Stuff. They showed the op's post.

Am late to the party, didn't see it on the Wright stuff, but wear what you want. Haven't read the whole thread, but God knows why anyone would get funny about what soneone else wears to their own wedding. Bet you'll look lovely.

Do let guests know it's informal though - I'd love the chance to dress down at a wedding.

Hibbledibble

Registry office