To think less of my friend? (And to ask what puts you off a person)

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I have been friends with a woman for a while now, but recently, while in a cafe, she was awful to the wait staff after the service was a little slow (it was busy) talking to them like they were sub-human, and being rude and demanding. It was embarrassing! Ever since then I've thought less of her, and now not so sure I want to be close friends with someone who can be so unkind to others. She's always been nice to me, though.

AIBU to think less of her because of this one event? She wasn't having a bad day to my knowledge, and was perfectly pleasant to me both before and after talking to the waitress - as if nothing were wrong.

If IANBU, is there anything else that makes you think less of someone like this?

Oh and friends who have their I phone out all the blinking time, it's particularly rude when out for a meal and I phone is constabtly being used/checked.

A friend who got sponsorship money to shave her head for cancer, then only chopped an inch off because she could not 'bear to part with my hair'.

A friend who I always thought as a bit of a gossip..... but fairly harmless. We were at the school fete last year and I saw her deep in conversation,stop it, come at me practically at a run and say to me ' Guess what so and so has just said about you ' in a gleeful tone. I avoid her now.

How funny and ironic that a poster named after a character from children's book (Sunny Baudelaire) judges adults who read Harry Potter.

Or maybe 'try hard' is the phrase. I'm not sure.

'Lotta, have you not seen how rubbish some feminists' haircuts are?'

I know! And they we wear comfy shoes and trousers and everything

Arsenic, 'wait staff' is perfectly acceptable American English, not pretentious at all

I went on holiday with a friend who was rude to all the waiting staff at every restaurant that we ate at. I saw her in a different light after that but decided to remain friends with her... Until she told all our mutual friends that I was pregnant about a month later, I was only about 4 weeks and she was the only friend I had decided to tell until I had my first scan.

We aren't friends any more and I can't see that changing.

'Lotta, have you not seen how rubbish some feminists' haircuts are? shock'

I have fabulous hair thank you very much

Oh and also people who bleat on about all kinds of conspiracy tinfoil hat nutjobbery and act all smug like they're really enlightened and everyone else is just a sheep. But I guess they are funny so I sort of like them

I'm not proud to admit it...but I am the owner of the biggest pair of judgey-pants available
I don't deliberately go out of my way to be rude, or upset anyone, but sometimes I just can't stop myself! It's like I have some sort of bullshit radar...If I hear a friend/family spout something that I deem to be utter bullshit, I have to have an intense fight with myself to not say anything, or have to have a quiet word with myself just to make sure what I'm about to say isn't going to be overly offensive.
Like I said though, I wouldn't go out of my way to be deliberately rude like in the OP, but sometimes what comes out of my mouth can sound quite rude. I am aware of it, and apologise majority of the time....unless I feel the rudeness was warranted.

Then surely you're not a real feminist, lyla. Don't worry, some days I have to roll up my trousers to check my legs to find out if I'm still one myself.

Anyone who is on a night out with friends and then spends the entire night looking at there phone (regardless of make) is a complete bell end in my book.

She cured her son of asthma with homeopathics.

How funny and ironic that a poster named after a character from children's book (Sunny Baudelaire) judges adults who read Harry Potter.

Almost as good as judging people who name their children after places. And have a daughter called India

YANBU - Rude to people in customer service is excruciating.
I am always a little bit freaked out by people who say "I don't like hot drinks" WTAF!

People who believe the bible to the letter and use it as an excuse to class others as "sinners".
People that use church, of whatever religion, as a community of "suckers" when they have exhausted the generosity of the rest of their family/friends.
Women who believe that men are the head of the home (just because they are men).
Women who believe that being feminist means that they can refuse to do anything for their DP/DH, but that DP/DH should do everything for them.
People who believe that children from their DP/DH's previous relationship/marriage should be less important to their DP/DH than any children they have together.
People who are cruel, to anyone but especially children or animals (and others that can't necessarily stand up for themselves).
People that have had privileged lives and who think that others who have less in whatever way are lesser than themselves and who cannot understand that often times circumstances can pose a real barrier to those people.
People that take, take, take and are mortally offended at the idea of giving.
Wow, my list is long. I do like some people, honest!

I would agree to a previous person's "loud" one.

I dislike people who loud parent - shout conversation at their dc, with the conversation being designed for everybody else to hear - so sort of boastful, aren't I an amazing parent, engaging with my dc like this.
What is the matter with you, just wait quietly like everybody else. Fair enough speak to your dc, but we don't all need to hear.

At any kind of school information meeting, committee meeting absolutely has to hear the sound of their own voice, even though they've got nothing relevent to say. Sometimes bringing up issues that were agreed and closed half an hour ago.

I usually sit the opposite side of the room to find the teacher/Chair saying, lets all mix around, and I end up sitting next to them for two hours.

Perhaps I am intolerant.

I'm a Brit in a British context! Lots of us use American English here and there coz of TV and films and being exposed to lots of their culture. It happens

"It happens"!? Lotta

What? Stuff not of your choosing just emerges from your mouth unbidden?

Fair enough.

If you're happy that most of us won't be able to tell it's tourettes and some of us will take it for try-hard posturing and judge accordingly.

Feminists, purdypie?

You seriously think less of people who believe that women are not inferior to men, and that men and women should be treated equally?

Personally, I think less of people who think that women are inferior to men.

OP
There is a saying which goes something like 'you can judge a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him' and even even more apt one which says 'someone who is nice to you, but is not nice to the waiter, is not a nice person.'

those who love animals more than humans
This pisses me off big time. Especially when they see charity ads of kids in third world countries who are forced into working manual labour for every daylight hour and live in unsanitary conditions and dont bat an eye, but a donkey doing the same thing, theyre crying and posting 'these fuckers deserve to be shot' all over facebook.

purdiepie
Not sure how you would dislike someone instantly because they are Atheist. I am an atheist, I dont talk about it, I dont encourage people to become one, I dont have a problem with anyone who follows a religion. Why would you dislike me for that?

People who get pissy over pennies when the bill arrives.

Oh dear Arsenic, oh dear. Not a good look