To think less of my friend? (And to ask what puts you off a person)

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I have been friends with a woman for a while now, but recently, while in a cafe, she was awful to the wait staff after the service was a little slow (it was busy) talking to them like they were sub-human, and being rude and demanding. It was embarrassing! Ever since then I've thought less of her, and now not so sure I want to be close friends with someone who can be so unkind to others. She's always been nice to me, though.

AIBU to think less of her because of this one event? She wasn't having a bad day to my knowledge, and was perfectly pleasant to me both before and after talking to the waitress - as if nothing were wrong.

If IANBU, is there anything else that makes you think less of someone like this?

yes ship I do, sorry.

Believe me i wanted to Tough but i called my Mum after i watched the video and she talked me into not doing anything about it for the sake of said friends children.

Needless to say i haven't been in her company much since and certainly not in my/her house.

Atheists
feminists
those who love animals more than humans
anyone who who is consistently PC.

My best friend told her just ex-boyfriend that she was pregnant (she wasn't). He offered to support the imaginary child or help her with abortion costs - she then pretended to have a miscarriage.

I thought this was a despicable thing to do and though I still see her, i felt it broke my relationship with her.

My workmate posted a photograph of a dead horse on Facebook and claimed, I shit you not, that it was ''raped to death by Muslims''.
She then launched into a rant about why ''we need to do sumfink about them''.
I'd presumed she was nice, if not a little empty headed.

My weirdest one is a former friend who i couldn't look at after he admitted that he 'put' his dad's ashes at a nearby beauty spot that is also a Site of Specific Scientific Interest... I knew before he went that he was planning on doing it, but I thought he meant he was going to scatter his ashes.

Nope. Selfish fucker took a spade, dug a hole and buried the massive plastic container there. I don't know what kind of damage he might have done to the area, which is known for it's wildlife, insects etc.
He knew it was wrong btw, as he said he had to stop digging and hide the spade every time he heard other people walking nearby.

I suddenly realized, like the cliche light-bulb moment, that he would do whatever he wanted, no matter how it affected anyone or anything around him. I can't abide selfishness, and he defined it in that moment.

I ended a friendship with someone when she claimed prostrates could not be raped, ever. Even after I tried explaining it to her she still would not have it.

OK everyone, sunny is clearly a muggle. Sorry you didn't get the letter muggle.

Prostitutes*

Hahahahaha oh God, Sunny is on THIS thread bashing Harry Potter as well...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2406025-Is-it-wrong-to-let-my-kids-7-and-4-watch-Harry-Potter?msgid=55058110#55058110

I wanted to Tough but i called my Mum after i watched the tape and she talked me into not saying/doing anything for the sake of said friends children.

Needless to say i don't spend much time with her now and certainly not in her/my home.

It does help however to vent on here :)

Ignorance.
Hypocrisy.
People looking down their nose at others when they're not much better themselves.
People making assumptions about peoples circumstances when they can't possibly know the full story.
Bitchy friendship groups.

'People who let their kids play on the computer / gadgets all the time, especially when out for meals'

No flaming here - completely with you!

Why 'feminists' purdiepie? Just curious.

Chwat, never underestimate how incredibly, stunningly stupid some people are

What's wrong with letting your kids play with gadgets at meals?

My friend recently told me that she tried to persuade her rich parents to leave her more money than her brother because she had a child. She's quite selfish and pushy anyway, but I was really shocked at this!!

"I always think a teensy bit less of someone if they have an iPhone or iPad"

Haha, yes! I have to admit to this, too.

Its complex. Politics can put me off some people' but with others I find it easy to be tolerant of their view. Lack of a sense of humour, I find hard to deal with. And people who run other members of the family down behind their backs.

People who don't like "feminists"
Sexism
Anti-choicers (I refuse to call them pro-lifers as they don't care about the life of the mother)
Bigots and Racists
People who smoke while pregnant or around their kids
People who don't practice proper car safety with their kids

This is an interesting thread.

Most of these things wouldn't totally put me off being friends with someone, even if I didn't particularly agree with that aspect of them. Definitely don't have a problem with (most forms of) "ignorance". Knowledge of facts in itself is, to my mind, over-rated.

Also, we're ALL prejudiced in our own ways. The way we get all prickly about other people's particular prejudices is often quite funny. We just want people to be prejudiced in the same ways we are (e.g., against Daily Mail readers, people who read the wrong kinds of books, etc.).

A lot of you wouldn't want to be friends with me because of my ignorance. On arrival at university, I knew so little about religion that once, when someone said "Is the pope catholic?" rhetorically, I said in bemusement that I had no idea.

"What's wrong with letting your kids play with gadgets at meals?"

What's right with it?

People who don't like people who don't like feminists.

Trumped you, lyla

Sprackenzy, they don't scream and shout and piss about in a restaurant and annoy other people? I find that far more annoying

I love that a poster named after a character in a children's book thinks less of adults that read a children's book series.

Yanbu I hate people that do that