To think less of my friend? (And to ask what puts you off a person)

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I have been friends with a woman for a while now, but recently, while in a cafe, she was awful to the wait staff after the service was a little slow (it was busy) talking to them like they were sub-human, and being rude and demanding. It was embarrassing! Ever since then I've thought less of her, and now not so sure I want to be close friends with someone who can be so unkind to others. She's always been nice to me, though.

AIBU to think less of her because of this one event? She wasn't having a bad day to my knowledge, and was perfectly pleasant to me both before and after talking to the waitress - as if nothing were wrong.

If IANBU, is there anything else that makes you think less of someone like this?

Er - none of these! Well, maybe the OPs instance but I actually really like my friends!

Hygge

ha ha Hygge, at least SB's book series has some literary merit...

• People who believe their opponents' position to be basically founded on "they are baddies and I am a goodie" - I think that kind of thinking is an ongoing and global problem for humanity.

PS: Fair enough, Lashes, it's a reason. Meal time conversation with the family is an important habit to instill in them, for me, as there are times when they get older that it is the focal point of the family's relationships, but each to their own. :)

Hygge
I was thinking the same.

I had a friend who always used to drink too much when we went out so one of us would have to make sure she got home safely. I stopped wanting to have an evening out with her because I felt my evening was always hijacked.

Britain First etc. people. With the advent of Facebook I now see that so many ordinary people are not ordinary, they have small mean racist minds.

My friend who moans at speed for the entire time I see her in a lood voice that hurts my ear drums.

loud voice

Ooh books..

I know it isn't nice, but a person will go down in my estimation if they read 50 shades and let me know about it. In the same way I know guys watch porn, but if one told me, he would forever be the porn guy.

Sprackenzy me too, but in my family we have a lot of ASD adults and children, so sometimes a gameboy or ipad helps! Particularly in public lol

Anyone who lies, gossips, or is any kind of bigot.

That seems to rule out 90% of people, so I just steer clear, and keek myself to myself in RL.

See Lashes exactly the sort of thing that our judgmental streak (we all have one) doesn't take into account. :)

'Anti-choicers (I refuse to call them pro-lifers as they don't care about the life of the mother)'

Good call lyla. Much better term

Still wondering what's so upsetting about feminists apart from maybe a load of ridiculous stereotypes

Hootsmon - FYI, I have a work iPad and my iPhone was won I a competition! I WISH I had more money than sense!

Ignorance. I have a friend who is constantly having a go about her boyfriend's kid's mother, immigrants getting houses and all the NHS appointments - that sort of stuff. I try not to let it bother me too much but it's hard to ignore.

Sprackenzy that's true. I think it's okay to have a judgemental streak, like you say everyone does, but to not put too much merit on it. I try to not judge someone until I know them even if from what I've seen of them they look a bit stupid

Racist language or jokes.

I strongly believe that the measure of a person is how they treat people they don't actively need to be nice to.

How can you call yourself 'SunnyBaudelaire', and be critical of Harry Potter readers?

Harry Potter is brilliant.

Britain first posts, discrimination of any kind, narrow mindedness, tightness (not thriftiness but full on meaness)

I pretty much understand everything's that mentioned except the iphone ipad one, I genuinely don't get it.

This is completely wrong of me but I can't help to judge people for bad grammar.

and there goes my horrendous grammar right there

Casual racism - especially when they deny they are being racist and presume everyone thinks like they do but won't say so because of 'political correctness!'
I think far less of my dh's stepdad because of this - dh's sister told us she had a new boyfriend, as soon as she left the room dh stepdad was nudging us and saying 'you are all thinking what I'm thinking aren't you?' We were mystified as to what he was on about until he admitted he thought the boyfriend was black as he had a 'black name.'
When we all looked shocked at his comment he told us that we all must have thought the same as him but were too politically correct to admit it!

I can't imagine ever thinking less of a person for their reading material unless it was the BNP party manifesto or some such thing. How does that even work? I can't understand that one at all.

Facebook drama llamas
The idiot on FB who posts slightly smutty and hugely unfunny pictures to me despite me never reacting
Rudeness to anyone working in a service industry - this really boils my piss
Fashionistas / Make up bores
The person who once told me they'd never visit America because they 'hate Americans'

Lotta, have you not seen how rubbish some feminists' haircuts are?

People who say 'wait staff'.

And a whole list of other vocab, in fact. I try not to judge the pretentiousness. It's EXTREMELY difficult.

Today 12:28 purdiepie

Atheists
feminists
those who love animals more than humans
anyone who who is consistently PC.

^^people that say things like the above I would probably try to avoid. Particularly the feminist bit