To think less of my friend? (And to ask what puts you off a person)

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I have been friends with a woman for a while now, but recently, while in a cafe, she was awful to the wait staff after the service was a little slow (it was busy) talking to them like they were sub-human, and being rude and demanding. It was embarrassing! Ever since then I've thought less of her, and now not so sure I want to be close friends with someone who can be so unkind to others. She's always been nice to me, though.

AIBU to think less of her because of this one event? She wasn't having a bad day to my knowledge, and was perfectly pleasant to me both before and after talking to the waitress - as if nothing were wrong.

If IANBU, is there anything else that makes you think less of someone like this?

You just keep popping up everywhere, Purdie. Every thread I read, there you are again, being as goady as possible. Hadn't noticed you at all until the last few days, then suddenly, you seem to be attention seeking all over MN.

In answer to the OP...

Deliberate cruelty, in any form. Especially cruelty to animals (my own determined campaign to cause NDN's fucker of a tom cat maximum discomfort whenever I find him in my garden notwithstanding).
UKIP/racist/very right wing views.
Not respecting wildlife and natural places. Including littering and not picking up/burying/covering your dogs' shit.
'Askers'... cheeky buggers who take the piss and take advantage, given half a chance.
Entitled, selfish, inconsiderate behaviour.

Oh, do bore off with your troll accusations

Yawn indeed.

...and if you are seeing me all over mn then surely it stands that you are behaving in a ubiquitous manner yourself. It is undoubtedly a reflection of your pedestrian and unremarkable posting style that you view mine as 'attention-seeking'.

Purdie what the hell does "pedestrian" mean in this context

Lashes, I think it means pleasant and empathetic.

Boring.

'Pleasant and empathetic'.

My pregnancy nausea just shot through the roof.

What a shame. Have you tried ginger biscuits?

No. They remind me too much of ginger people.

lol wtf

Boring.

I was out with colleagues last night. One of them I get on well with, but once she'd had a bit to drink she went on and on and on about being "posh" and "middle-class". I have heard her mention her poshness occasionally before and found it a bit jarring, especially because she's not what I would recognise as posh myself, but she was being totally OTT last night. I now think less of her, simply because while I recognise that class distinctions exist, I find it a bit cringey when people talk about it at length and shoehorn their own "class" in at every opportunity.

YANBU. Mine isn't a friend, but a work colleague I was friendly with...
She was vicious to her exh and his gf (now wife) - even derailed their wedding.
We live in a small town and one of my good friends is a close friend of the new wife (we gossip talk). Work colleague has slagged exh and new wife off at work so know she has the knives out and everyone knew about the wedding thing at the time.
New wife wasn't OW and work colleague was in a relationship already so no obvious reason for this.
Work colleague's behaviour can be a bit unpleasant at times in work too.
I decided to distance myself from her in all but professional interactions. No idea if she realised- I doubt it, she's very self absorbed.

Carabos, I doubt she is truly middle class; the middle classes will usually go to great lengths explaining why they are not.

So in answer to the OP I think less of people if they are deliberately unkind to another, even if on the whole they seem a pretty good person.

behave yourself purdie, I have ginger triplets

I have ginger friends. One of them has stunning flame-red tresses.

Do you really have triplets, Sunny? How old are they? I'm fascinated and awe-struck by the capabilities of mothers of multiples.

non-divorced/separated people who buy into the 'ex 'fleeced' their new partner/friend's new partner and that it's perfectly fine not to pay child maintenance because she 'gets all the benefits' and works full time' shite you see/hear/experience all the time....

and I positively detest the new partner who say 'gosh, yes, she got the house and gets 'all the benefits' so why the fuck should she get a penny more?'.

people who look down their noses at single mums whilst friends with/related to/in a partnership with someone who doesn't ever see their children/support their children/both

people who believe that single-income households with two adults (only one working) deserve Tax Credits, other benefits and holidays but that single-parent working households are nothing other than 'benefit scrounging scum' who are 'entitled' when they go on holiday/buy a new car/have a handbag that cost more than 50p.

sigh.

That's just it purdie, from what I know of her background and current circs, she is middle-class, but that's not "posh" is it and she's no different from most of the rest of us. It's rather as if she's sitting among a group of, say, Girl Guides and constantly squeaking, "well I'm a Girl Guide you know". Weird.

no not really, but I do have twins......they are 16 now.

Sunny, you bloody rotter. Are they copper of thatch?

@ 'copper of thatch'

No they are blonde, I just said that to make you feel bad.