His divorce

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Am I being unreasonable to want my boyfriend to accept my offer to lend him £400 to get his divorce papers sent off?

Withyourkiss - glad to know that things worked out OK for you in the end

Is this STILL dragging on?

Thank you Jolse it has worked out for me more than ok. Interestingly enough I did not post bout a relationship problem myself as my relationship is great. I answered questions and posters made a lot of inaccurate assumptions bout my DP and our relationship which are fucking bollocks. Tis the reason I was a tad pissed off for the OP when I read this thread.

Oh for the love of pancakes has she still not dumped him yet?!
You are a glutton for punishment aren't you op.
Why you keep on with this tosser I'll never know, especially since his behaviour towards you is horrendous.

He's with his wife and kids. Not in the ME.

I reckon his work will "extend his trip" so he has to stay for another couple of weeks.

op in the nicest possible way wake up!!!! He's stringing you along. He doesn't want to be with you. Just leave. Ignore. Just go.

Find someone who actually wants to be with you.

There's a reason you are putting up with this low bar for a relationship.

He's good in bed
Has plenty of money
You don't think you could get anyone else
You think this is ok
You have got into a habit of better the devil you know

Accept and admit what it is and move on.

Slightly off the point, but I've just looked at that Divorce Online website. What a rip off! They're using forms that are freely available online, getting people to fill them in, and charging them £189 to check what they've filled in and lodge them with the court. If your partner used that company, he's not the sharpest tool in the box.

Op, how are things going?

Things continued to be strained while he was away, he wasn't texting me, ringing me as much. He said it was because he couldn't get anywhere private to talk. He said he felt stressed and down and that work had been tough. When he got back he came round for dinner, etc but he still didn't seem right. I asked him if it could be depression to which he said yes. He then went to the doctors the Monday after he got back and was prescribed antidepressants. He is very withdrawn from me and we haven't seen each other much. Again not texting or ringing me like he did. We had a chat where he said he had convinced himself that I had found someone else whilst he was away (absolutely no idea how he came to that conclusion!) We discussed the situation with my mum and his reluctance with integrating the kids. He says he has a fear of moving things along further incase it goes wrong down the line like his marriage. The last couple of weeks have been pretty shit.

I've encouraged him to seek talking therapy like CBT but he went off at me yesterday when I mentioned it again, saying I was nagging him. I didn't see him or speak to him over valentines weekend as he said he needed space. I hoped he would ring me on Valentine's Day and he didn't. He got me fuck all for Valentine's Day. I wasn't expecting much but a small gesture would have been nice. I just don't know if this is actually depression as it came on very quickly although he says he is struggling to find joy in anything even his son.

Jesus Christ....

Bin

Jesus H Christ.

DUMP HIM.

Ahh so he has turned it on you may have found someone else!

What a surprise.

Do you know what most cheaters do? They accuse the others of cheating as they think they have the same morals.

Please for the love of your DC get away from this waste of life.

So he shagged someone else while he was away and is neither either paranoid or saying it just to throw you off the scent?

What a prize you have there op

Gah!

Stop giving it oxygen, people

So you think he cheated on me whilst he was away?

Go back and read this thread from the start. This guy has been causing you PAIN and MISERY for OVER A YEAR. Don't do it to yourself, you deserve far better.

I've had enough

You and me both OP.

Bloody hell, how much of your life are you going to let pass by?

What AnyFucker said.
This is just self indulgent attention seeking drivel.

Jesus tap dancing Christ!

I suggested I give him some space this weekend (no contact) which I need and he jumped at the chance. He says the only thing that he can get space from is us as he can't get space from his son and still has to work.