Skip to main content
Skip to main navigation
Skip to talk navigation

Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Saved Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Flip

MNHQ have commented on this thread

1 2 3 4 5 6 ··· 9 10

MNHQ have commented on this thread

AIBU?

to contact the police about my neighbor?

241 replies

leanne45 · 03/06/2015 14:59

Basically we had a massive party last weekend ,admittedly it went on later than we'd planned and carried on a bit on sunday ,but it's not like it's everyweekend, it's maybe twice a year at most.

So on monday, my husband was leaving for work and the next door neighbour confronted him about the noise. hubby just told him he needs to get a life and walked past him,because to be honest it's our house and again it's not like it's every weekend.

As he tried to walk past ,the neighbour grabbed him by the throat and basically said anymore noise and he would hurt us. He then saw me later ,came out and called me 'subhuman' and swore at me and went back in the house .Another neighbour he was out in his garden saw this, but said nothing.

Iam not comfortable living here now, and I want to call the police,because Iam worried what he might do.My hubby just says it could make things worse. He doesn't work,or doesn't seem to ,according to some people round here he has mental problems and he goes to the gym everyday, to be honest they way he acted and looks like he is on steriods. Could the police search his house and get him out of there that way? he rents.

OP posts:

Report

DoraGora · 03/06/2015 15:50

OP's hubby could be about the same size. In the end, this could come down to who can keep the stereo on longest. OP, what kind of music do you listen to?

sadwidow28 · 03/06/2015 15:51

Iliveinalighthousewithaghost

You said that the OP came here for support.

The OP came here for validation or a wind-up.

loopylou6 · 03/06/2015 15:52

Well if he's known for being a 'psycho' maybe your husband shouldn't have antagonised him by being rude.

A simple ' I'm sorry to of disturbed you' would have been appropriate.

asmallandnoisymonkey · 03/06/2015 15:52

On another note, this thread is genuinely entertaining. But like a gladiator fight is entertaining when one of the gladiators' legs has been injured and is now dragging himself around the ring, desperately trying to avoid having his head chopped off while the other one advances, menacingly, with a large and scary axe.

Obviously the Romans were on to something.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 03/06/2015 15:52

Sorry op that people on here have been rude and abusive to you.
I detest people being ganged up on. These must all be saints

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 03/06/2015 15:53

Always one isn't there

Frostycake · 03/06/2015 15:53

So, basically, he had his weekend ruined by being kept awake by your noise THROUGHOUT THE WEEKEND because you didn't like the look of him so didn't tell him he was about to have his weekend ruined. Can you not see how this would make someone mad?

all it needed was a polite note through the door (no need for confrontation if you don't like the look of him), saying 'we're having a party on Sat/Sun, apologies in advance for the noise and disruption. Please come along for a drink if you're free, best wishes, Leanne'

Then he has a choice of whether to go and stay with family/friends/a travel lodge, stay in or pop round.

You stole his weekend effectlvly.

ThatBloodyWoman · 03/06/2015 15:53

Perhaps you or your dh should go and talk to him to clear the air.
You can apologise,he'll probably then apologise.
Surely that has to be better than feeling miserable where you live?

19lottie82 · 03/06/2015 15:54

Maybe the OP was out of line with the party, but the neighbour still assaulted her husband and threatened further violence. I would be calling the police, definitely.

TheFairyCaravan · 03/06/2015 15:55

No-one is "ganging up" on the OP Ilive!

TwinkieTwinkle · 03/06/2015 15:55

I'd also love to hear the police response to:

'You need to search our neighbours house. He goes to the gym and can get angry when we've partied for a day and a half. He must be on steroids.'

YouTheCat · 03/06/2015 15:56

I wonder how that poor bloke was feeling at 1am on Sunday morning as he was trying to sleep?

No violence isn't the answer but having a loud party into the small hours without bothering to warn your neighbour was shitty behaviour.

You need to apologise.

TwinkieTwinkle · 03/06/2015 15:56

live so do you feel the OP's husbands response was acceptable?

DoraGora · 03/06/2015 15:58

The police response is:

What?
What?
Say that again?
Can you speak a bit louder, please?

Piratejones · 03/06/2015 15:58

OP do you live in garden lodge by any chance?

Spadequeen · 03/06/2015 15:58

Op you really are quite stupid aren't you. No I wouldn't want to live near someone like that, however I wouldn't want to live hear you either.

If he was really that scary, your dh wouldn't have told him to get a life.

Grow up and start thinking about other people, not just yourself.

leanne45 · 03/06/2015 15:58

The neighbour just let go after saying he would smash us both up if we played music again. My husband reckons we should see if it blows over and won't call the police because he doesn't know who next door might know or who he is. He is worried calling the police might make him worse.

OP posts:

TheFairyCaravan · 03/06/2015 15:58

People who don't work weekends forget that people do work weekends when they are having their parties until 3am!

sadwidow28 · 03/06/2015 15:58

I'll post more and [coffee] whilst we wait for MNHQ verdict!

Okay......... some of you want (I'll have to walk the dog to the shop! Tsk!

EvansOvalPiesYumYum · 03/06/2015 15:59

according to some people round here he has mental problems and he goes to the gym everyday, to be honest they way he acted and looks like he is on steriods. Could the police search his house and get him out of there that way? he rents

Iliveinalighthouseiwihttheghost So these comments, alongside a party lasting 1.5-2 days is not considered 'ganging up' on someone? At best it could be described as bullying and antagonistic.

TheReluctantCountess · 03/06/2015 15:59

You'd better move then. I suspect your neighbour will cheer when he sees the for sale sign go up.

gamerchick · 03/06/2015 15:59

If my neighbour had loud parties for that length of time I would literally be a jibbering sobbing wreck on the Monday morning. If I had then been told to get a life for complaining I wouldn't have been held responsible for my actions.

Knock it off with the loud parties OP.. You don't have the right to disturb someone's peace for that length of time. Stop or turn down the music by 10/11 in future.

ChuffinAda · 03/06/2015 15:59

He was patient tbh. I'd have sent DH round at 11 to ask them to turn the noise down and if it carried on I'd have called the council.

If you had have caused me to go sick from work on Monday due to your inconsiderate behaviour I'd have gone mad. My disability deteriorates if I have inadequate sleep. You would have had a gob full from me.

sadwidow28 · 03/06/2015 16:00

Ooops - sorry coffee drinkers .... that should have been but in my world you would have been served TEA!

CatMilkMan · 03/06/2015 16:00

I can't comprehend your line of thinking, I wouldn't want to live within a mile of you OP.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 ··· 9 10

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.