to contact the police about my neighbor?

[leanne45]

Basically we had a massive party last weekend ,admittedly it went on later than we'd planned and carried on a bit on sunday ,but it's not like it's everyweekend, it's maybe twice a year at most.

So on monday, my husband was leaving for work and the next door neighbour confronted him about the noise. hubby just told him he needs to get a life and walked past him,because to be honest it's our house and again it's not like it's every weekend.

As he tried to walk past ,the neighbour grabbed him by the throat and basically said anymore noise and he would hurt us. He then saw me later ,came out and called me 'subhuman' and swore at me and went back in the house .Another neighbour he was out in his garden saw this, but said nothing.

Iam not comfortable living here now, and I want to call the police,because Iam worried what he might do.My hubby just says it could make things worse. He doesn't work,or doesn't seem to ,according to some people round here he has mental problems and he goes to the gym everyday, to be honest they way he acted and looks like he is on steriods. Could the police search his house and get him out of there that way? he rents.

[Fairylea]

Yabu just for having a party until 3 am with loud music. I'd be livid if I lived next door to you.

[Pipistrella]

be honest. you wouldn't have problems with living next door to someone like that?

I'd have problems living next door to people like you and your H tbh.

Yes I'd find it worrying. However I'm assuming he gave you no trouble before now?

I think the situation is now beyond repair, all you can do is continue in the stalemate.

Your parties are unreasonable - what are the family (with young children?) supposed to do for those two nights a year - move out? How are their kids meant to sleep? You're basically ruining their weekend each and every time you do this.

It's not acceptable - as a one off, possibly, given enough notice (like for a wedding or 60th or something) but NOT once or twice a year FFS.

You are totally inconsiderate to do that, and then for your pathetic husband to say 'get a life' instead of discussing it like a grown up - words fail me.

[The5DayChicken]

Thank you Annie

[Skiptonlass]

Assuming you're genuine...

Do you honestly think it's ok to have a party with loud music that goes on all weekend? It's not. If you have a party that you think could disturb your neighbours you let them know. If you're having a party that's going to need music till 3am you hire a venue. My god your neighbours must love you.....

I used to have neighbours who had loud karaoke parties till 3am. I loathed them with every fibre of my being. They were a blight on the neighbourhood.

No, your neighbour should not be putting hands on throats, but good grief, try calling the police over this one and (hopefully) environmental health will be round to seize your stereo equipment.

[Pooka]

A massive party until 3am, then starting up again on the Sunday afternoon?!

Yes it's your house. Just as he has the right to peaceful enjoyment of his house, as well as your other neighbours. Why does your right to disrupt the neighbourhood trump everyone else's right to just have some sleep on a weekend. Bloody selfish behaviour.

Of course he shouldn't have grabbed your DH. Of course your dh should not have responded to a justified complaint by telling him to get a life.

[FarFromAnyRoad]

Well this is helping to pass the interminable wait at the doctor's so thanks for that OP. Oh - YABU by the way.

[Tomuchcake]

All night Saturday and into Sunday!?!?!????

I would of been annoyed too!!!!

[ApeMan]

OK, well this works on a couple of levels.

Firstly, obviously it is not ok to lay your hands on someone blah blah etc.

OK, now in terms of the man to man discussion, it seems to me that your husband was quite happy to laugh in the man's face and tell him to sod off when he thought he could. Perhaps your neighbour seemed like a respectable polite chap so DH could act the hard man.

Just for that, he deserved a shock, and he should consider himself jolly lucky he didn't get a slap for his trouble. As wrong as that would be etc., and as much as the other guy exposes himself to prosecution.

Further by acting in an unneighbourly and antisocial way he has created a situation where there is bad blood and it may be an untenable situation.

...and this is why the rest of us spend time and energy trying to be polite and a bit considerate to the people around us, rather than being asbo twats. My advice would be an abject apology to your neighbour, but I guess it might be too late for that now.

[ApeMan]

*may be untenable to stay

[TheSortingCat]

YABU. You and your husband sound like awful neighbours.

I am at "get a life" - I just can't believe how rude people can be.

[Aermingers]

On the off chance this isn't .

I've thought about this and actually, I do condone the violence. People like the OP go through life making other people's lives a misery. Most of us just meekly (I've twice had to move away from dickhead neighbours like this and I did) call the police or the counveil who are really toothless. The OP has just had the misfortune to pick on someone who's a slightly bigger bastard than they are. Now the OP feels intimidated which is probably how most neighbours would feel if they had neighbours who had all night parties and said 'get a life' to noise complaints would feel. They're just getting a taste of their own medicine. The OPs husband sounds like the sort of person who would only respond to violence TBH. They've brought this on themselves. Behave like a twat all the time and sooner or later you're going to come up against somebody who will do what it takes to put you in your place. And it sounds like a few threats of violence and a bit of a scare is the only thing that would get through to these idiots.

On another note. Isn't it half term in a lot of places now?

[Moreshabbythanchic]

If you do decide to move OP please dont let it be anywhere near me, I get very cross if I cant sleep.

[SomedayMyPrinceWillCome]

Am I the only on thinking this is a reverse?

Oh, and I brought popcorn too!!

[sheffieldstealer]

hubby just told him he needs to get a life and walked past him, because to be honest it's our house and again it's not like it's every weekend.

to be honest they way he acted and looks like he is on steriods

because to be honest we don't like the look of him,

'To be honest' does not mean 'fuck you then'.

[CandyAppleFudge]

Yabu, I'd be pretty pissed off if you had party and then told me to get a life. Nice effort though.

[YoureAllABunchOfBastards]

My DH is a lovely placid bloke. However, if you'd done this and told him to get a life, I reckon he'd have gone for you. Just bloody rude.

[TaliZorahVasNormandy]

My adjoining neighbour was playing music til past half 2 and shouting with his mates. If had saw him the next day, i'd have felt like punching him too.

[SomedayMyPrinceWillCome]

Am I the only on thinking this is a reverse?

Oh, and I brought popcorn too!!

[IrianofWay]

If my options for potential neighbours were:

1. A slightly odd man who may or may not have mental health problems and keeps himself to himself by and large.
   

1. Selfish people who don't warn beforehand of noisy parties, allow the noise to continue until 3 am and then start up again the next day, and then rudely dismiss any concerns when raised.
   

I think I'd go for option 1 please.

[TaliZorahVasNormandy]

My adjoining neighbour was playing music til past half 2 and shouting with his mates. If had saw him the next day, i'd have felt like punching him too.

[OurGlass]

You all sound rather vile. Call Jeremy Kyle, sounds right up your street.

[MammaTJ]

So, why did it not occur to your DH to use the words 'I'm sorry' and/or 'It won't happen again', instead of the inflammatory 'Get a life'?

[UptheChimney]

We told the neighbours on the other side a family , but not him because to be honest we don't like the look of him,never spoken to him and he has never spoken to us. Before now he would just ignore us. He creeps us out tbh

YABU. Very and completely. You're lucky your neighbour didn't call the police about your party.

[worksallhours]

Could the police search his house and get him out of there that way? he rents.

Am I correct in thinking you want to find a way to encourage the police to search this man's house for illegally-obtained steroids so his landlord evicts him, purely because you now feel uncomfortable living next to him because of the way he reacted after you threw a "massive party" where the music continued until 3am and your husband's response to this man's distress was "get a life"?

If so, then the person who is the true menace here, I am afraid, would be you. I cannot think of something more underhand and appalling than the above.

[BarbarianMum]

He may well target you. Really you should move, maybe to somewhere quite rural and away from other houses?