to contact the police about my neighbor?

[leanne45]

Basically we had a massive party last weekend ,admittedly it went on later than we'd planned and carried on a bit on sunday ,but it's not like it's everyweekend, it's maybe twice a year at most.

So on monday, my husband was leaving for work and the next door neighbour confronted him about the noise. hubby just told him he needs to get a life and walked past him,because to be honest it's our house and again it's not like it's every weekend.

As he tried to walk past ,the neighbour grabbed him by the throat and basically said anymore noise and he would hurt us. He then saw me later ,came out and called me 'subhuman' and swore at me and went back in the house .Another neighbour he was out in his garden saw this, but said nothing.

Iam not comfortable living here now, and I want to call the police,because Iam worried what he might do.My hubby just says it could make things worse. He doesn't work,or doesn't seem to ,according to some people round here he has mental problems and he goes to the gym everyday, to be honest they way he acted and looks like he is on steriods. Could the police search his house and get him out of there that way? he rents.

[butterfly133]

having dealt with this form of entitlement recently - a neighbour having several parties till late at night and saying we shouldn't complain because it was the weekend - I think the is likely real. The neighbour in question was genuinely angry with us for complaining. It only got resolved because she was renting and we wrote to her landlord.

Part of the problem with people like this is they don't notice what goes on around them so asking them to understand how nightmarish the sleep deprivation is for others is pointless.

I think that poor neighbour was on his last nerve when your husband was so rude to him. All I can say is, if you have any consideration for your neighbours at all, don't subject them to this again. Hire a hall.

[minesapintofwine]

Mh problems I fuck you phone

[minesapintofwine]

And last word is grrr (leaves in shameI)

[shadowfax07]

An elderly relative once gave me a very, very good piece of advice, OP 'Don't fall out with your neighbours'.

Have a think about it, I've had neighbours like you, partying until 3am, and quite frankly, you and your ilk are the scum of the earth. You do realise that when you come to sell your house, you'll now have to disclose this as a dispute with your neighbours if you do consider reporting this to the police?

Make a fulsome, grovelling apology to ALL your neighbours, and make sure it doesn't happen ever again.

[LuluJakey1]

Well I wouldn't particularly want to live next door to him.

And I definitely would not want to live next door to you and your husband. You sound like selfish, inconsiderate, rude, nightmare neighbours.

[kali110]

I'd also rather live near your neighbour than you!
You don't like him purely because of his looks and you've heard he's a pysco?
You play music for hours on end, your partner is a wanker to him and you wonder why he's pissed off???
My dp is a biker, people think he is scum. He is one of the loveliest dopiest people you will ever meet.
We also have noisy neighbours.
I suffer from ill health.
Op you may only occasionally play your music till 3am, that does not help me if that keeps me up with my pain.

[kali110]

If you were my neighbours at 12 i would have called the police on you till you turned it off.
Atleast my noisy neighbpurs stop making so much noise after then.

[catlovingdoctor]

Your H sounds like a knob, and so do you.

[Crocodopolis]

I vote for this thread being a windup.

[MiscellaneousAssortment]

Yes I agree Croc. Or at least I hope it is, otherwise I'd have to believe there really are people who believe that being this pig ignorant and foul is their 'right'.

Ugh. It's a good windup as I losthe badly behaved small minded idiots who engineer a situation then act all wounded wrongness about it

[WhereYouLeftIt]

This thread is so interesting - I find myself wondering if this is how the world looks to all those unreasonable people, where their behaviour is just peachy, and the inevitable reaction of normal people to that behaviour is incomprehensible to them. I suppose it must be!

[FenellaFellorick]

ime, unreasonable people never understand or accept that they are unreasonable. The world is wrong and out to get them and nothing they do is ever to blame for anything and they feel totally surrounded by unreasonable and mean people.

It's fascinating, really it is. The total lack of self awareness that is required is unreal.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

Exactly Fenella. I suppose because most threads are started by reasonable people gobsmacked by unreasonable people, it makes a thread started by an unreasonable person complaining about a reasonable person really stand out.

It didn't take OP long to show who she was, 2nd para and it's "hubby just told him he needs to get a life " - no awareness of how rude her husband was, otherwise she'd never have admitted to him saying that. She's not boasting he said that, she's not hiding it, because in her world that's perfectly OK. As you say, fascinating !

[GRT]

I just think there's a fundamental dishonesty to adopting a dismissive "fuck you I do what I like to you, mate" demeanour (whether that is fully understood by by third parties or not, that's what that is) with another man who you have just kept up all night with your antisocial behaviour, then acting like a shocked and surprised victim who abhors conflict when it causes a public order issue. It smacks of a cowardly bully running and hiding behind teacher.

I am in no way justifying someone going around assaulting people when I say I think OP's DH could totally have expected it and was banking on the other chap being too nice or too intimidated to respond.

What would have been so hard with being neighbourly and decent at some point, anyway? I mean ffs even the tiniest bit of give and take, or gesture of good will could have averted the whole situation. Why is treating other people like they are human beings such a difficult thing to master?

[ghostspirit]

your husband should not have spoken to him like that. why not just apoligis.this may not have happend if he had. The neighbour should not have touched your husband either..neighbour also should not be shouting insults to you. maybe the other neighbour did not say anything as he does not want to be involved. i don't think it matters who is wrong really. its the fact that unless any of you are going to be moving anytime soon. then you going to be living next door for a long time. pick your battles as they say...

[DoughDoe]

Apparently we aren't allowed to accuse you of being a troll, so I won't.