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to contact the police about my neighbor?

241 replies

leanne45 · 03/06/2015 14:59

Basically we had a massive party last weekend ,admittedly it went on later than we'd planned and carried on a bit on sunday ,but it's not like it's everyweekend, it's maybe twice a year at most.

So on monday, my husband was leaving for work and the next door neighbour confronted him about the noise. hubby just told him he needs to get a life and walked past him,because to be honest it's our house and again it's not like it's every weekend.

As he tried to walk past ,the neighbour grabbed him by the throat and basically said anymore noise and he would hurt us. He then saw me later ,came out and called me 'subhuman' and swore at me and went back in the house .Another neighbour he was out in his garden saw this, but said nothing.

Iam not comfortable living here now, and I want to call the police,because Iam worried what he might do.My hubby just says it could make things worse. He doesn't work,or doesn't seem to ,according to some people round here he has mental problems and he goes to the gym everyday, to be honest they way he acted and looks like he is on steriods. Could the police search his house and get him out of there that way? he rents.

OP posts:
NoisyOyster · 03/06/2015 15:33

You sound a nightmare op

gamerchick · 03/06/2015 15:34

Noooo man OP talking about people shitting on your bog is better bait.

In the slim instance this is real your bloke is lucky he didn't get twatted rather than just grabbed.

honeyandfizz · 03/06/2015 15:35

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Icimoi · 03/06/2015 15:35

Ah, another of those interesting first posts, I see.

DrWhooves · 03/06/2015 15:35

You and your hubby sound like a right pair of twats OP. I can see why your neighbour reacted like that, I have a pain in the arse inconsiderate neighbour and I imagine her face on the punchbag at my combat class, it helps me punch harder Grin.

DoraGora · 03/06/2015 15:38

On the subject of noisy neighbours, anyone see that a woman has been sent to jail for making sex noises? I think the whole noisy neighbour thing is coming to a head (no pun intended.)

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leanne45 · 03/06/2015 15:39

We told the neighbours on the other side a family , but not him because to be honest we don't like the look of him,never spoken to him and he has never spoken to us. Before now he would just ignore us. He creeps us out tbh

The music went off about 3 sunday morning, but might of gone back on sunday afternoon as more people turned up, not as loud though. By the evening sunday it had all stopped.

To be honest I don't want to spend another night here now. I understand we could have spoken to him, but how many of you would like to live next door to a person like him? be honest. you wouldn't have problems with living next door to someone like that? who puts hands round someones throat and is his size, and people round here say he's a psycho.

And he also came out and called me subhuman and other things when I was getting out the car . that was after he had put his hands around my husbands throat and made threats. I just worry he is going to target us now.

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NoisyOyster · 03/06/2015 15:42

You've completely missed everyone's comments about the fact that the first thing your "hubby" (shudder) said was not "I'm sorry about the noise" but "get a life"

Yes he shouldn't have been aggressive. But if I was your neighbour I'd want to throttle you and your hubby too. You both sound like idiots

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 03/06/2015 15:42

Oh well as long as you don't like the look of him that's ok to disturb his right to peace and quiet in his home.
And as for the rest, well that really does teach you not to deliberately piss your psychotic neighbours off

DoraGora · 03/06/2015 15:42

Why don't you like the look of him, OP? If he took his hands off your husband's neck you could probably get a better angle.

namechange0dq8 · 03/06/2015 15:43

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WayneRooneysHair · 03/06/2015 15:43

OP you sound like a twunt, I'm not condoning the violence but you really need to look in the mirror.

OnlyLovers · 03/06/2015 15:43

YABU. You had a party from, what, Saturday night until about 3 Sunday morning (or it 'might' have started up again on Sunday afternoon – might? You really don't know? – and lasted until Sunday evening.

You don't think this is at all worthy of an apology to the neighbours? You and
your husband think it's OK to tell your neighbour to get a life? Hmm Maybe the throat-grabbing wouldn't have happened if he'd apologised instead.

Number3cometome · 03/06/2015 15:43

I just worry he is going to target us now

If I was your neighbour I would. I would call noise pollution every time you so much as sneezed too loud.

SumThucker · 03/06/2015 15:44

Noisy neighbours can be the bane of peoples lives (I know from personal experience). If your husband had have told me to 'get a life' after mentioning the noise I'd have probably drove my forehead onto the bridge of his nose, to be honest.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 03/06/2015 15:45

Honestly I dispair at times at the lack of compassion self righteous folk on here. Only on mn would you be on the receiving of such an unsympathetic hostile response.
Love this site as I do I'd be lying if I said I couldn't see where the best of vipers reputation comes from. You come on here for support and people just wade in.
No you were not being unreasonable by having a party, but yes you were being unreasonable if it disturbed your neighbours sleep. That's the only pop I am going to have
But no amount of noise warrants anyone grabbing anyone by the throat and threatening to hurt them. Also we all have different levels of noise levels that bother us don't we. If you play music one night ( which is allowed is he going to come around throwing his weight. That was threatening behaviour and the police need to be informed. Yes they may want to talk to you about the noise but like I said you can't compare that to threatening to hurt someone.

mynewpassion · 03/06/2015 15:45

I would not want to live next to someone who thinks its acceptable to leave loud music in until 3am

you could have continued the party but with the music turned down and the general volume turned down after 1 am

TheFairyCaravan · 03/06/2015 15:45

You had music on until 3am! Shock

Fuck me, I am so glad you don't live anywhere near me!

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 03/06/2015 15:45

Tbh if my neighbour had made such a din for so long and then told me to 'get a life' when I mentioned it, it would take a lot of strength to not put my hands round their neck

KingTut · 03/06/2015 15:46

Marking my place in case this thread is still here later.

ThatBloodyWoman · 03/06/2015 15:48

How did your dh end the whole neck grabbing business,op?
What does he think to it all -have you told him the situation is worrying you?

The5DayChicken · 03/06/2015 15:48

Honestly OP, you don't sound very bright. This is supposedly a big bloke and people have told you he's "psycho", so you have very loud and long parties that are bound to piss him off then your OH tells him to get a life? Biscuit

asmallandnoisymonkey · 03/06/2015 15:49

I'd rather live next to him than next to you. I can just imagine your type in my head now. You are so totally unreasonable I don't even have the words to describe it.

VivaLeBeaver · 03/06/2015 15:49

He probably is going to target you from now on. That's what you get for playing music till 3am and again the following day.

TwinkieTwinkle · 03/06/2015 15:50

Can I ask, why didn't your husband just apologise?

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