to contact the police about my neighbor?

[leanne45]

Basically we had a massive party last weekend ,admittedly it went on later than we'd planned and carried on a bit on sunday ,but it's not like it's everyweekend, it's maybe twice a year at most.

So on monday, my husband was leaving for work and the next door neighbour confronted him about the noise. hubby just told him he needs to get a life and walked past him,because to be honest it's our house and again it's not like it's every weekend.

As he tried to walk past ,the neighbour grabbed him by the throat and basically said anymore noise and he would hurt us. He then saw me later ,came out and called me 'subhuman' and swore at me and went back in the house .Another neighbour he was out in his garden saw this, but said nothing.

Iam not comfortable living here now, and I want to call the police,because Iam worried what he might do.My hubby just says it could make things worse. He doesn't work,or doesn't seem to ,according to some people round here he has mental problems and he goes to the gym everyday, to be honest they way he acted and looks like he is on steriods. Could the police search his house and get him out of there that way? he rents.

Fucking hell, I'd hate you as my neighbours, you're a selfish pair aren't you? He shouldn't have done that to your DP but your DP's response to him get a life would have had me on the brink of stabbiness!

Have a bit of respect for your neighbours next time, there is certainly no need whatsoever to have loud, noisy parties that go on into the next day when you have neighbours to consider

Yabu, totally and completely and your dh is a fuckwit. The correct response when being confronted by your neighbour would have been a full and genuine apology.

Whilst what your neighbour did was wrong, sounds like you deserve each other.

I'd have called the police on you on Saturday night, tbh.

YABU. Your neighbour is the one that should be ringing the police to report your anti-social behaviour of having such a noisy party for such a long period of time.

Leave it.
Seriously.
If you don't want this to escalate,don't involve the police.
No one comes out of this looking great imo.

crosspost with Fairy

Yabu.

Although I don't believe this happened.

If it did you and your h sound like horrible neighbour.

No excuse to assault someone but you sound dreadful, and a bully as someone had noted.

Get him out of there by searching his house? Get a grip.

neighbours from hell. TV crew en route.

Do you fight over parking spaces too?
Does he have a wide screen TV?
And a goat?

The very first rule of having a loud party is INFORM YOUR NEIGHBOURS AND INVITE THEM!

Loudness can come from music, people laughing loudly and shouting in the garden/street.

Upset can even start with parking over other people's drives and in 'their' parking spaces on the street.

hubby just told him he needs to get a life and walked past him,because to be honest it's our house and again it's not like it's every weekend.

Your hubby inflamed a situation that was already at boiling point. Your NND approached your DH as a reasonable adult (although angry) who wanted to point out that your party behaviour was unacceptable - and was summarily dismissed. A simple "I'm so sorry, it won't happen again" and shake of hands was what was needed.

No - your neighbour should not have grabbed your DH by the throat. That is assault. However, if your NND would like to join Mumsnet, I'll tell him the appropriate way to have your loud, thoughtless bi-annual parties to be shut down! I live 1/2 mile from £million houses and they bring in live groups for parties which rock everyone who are sleeping in their beds up to 2am.

It's time for you to go 'cap in hand' to your neighbours and apologise. Explain that you did not realise how much the noise affected them and it will not happen again.

Either that - or move! You don't fit into this neighbourhood because IMO you are thoughtless and entitled.

Oh god, these responses! Yes, OP's dh was very rude and OP sounds inconsisderate. But FFS, their neighbour grabbed her DH by the neck and threatened to hurt them!

I would call the police (111) and ask what they might do in this situation. To be honest, if you wanted it, I imagine they would have no hesitation in charging him with assault, or if you didn't they would definitely go round and have a word with him, perhaps issue a caution. None of these things would get him out of the flat though, and if he genuinely a scary person you might not want to do this. If it becomes a problem your best option is probably moving yourself, unfortunately.

What's with the goat?

You want to get a neighbour evicted because of your incredibly bad behaviour?
Did I really interpret that correctly - surely not!

If so, then YABU.

Lots of people have parties and gatherings of friends from time to time - if it may potentially be rowdy and annoying, the polite thing to do is pre-warn your neighbours, then take round wine/chocolates/flowers by way of apology.
You and your husband have dealt with this inappropriately, and I'm glad you are not neighbours of mine.

have I just been sucked into another false thread? duh

Let me make a and join the front row.

I smell bullshit.

No one, after having an all weekend party is stupid enough to tell a complaining neighbour to get a life.

And if your DH is that stupid then I'm sure it won't be the last time someone physically threatens him.

He was probably in a sleep deprived rage. A 24 hour party can do that to anyone.

Yes, he was wrong, he committed an assault. But I would imagine your neighbours and the police would have nothing but sympathy for him.

And I would imagine he would be delighted if he had made you feel like moving. You say once or twice a year, so this isn't the first time you have kept everyone around you awake for a couple of days. I'd probably call you some choice names too!

Totally disagree with pp. You can't ask for a fight two days later. It has to be an immediate response. OP, you need to have another party first.

PS, you can keep the goat at mine.

Perhaps he was tired on account of your inconsiderate party, some people get very grumpy through lack of sleep...
The correct response to him would've been an apology, not 'get a life'

MaxPepsi, if I didn't know my BIL I would agree with you.

But I do know my BIL, so I can quite believe the OP!

It is unreasonable to assault someone.

It is unreasonable to have load parties lasting whole weekend.

It is very unreasonable to tell someone to get a life when they talk to you about aforementioned party.

But then, it is also unreasonable to post fake threads on mumsnet. I'm not saying you are. But just, you know, generally.

Glad I don't live on your mythical street!

I never did understand the goat thing. Must be before my time.

Loud not load!

I've brought and whilst we wait to see if this is real.

The dog might need a walk though - or he can stay here and jump up for attention from lovely MNetters. Your vote!