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to be annoyed about the state my toilet was left in...

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Lillamyy1 · 01/06/2015 06:18

I spent quite a while cleaning the bathroom yesterday morning, which made me even more annoyed, although I always keep the toilet clean...
A friend came round for a few hours and when her DP came to pick her up he went to use the bathroom and was there quite a while. When I went up there 10 or so minutes later I was hit by the most godawful stench, although to be fair to him we haven't any air freshened and he had opened the window, but oh my god the state of the toilet bowl! Skidder central. It was absolutely rank.
Surely it's common curtesy to flush a couple more times and pour some bleach down to try and get rid of the evidence if you've had a massive skiddy shit at someone else's house (and in fact your own house!) We have one of those toilet duck brushes with disposable heads which is in the cupboard so he couldn't have known it was there but the bleach is right next to the bloody loo!

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merrymouse · 01/06/2015 11:46

Is there a loo brush on display in this lovely bathroom? I think not!

(Although actually there is no loo roll either, so we would all be scuppered).

to be annoyed about the state my toilet was left in...
IKnowIAmButWhatAreYou · 01/06/2015 11:56

Even with a brush, if you are cleaning the u-bend your hand will go below the rim of the toilet.

Cleaning a toilet is different - I clean my toilet as you describe all the time.

I thought we were talking about cleaning skid marks off of someone elses loo?

In which case, a quick slosh with a brush is the quickest & nicest way - and anyone who says otherwise is a minging loon!! Grin

KERALA1 · 01/06/2015 12:01

Not having loo brushes is very very weird and utterly minging.

coffeetasteslikeshit · 01/06/2015 12:01

Can't believe you expected him to clean it with no brush! Ew.

Glad you said that Koala. Bleach breaks down eventually, but not fast enough to be harmless.

Feminine · 01/06/2015 12:07

All that happened, is that a man went to the toilet in the exact same way as he does at home.

Alittlebitofeverything · 01/06/2015 12:18

I feel this is now my time to share this story....

We had a young ish girl knock on our door asking us to donate to charity, we declined and so she said that was fine but was there any chance she could use our toilet. We of course said yes and my husband showed her to the downstairs loo, he tried to make himself scare but linger enough so he could show her out when she was done. Anyway time started ticking by and after about 15 minutes he suggested I should maybe check she was ok, about another 5 minutes went by and the lady emerged and made some really crude comment about weeing and camels and off she went leaving a really strong perfume smell in her wake.. Not thinking much more about it I nipped into the loo before we went out for the evening and my god she had left some mess in the toilet, we even have a toilet brush she could have made use of but she clearly favoured the option of having complete strangers clear up her poo instead... maybe that is their way of punishing non-donaters...Shock

SoldierBear · 01/06/2015 12:20

But he was not on his own home and deliberately left his shit for someone else to clean up.
Which is vile and there is never any excuse for that.unlesstjere sumo loo roll.
This is an adult male.
Who would leave a shit splattered toilet in another persons house? What kind of mindset does he have ?

Skeppers · 01/06/2015 12:21

Oh god, the perfume cover-up! boak

As if shit doesn't smell bad enough. It's true what they say: you (literally) can't polish a turd. It's like when teenage boys douse themselves in Lynx instead of showering! Confused

donemekmelarf · 01/06/2015 12:24

I understand OP.
Cleaning up your own family member's skidders is bad enough, but there's something a bit yuck about cleaning skidmarks of non-family members.

To be fair to the poor bloke, he may have had a dodgy stomach and when you gotta go you gotta go would you have preferred he shart himself?

KoalaDownUnder · 01/06/2015 12:25

Soldier, do you not think he probably just stood up, flushed and walked away without waiting for the flush to finish? And therefore did not know he'd left it 'shit splattered'?

I mean, I'd always check, but I'm prepared to believe people don't. I don't understand why you're assuming he clocked the mess and just didn't care. Hmm

spiderlight · 01/06/2015 12:26

Songlark I have severe ulcerative colitis. When I need to go, I need to go. It's not the kind of thing people tend to broadcast, but being 2 is not the only reason for not being able to hang on until you get home.

MrsNextDoor · 01/06/2015 12:30

Spider poor you :( I don't have any condition but when I need to go I need to go NOW. I can never understand people who can wait...how? I need to go and that's that...it's coming!

donemekmelarf · 01/06/2015 12:31

But you don't wipe your bottom with soggy falling - apart toilet roll with your hand submerged in poo soup

Well I was enjoying my bowl of oxtail soup Hmm

Bunbaker · 01/06/2015 12:35

"Yes he could have IBS or Crohns or he might have had a sudden bout of diarrhea but somehow I doubt it."

You seem very certain that he doesn't have a problem. How do you know?
Not everyone has a clockwork bottom.

expatinscotland · 01/06/2015 12:39

'Good for guests to use too though DP's skid happy brother certainly doesn't. Every time he comes over we're treated to one of his Pollock-esque creations the filthy arsebag confused'

Sorry, but more fool you. If he were my brother I'd get his arse in there to clean up his fucking mess.

'We had a young ish girl knock on our door asking us to donate to charity, we declined and so she said that was fine but was there any chance she could use our toilet.'

Only on MN have I encountered people who allow random strangers to use their loo the way they'd use a public toilet. Or anyone who asked like this. If I haven't invited them in for one reason or another, any stranger who asks to use my loo is told, 'No. There's a public one across the street,' and the door closes.

Songlark · 01/06/2015 12:42

Because if he had a chronic problem he would be well used to the routine of checking the toilet bowl to make sure it's clean.and his DP would be surely be aware of his habit of leaving other people's toilets in such a mess. He's made a mess in someone's toilet, stop trying to excuse him. If he has got such a chronic problem he should clean up his dirty mess after him. Apart from that if he simply can't wait how does he go on on car journeys, shit his pants?

Moomintroll85 · 01/06/2015 12:46

I do expat , trouble is he's a spoilt brat who throws a wobbly when asked to do anything or pulled up on something he's done wrong. His family just enable this behaviour and always have done. if it's not cleaned up by him, DP does it as I'm not fucking scrubbing it!

Bunbaker · 01/06/2015 12:51

"Apart from that if he simply can't wait how does he go on on car journeys, shit his pants?"

Perhaps he does or perhaps he loads up with Immodium first. You clearly have absolutely no understanding of what it is like to have bowel problems. I have friends with IBD, they manage to make long car journeys and flights - usually by taking tons of Immodium.

BertrandRussell · 01/06/2015 12:57

I agree he should have cleaned up after himself- but I really don't get the "he should hold it in til he gets home" thing. Why should he? What on earth is wrong with using a loo for the purpose it was intended for?

ApeMan · 01/06/2015 13:07

No visible loo brush = "I don't want people to be able to clean the loo after themselves."

I'd be mortified and embarrassed - you're a terrible toilet-hostess :P

eyebags63 · 01/06/2015 13:18

I would be mortified to leave a friends toilet in that state...... however if there was no bleach and brush on display I'm not sure it would occur to me to start wadding up toilet paper and scrubbing the loo by hand.

MovingStress · 01/06/2015 13:25

Only on MN have I encountered people who allow random strangers to use their loo the way they'd use a public toilet. Or anyone who asked like this. If I haven't invited them in for one reason or another, any stranger who asks to use my loo is told, 'No. There's a public one across the street,' and the door closes.

Really? Perhaps the subject just doesn't come up in conversation very often in real life! I have needed to use peoples toilets many atime. My work involves being outside most of the time, but if I need the toilet I have to go somewhere - so have asked of the house I'm working outside or when collecting gate keys etc. No one has ever said no!

Obviously not really a problem in your situation - but most places don't have a public toilet so close!

juliascurr · 01/06/2015 13:36

www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20324304

these are average - not Mumsnet - figures for household germs

JustLikeMe · 01/06/2015 13:42

I think that people who expect their guests to put their hands down the toilet to clean them are just vile.

I'm not a health fanatic and I'm pretty sure some people would be horrified by some of the things I'm happy with. But cleaning the toilet, going in the water with your bare hand Shock

There was no toilet brush, the guy clearly tried his best by opening the window. That's plenty for me!

As an aside, can I ask what is horrible about skid marks?? It's just poo coming from a very natural biological process. So where is the issue about knowing that someone had a poo in your toilet?

merrymouse · 01/06/2015 14:27

I think most people can ignore below the waterline skid marks. It's the poo clinging to the side of the toilet bowl that needs to be removed.