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to be annoyed about the state my toilet was left in...

493 replies

Lillamyy1 · 01/06/2015 06:18

I spent quite a while cleaning the bathroom yesterday morning, which made me even more annoyed, although I always keep the toilet clean...
A friend came round for a few hours and when her DP came to pick her up he went to use the bathroom and was there quite a while. When I went up there 10 or so minutes later I was hit by the most godawful stench, although to be fair to him we haven't any air freshened and he had opened the window, but oh my god the state of the toilet bowl! Skidder central. It was absolutely rank.
Surely it's common curtesy to flush a couple more times and pour some bleach down to try and get rid of the evidence if you've had a massive skiddy shit at someone else's house (and in fact your own house!) We have one of those toilet duck brushes with disposable heads which is in the cupboard so he couldn't have known it was there but the bleach is right next to the bloody loo!

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Feminine · 01/06/2015 14:35

I don't think it was okay, he left it like that - it must be his style.
A person with good manners would be used to leaving the bathroom fresh for the next user.
If he cared, he'd have used loo roll. It doesn't matter one bit that op didn't provide a loo brush!

Topseyt · 01/06/2015 14:49

Surely for some people on here toilets themselves are too minging to have indoors.

I would suggest that they return to the dark ages, when any houses that were lucky enough to have a toilet at all had one outside in the yard.

Go back to having outdoor toilets. Then both toilet and toilet brush can be outdoors. Out of sight, out of mind, and not sullying the gold standard cleanliness of your house. Problem solved.

Or just stop being so daft about toilets and toilet brushes.

This man did a poo in your toilet. There was no obvious means to clean it, so he opened the window. Has it ever occurred to you to wonder why the toilet is sometimes colloquially referred to as the shitter, or the shit house.

Hillingdon · 01/06/2015 14:50

I really dont know why some are trying to excuse his vile behaviour. If he really needed to do due to medical issues does that mean its Ok to leave that sort of mess. I have to say from what the OP has said that he has NO medical issues, it just didnt bother to check the state of the toilet before he left the room.

Still, you could be married to him so I guess its not all bad. You might have to clear up every day after him. If he does that in a friends house just think what his habits are like in his own house.

Notso · 01/06/2015 15:11

I wonder how some people on here manage to wipe their own arses without rubber gloves and disinfectant.

chandelierswinger · 01/06/2015 15:24

Retching at the thought... I would be mortified to leave anything in the toilet, apart from maybe the smell (without air freshener), and would clean up if it were me. Vile. And rude too! Not even mentioning it?!

IKnowIAmButWhatAreYou · 01/06/2015 15:35

I think that people who expect their guests to put their hands down the toilet to clean them are just vile.

Hear Hear!! Bog Brushes Rule!

howabout · 01/06/2015 15:42

Worth it for the controversy alone! Grin
I am in the have a toilet brush camp. I am confused. If you can't have a toilet brush for fear of pet / children playing with it how can you have bleach out fearlessly? Also how do you keep said poo fetishests out the toilet bowl?

My ideal guests do not use half a toilet roll (waste and blockage potential) to do the necessary and after using the brush clean it by re-flushing.
I manage to cope with the less than ideal ones without resorting to the Spanish Inquisition!

WipsGlitter · 01/06/2015 15:45

Also sometimes there are skids under the water that don't go away with flushing (I know this as the Phantom Skidder in work obviously flushes but doesn't use the loo brush!) do you expect people to put their hands in the poo-water??

blueshoes · 01/06/2015 15:46

OP, were you cleaning the toilet with wadded up loo roll because you refuse to own a loo brush? It is karma.

I think there are lessons to be learnt here.

IggyStrop · 01/06/2015 15:46

Bleach is AWFUL for the environment. Did you know that sewage waste that was once able to break down now can't because of the bleach (and other stuff containing triclosan) people chuck down their drains? And that's just the start of it - ingredients in the bleach continue their work on the environment post-sewer and does all kinds of shit to the external environment.

THINK before you use bleach, there are all kinds of alternatives.

Topseyt · 01/06/2015 15:50

I would never, ever put my hands down someone else's toilet. Ever. Not even wrapped in layers of toilet paper. Nor would I expect it of people who visit me. Have a toilet brush and I will clean. If you don't, then I will make several attempts to flush, but that doesn't always work fully. I will happily open the window, use air freshener etc.

We have two toilet brushes in this house, one in the bathroom upstairs and one beside the toilet downstairs. Clearly we are minging. Grin

WanderWomble · 01/06/2015 15:52

I have a loo brush and I'm proud of it. We're on a septic tank and I prefer to keep the chemicals going into it to a minimum. I'd never use bleach on a skid mark- that's what the brush is for.

It's far more vile to use loo roll to try to clean the sides of the pot.

Oh, and I have a dog that would love to steal said loo brush. I stop him from doing so by closing the bathroom door.

morage · 01/06/2015 15:52

I always use toilet brushes. But then I try and be environmentally friendly. Using tons of bleach to clean a toilet when a scrub with a toilet brush will do, is not something I would ever do.

Songlark · 01/06/2015 15:55

Perhaps he does or perhaps he loads up with Immodium first.
Perhaps he should have done that before he called at the OPs house, then he wouldn't have left such a disgusting mess. But as I've already said I don't think he's got bowel problems otherwise he'd surely be well rehearsed in cleaning up after himself.

ItsRainingInBaltimore · 01/06/2015 15:57

If you'd had a toilet brush this might never have needed to happen….

MY DH has IBS and it never ceases to amaze me how far the shit can get. It's like one of those pebble dashing machines, it seems to get blasted out like some sort of jet wash.

Buy a toilet brush.

kali110 · 01/06/2015 16:02

Agree with you there bunbaker. Its quite clear some people on here are very ignorant of stomach problems.
Well it is an invisible illness, enough said.
I have ibs btw i can make long journeys, however if i need to go i need to go!!

kali110 · 01/06/2015 16:04

Immodium does not always work.
You're very lucky to not suffer with it.

Stealthpolarbear · 01/06/2015 16:06

Yes wips I think that is the expectation.

Apologies to the pp whose soup I ruined :o

Frostycake · 01/06/2015 16:08

God yes. Always. You can tell everything about a person from the state they leave the loo in.

They leave it clean - they are respectful of people's property and have consideration for others.

They leave it messy - no consideration for others and expect others to clean up after them. Slovenly. Think they're above it.

gamerchick · 01/06/2015 16:16

bunbaker says the truth. If I have a long journey ahead of me I take an entire pack of immodium instants. Gives me about 19 hours with no crapping.

It is likely which was said unthread that the guy just went and left before the flush finished.

Shit happens man

Topseyt · 01/06/2015 16:19

Songlark, taking immodium often helps IBS sufferers, but it is not guaranteed any more than anything else is. You can still end up with a bout of it. Believe me I know. I have decades of experience. When you need to go, you need to go NOW, whether you recently dosed up on immodium or not. You HAVE to use whatever toilet is available often just hoping that one is actually available or risk a poo-splosion over your pants, trousers, the floor, anything. I am not exaggerating and I have every sympathy for people in that position.

I should think it highly unlikely that anyone would have thought "hang on, I can go and do my super-stinker skidder in Lillamyy1's toilet instead of ours". Much more likely that he was caught short, with or without having taken medication.

OP did not provide an obvious toilet brush. He did what he could.

As for coming out and saying "I've just pooed all over your toilet and left a stink", can you really blame people who are already mortified by an impending toilet accident if they may just be too embarrassed??

grumpasaur · 01/06/2015 16:29

I support those saying that waiting isn't always an option. I have lots of tummy trouble and sometimes can't wait.

kimmyw · 01/06/2015 16:29

Firstly, i think the guy tried his best to cover up the crime scene. He was probably very embarrassed but eventually gave up the cause.

Secondly, i don't have a loo brush. Not since my sister said she found her toddler once licking the loo brush.

Thirdly, am i seriously not allowed to put bleach down my loo now? lol

Passthecake30 · 01/06/2015 16:41

I would never put my hand down a loo either....I would've probably looked for the loo brush!

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