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to be annoyed about the state my toilet was left in...

493 replies

Lillamyy1 · 01/06/2015 06:18

I spent quite a while cleaning the bathroom yesterday morning, which made me even more annoyed, although I always keep the toilet clean...
A friend came round for a few hours and when her DP came to pick her up he went to use the bathroom and was there quite a while. When I went up there 10 or so minutes later I was hit by the most godawful stench, although to be fair to him we haven't any air freshened and he had opened the window, but oh my god the state of the toilet bowl! Skidder central. It was absolutely rank.
Surely it's common curtesy to flush a couple more times and pour some bleach down to try and get rid of the evidence if you've had a massive skiddy shit at someone else's house (and in fact your own house!) We have one of those toilet duck brushes with disposable heads which is in the cupboard so he couldn't have known it was there but the bleach is right next to the bloody loo!

OP posts:
merrymouse · 01/06/2015 07:21

The problem with keeping a loo brush on display is that you are transferring whatever was in the toilet onto its bristles and then leaving it in the bathroom for your dog or child's amusement.

They also look rubbish.

They are useful for cleaning but unnecessary for skid marks.

DosDuchas · 01/06/2015 07:22

More ew at shit glove than brush.
Men never check the loo. That's a given

MrsNextDoor · 01/06/2015 07:23

Wips why is it disgusting? Your hand doesn't touch the shit...the loo roll is then flushed. At least it's GONE unlike a shit encrusted brush stored beside the toilet! [boak]

MrsNextDoor · 01/06/2015 07:24

dos tbh I don't use a glove...just a thick wad of loo paper...it never touches my hand but I still wash if afterwards...FAR more hygenic than a brush.

wearejustlikeKevinBacon · 01/06/2015 07:25

Its what loos are for though. If your post had been about the state of you bathroom floor then fair enough...

As someone posted on MN ages ago, re poo 'its only poo, its hardly a hazardous chemical waste'. Poor guy was probably mortified. This is the trade off for not having a loo brush. If you did have one your post would have probably have been about the shitty sate that it was left in.

merrymouse · 01/06/2015 07:27

I bet there are less germs in the average flushed toilet, even under the water, than there are on the average bus shelter bench.

Neither are going to harm you if you wash your hands.

Songlark · 01/06/2015 07:29

If he can't manage to call at someone's house without the sudden need for a shit I wonder how he manages on a long motorway journey when he's miles from any services. Of course he could have held it in. He's not a child. I've never done that in my life. Dirty sod.

Bunbaker · 01/06/2015 07:30

Songlark maybe he has IBS. Maybe he did have diarrhea. How many people would actively choose to go to the loo at someone else's house if they could have waited until they got home? I know I wouldn't.

I have IBS and holding on isn't always an option. You clearly can control your bowels more easily, but not everyone can.

WipsGlitter · 01/06/2015 07:30

Use loo brush to remove shit
Leave in bowl with bristles in water
Flush toilet - brush is cleaned by flush
You can get them in the £1 shop so replace weekly if you really can't stand it

SnotQueen · 01/06/2015 07:31

God motherhood has given me a cast iron stomach - I'm reading this while eating breakfast!

We are toilet brush people but am intrigued to see if bleach by itself works.

I like using the brush to give it a good scrub when cleaning. Simple pleasures.

AlisonBlunderland · 01/06/2015 07:32

Ikea do black toilet brushes?
That's my afternoon sorted

swimmerforlife · 01/06/2015 07:32

Would you seriously mention skids marks left on a previous visit next time you saw him?! The poor guy would be mortified as it is, and I don't know how I could ask that with a straight face.

Yes, okay he could have cleaned it with bog roll but it's not a nice feeling having to touch a stranger's toilet. JUST BUY A BLOODY TOILET BRUSH.

allowme · 01/06/2015 07:33

I keep an empty bleach bottle next to the loo to fill with warm water and power squirt the skids away. Not much use for guests though but I prefer to keep those to a minimum Smile

Minisoksmakehardwork · 01/06/2015 07:35

Those of you who glove up to clean skids off - do you have a box of disposable gloves for guest use? Genuine question. I'm just wondering how you expect guests to clean the bowl without a brush.

Dh and I both suffer from IBS and can have some explosive, urgent movements so we have a loo brush. It gets rinsed and left in disinfectant when we've used it. And when we have guests, I'd expect them to use it to clean up if needed.

This may be why OP's visitor had to go. I'd not begrudge anyone using a toilet for their designed purpose, no matter how short their visit.

sandgrown · 01/06/2015 07:35

I agree Wips. I clean toilet with brush and leave it standing in toilet. I pot bleach in toilet and leave to soak. Next flush cleans the brush. Just don't sit down with it still there!

ptumbi · 01/06/2015 07:36

soldierBear - you'd mention it to him next time you saw him? Now, see, I think that's rude!

It is a toilet, it's for shitting in. He's probably quite mortified at his 'urgency' (yes, maybe IBS? ) and to have it brought up is not my idea of being a good hostess, or even a nice human being.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 01/06/2015 07:38

Of course not everyone can hold it in what a ridiculous assumption.
If I'm having an IBS flare up I either do it in the toilet then and there or face the indignity of doing it in my pants just so as not to offend your delicate constitution

Bunbaker · 01/06/2015 07:40

Heaven forbid that he or anyone with IBS/IBD should need to use the loo at Songlark's house .

pictish · 01/06/2015 07:40

Songlark I have been known to need a poo urgently. I haven't got IBS or Crohns or any digestive problems but sometimes I just get caught by the need.

To suggest that it's an outrage to use OP's toilet...to do the toilet, is just ludicrous. Stop it.

MidniteScribbler · 01/06/2015 07:41

Oh just buy a bloody toilet brush. Clean toilet with brush, squirt with bleach/toilet cleaner, flush toilet with toilet brush under the water flow. Cleaned. Or as clean as you need it to be for something that only gets used for cleaning shit off a toilet. Unless you're planning on brushing your teeth with it, then get over it.

Songlark · 01/06/2015 07:44

Bunbaker who knows if he has IBS, but surely if he has then you'd have expected him to be an old hand at cleaning up after himself. His DP would surely have experienced his disgusting toilet messes in other houses on past occasions and told him how gross it was to leave someone's toilet in that state. Very unlikely to have IBS imo.

VanillaTwirl · 01/06/2015 07:47

I'm another with IBS and IBD, and the urgency cannot be 'held' and is often explosive (sorry for tmi...).

Toilet brush and bleach next to the toilet is a godsend for me.
(And a product called 'poo pourri', which you squirt onto the water & pan interior before you go - it stops the horrid pervading stench of poo).

SoldierBear · 01/06/2015 07:48

So what if he'd be mortified at being told you do not leave shit in a toilet? If he doesn't already know that then it is time he learnt. And also how to clean it. He is an adult not a child
There is never any reason for an adult without a disability that precludes them from cleaning up their own shit to leave it for someone else.
If be bloody furious at his disgusting habits and explain where the cleaning supplies are left.
I'm stunned that so many would not think of using loo roll.
Leaving skid marks is never ok.
He should be mortified - that he's such a manky bugger

Outwith · 01/06/2015 07:48

I bloody love MN toilet brush threads. Grin. Although they're shocking from an environmental angle - bleach / disposable toilet brushes / replacing toilet brushes weekly. Honestly, a toilet brush that's been used 100 toned and is bleached weekly is probably just as clean as a toilet brush that's been used once. Confused I don't know how lots of MNers can bear to have a toilet in their bathroom.

icelollycraving · 01/06/2015 08:00

Grim. He opened the window,you don't have air freshener. I think most men are unlikely to start getting wads of tissue if they can't see a loo brush. If he needed to go then that's what a loo is for,although no one wants to see or smell someone else's shit!