To not let dd have her hair cut?

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Dd1 (13) wants her hair cut very short. We have said no for the following reasons:

1. She will not be able to manage/style it and needs her hair at a length where it can be tied up if necessary
2. Her behaviour recently has not been good and she gets very angry when we say no to her

Dd maintains it is her choice and her hair and at 13 should be allowed to cut it however she wants. She struggles to get up everyday and wouldn't be able to style it and as she's sensitive about how she looks it would end up with her refusing to go to school if it doesn't 'look right'
She is furious with us.

She was really pleased with it whereas I was sweating with the kitchen scissors and the picture of what she wanted in front of me. I'm quite proud of myself actually and to have made dd smile it must have looked good!
If she manages it I will leave the proper cut to a professional though!

Could this be the start of a new career ?!

Well done OP.

Great outcome, OP - brilliant compromise!

:) :)

Brilliant Hedgehog, you must have done a great job to get a 13 year old to smile

Hurrah!

That's great, hopefully she'll find it easy enough and if not then she hasn't got to struggle for months. Has she been happier to go to school the last two days?

Let her express her own individuality and be herself. If it leads to problems then she has to deal with them. Forcing a dd to have long hair smacks of being in some kind of weird religious sect...

That's great, OP - a compromise that you are both happy with! Hopefully, that will keep the morning routine under control while your daughter has got the change/new look she wanted so much. An inspired idea!

I was going to come in with the 'You can't keep controlling a 13 year old' and 'if you think this is bad, you have worse to come', then I realised who the OP is. You have so much on your plate, sometimes it is hard to see the wood from the trees!

I don't have the answers but I want to acknowledge how hard it must be for you. It is also hard for your DD.

Can you style her hair in the mornings when you need to? Probably not, with your own needs and those of your other DC!

In 5 years though, she will be able to make her own mistakes choices, not much you will be able to do about that.

I wish you the best!

And now I read back and see you have sorted it, props to you Hedgehog!

WTF!

What on earth No?

Blimey!

Nofun Reported, you should be ashamed of yourself.

How about the compromise of her needing to be ready 15 minutes earlier than usual for whatever period you consider reasonable to prove that she/you will have time to style it?

Hoping DD is managing ok

Sorry, I'm another one who thinks you are being unreasonable. Your daughter's 13, not 3. I'm also confused why you think she won't be able to style it? You may even find that the fun of having to style it means she's more likely to get up earlier to do it, so that it looks good. Why don't you say that she can have it done, but, to begin with at least, she'll need to set her alarm 10 or so minutes earlier, until she gets used to styling it?
Getting your hair cut into a radically new style is a right of passage, surely?

Hedgehogs DD has medical conditions that have a big impact on her life. She is not always able to do her own hair. The other children in the family also have complex needs.
What seems like a small issue has a big impact on Hedgehog who is pretty much run off her feet as it is.

Dd couldn't manage her hair this morning so I helped her but luckily we were up slightly earlier than usual so it just worked out. Been to buy dd some travel straighteners this morning as think she may manage better with ones she can hold that are lightweight.

Going to let her practice this weekend and hopefully things will get a bit easier the more practice she has as its just the fringe that needs styling