to ask what you would tell your 20 year old self if you could?

[sherbetlemonD]

Just curious. You hear it all the time "if only I knew that when I was younger". Any pearls of wisdom?

Run

Run far, run fast and don't look back. Ever.

Don't marry your fiancé.
Get counselling.
Have a life.

That computer firm with that stupid Apple logo, buy shares in it.

start a pension.

Wear sunscreen every day.

That caring for grandma will make you a better nurse
That you will always love him, and you will jeopardise other relationships.
That there is no shame in being depressed.

Buy a house!

Whilst you're still living at home, save and save some more. Don't blow all your money on pointless crap.

That guy asking you out is an arsehole! Don't go there, he will cause you all sorts of heartache and you'll come this close >< to losing your job.

embrace the fun times, stop searching for 'the one', don't conform - it'll all work out in the end.

oh and hang on to that flat you bought at 22 as it'll quadruple in value, rather than sell up, move to a new area and take 13yrs to get back onto 'the ladder'

It'll get better. Don't give up yet.

You are not as ugly as you think you are and you have nothing to be ashamed of.

Change your degree to the subject you're passionate about. Your parents will forgive you.

You have a great figure and are beautiful.

Seeing as you lack confidence in your appearance, get some make-up tips, see a personal shopper. You don't have to wing it alone and feel like you're getting it all wrong. sounds v shallow and materialistic but I think this would've had a huuuuuge impact on me being happier and more confident

My 20 year old self got married on her 20th birthday. I'd tell her to grow the fuck up and listen to her mum because it'd save her a hell of a lot of pain.

I'd also tell her, the fat you think you are now is the figure you'll look back on in awe.

I would also be in the "pension" camp. Start one and keep up the payments into it for as long as possible. Keep on top of it and don't let it slide.

Take yourself and that newborn baby in your arms and run for the hills, you're not gonna get the happy ever after that he's promised you're gonna get decades of abuse, torture, mind games and manipulation and he will drag the children into it all. You should have disappeared off the radar! I would give everything I have to go back :-(

You're not as fat as you think you are, you're beautiful! When you reach the tender age of 30 your teeth are wobbly and yellow and your heart could pack in any day, it's irregular and you know something is up but you're too fucked up to get it checked and you keep doing it , you know by now it's killing you but it is impossible to stop! You have a 5 year old son now, he is beautiful, he is so perfect and lovable and such a typical little 5 year old, it will ruin him to lose his mummy.... Because of your selfish actions you have started writing notes to him to give him on his birthdays, you know you're not going to live that long! Every time you think of the future your eyes well up, you know what to do, please stick to it, you can't sort this on your own, you're like this at 20.... It is so much more worse 10 years later, listen don't be so bloody stubborn, you are getting help, you're lucky people noticed, don't do what I did and ignore it, please just listen .... You know what I mean!

Buy a flat or a house. In London. We could have for 40-50k. Old now.

Have your dc close together.

Don't give up your job.

My 20yo self would have called me a boring old fart at best.

Don't change a thing. You might fuck up an awful lot but everything turns out brilliantly in the end.

Admit you have problems and engage fully with your psychotherapy
Don't listen to your mother
Stop eating Dominos pizza and cheesy chips all the time!
Get a part time job
Trust your instincts and be brave: you don't really want to be at university!!
Ditch the emotionally abusive boyfriend (even though your mum loves him)

Don't let that wanker, who will soon be your ex husband, convince you to remortgage the house so when he walks out and you sell it you'll get less than a grand and be renting forever.

Stop crying over that beautiful man. He doesn't love you and never will.

Appreciate how beautiful, clever and talented you are.

Understand that your family don't value you and you have to love yourself.

Understand that this is a golden time in your life and that many years later many people in your life will be dead and gone.

I would tell myself;

He actually loved you, you dim big titted idiot.

Don't stress over your degree, you go into a completely different career after 6 months

You're not fat; at 30 you will be though.

You will have a child

Fuck, isn't it sad how many of these are fat posts. It's taken me to 36 to love my slightly fat body and all she is. Yet 20 year old me was a size 10 who thought she was a bloater.