to ask what you would tell your 20 year old self if you could?

[sherbetlemonD]

Just curious. You hear it all the time "if only I knew that when I was younger". Any pearls of wisdom?

I'm 21, so not really got a lot to contribute but keeping lots of these in mind for my own future! my two are

1. Don't listen to him and get yourself into debt to help him out because 'its ours' - it's not, he thinks whats yours is his and what's his is his.

1. Leave him. Do it now. Save yourself the hassle.

They are proud of you, it just takes them nearly 10 more years to articulate it to you. You do forgive, but you do it for you, not for them. In the next ten years, he (not her! shock horror) is going to let you down - big time. You dust yourself off, pick yourself up and end up in something bigger and better. Oh, and you don't go through it alone, but I will leave that as a surprise and boy, is he a surprise or what!

You're gay. You just don't realise it yet.

You will eventually have children
When you're 31 you will lose some weight, keep it off, do whatever it takes, start a sport whatever. Do not put that weight back on or you will yo yo for 15 years, spend a fortune on weight lose rubbish and still end up being a big fat unhealthy thing.

Have more confidence. Your acne will clear up - eventually. Socialise more instead of hiding away and make more of an effort to find a boyfriend, otherwise you'll reach your mid-30s and find all the decent men were taken a long time ago.

Don't compare yourself to other people
Don't envy anyone-it will all work out -you will meet a Mr Right and have those DCs you long for
Build that career
Buy that house-even if it cripples you financially for a while
Cherish your friends .

Don't take him back!!!!!

Look in the mirror,you are not far but will be in the future if you continue your self loathing!

*fat not far!!!

Don't go to that second rate university. Go to music college. It's OK, you CAN sing well enough. You will get in.
You are beautiful.
Don't go with that boy he will take you over and you will feel like half a person for years.
Don't smoke
Take care of your skin, in 15 years it will look rubbish.
Buy that VW camper. It is a good buy. Don't be sensible and buy a 106.

1. Wear a bikini on holiday. Your stomach is never going to be this flat again!
2. Stop pining for that dickhead and go and snog someone else. In fact, several someone elses.
3. Give your nan a call.

Lose weight and regain your confidence. Learn how to dress. Make the most of my looks.
Go back and do different A-Levels and do medicine or accountancy/marketing. A vocation.
Or got to Texas and meet a billionaire.
Travel more. Do South America and go and live in the Middle East.
Date more men. Sleep with more men.
Realize my potential.

Don't get engaged to somebody you don't love for the following reasons -

1 to get away from your overbearing mother
2 to get away from your small town with its small town mentality

I can't believe I did that cos I was scared of being left on the shelf - at 20 FFS!!

My 20 year old self was pg with dd2 with a useless man. I would tell her to go ahead and start divorce proceedings now.

Now, my 18 year old self I would tell to ignore the boy trying hardest to get your attention, getting attention turns out to be his real goal in life. put more effort into creating your own life via school or by pursuing the boy you have a crush on.

Yeah thats it: create your life, dont just accept what falls or forces its way into it.

Go back to college and do your a-levels again, it will change your life and hopefully give you the career you really want.

You are more intelligent and capable than you think, don't let people make you think otherwise.

That owing to the beauty of youth and a fresh spirit I could have had literally any man I wanted so why I insisted on dating deadbeats is beyond me. Few 20 year olds realise this power.

He's not for you.

Please think seriously about your career, change your degree, I know you're only half way through but maybe you cold alter it a bit and think about some Marketing or Psychology. Because of your silly degree, you have too much free time which isn't doing you any good. Please get help for your low self esteem, I know you tried, but you should have tried harder. Split up with your boyfriend, you are only with him cause you are grateful that someone is interested in you, ok you're not pretty, but you are not as ugly as you believe. Carry on trying to take your driving test, I know its hard and driving tests make you have panic attacks, but it would be good to try a bit harder. Try and travel or at least do some inter railing during the holidays or something, you will never get the chance later and it will all be even harder. Thats it really, you can tell I'm 40 and full of regrets, struggling to sort my work out, cannot drive, saving grace of not being able to drive is that I would probably be fatter.

Don't give him a second chance when he hits you. Don't let him convince you that you deserved it. You are so much more gorgeous and capable than you know - start to believe it - that way you won't waste the next 3 years of your life on this man and still feel bitter about all the opportunities you passed up for him 16 years later.

Spend your 20s focusing on your career, not chasing after "the one." You won't meet him until you're 32, but he will be worth the wait.

Stop buying so many clothes! You won't be a size 8 for much longer and you'll barely wear them. And don't get hung up when you do gain weight - you're too think anyway! Use the money you save through cutting down on shopping to go travelling - it will enrich your life more than any material possessions.

Appreciate how brilliant your university coursemates are - you're living in a bubble with a distorted impression that there are bazillions of people out there on your wavelength - this isn't the case, as you will find out when you start work! Relish the opportunity to spend as much time with this inspiring people as possible.

Be proactive and make things happen, rather than expecting opportunities to come to you.

You are gorgeous! Absolutely gorgeous. Not fat, not ugly, not stupid. Just great.

And another one - buy a house when you're 23, not 26 - you'll be at least 60k better off if you do!!

Don't worry about meeting "the one" at 20, just wait until you are 25 and you will.

Live in the moment. Enjoy what you are doing right now. You may not be accomplishing anything right now, but you are creating amazing memories to look back on.

Things will get a lot better, but it will take many many years. You will in the end have all the things you want, stability, a family, a lovely husband, a great career. But these things will not come easily to you, they will come very late and you'll doubt that you'll ever have even one of these. Just keep the faith and keep edging yourself in the right direction. It's not because you are doing anything wrong - you are playing the hand you were dealt as best you could.

Nothing. For two reasons. Firstly, I wouldn't have listened and secondly every decision we make, good and bad, bring us to where we are and I wouldn't change my life as it is now

Live within your means and kick DP (future DH) up backside to do same

Watch your weight - you may be thin as a rake now but too much chocolate and too little exercise could change that.