To be angry at suddenly becoming old?

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Well tbf it feels like it has suddenly happened.

I used to be gorgeous (I did!!) Gorgeous long blonde hair, 8 stone, trendy, could eat anything, always out here & there. Job I loved, people around me equally you'd & gorgeous.

Now.
I am almost 45. I'm fat, frumpy, short very greying hair, I have a moustache, bushy eyebrows, can't remember when I shaved my legs last. I don't recognize this person in the mirror.
I look forward to the Aldi magazine, my wheelie bin gets out more than I do & I've had to change jobs. Much less enjoyable, challenging and mundane.

How did this happen?
I LOVE my life, I am very fortunate, I just hate me & what has happened to me.

Time has gone nowhere, really fast.

^^age-related that should've said.

OH bugger! I've just spotted another typo in my post. "MY appearance" not "bye appearance".

plucking my chin is right up there for one of my worst getting old issues

I can live with greying hair and a bit of fat round the middle but growing whiskers is something I could do without

You are not old. You can't be. I'm 46 on Thursday and I'm not old. We sound very similar in terms of how we look/feel about ourselves. But, we're not old. We're just not doing enough. I'm starting C25K next week after a indulgent weekend away from DC (9 and 1). I think having a small child/baby makes you look at yourself more closely and become more critical. But, we don't have to be this way. We can be better.

It all costs money. I'm 55 and am enduring weekly visits to the electrolysis woman to get my facial hair zapped. Hairdressers every 6 weeks for cut and colour. The weight thing is a disaster after a bout with breast cancer but I am determined to get back to a reasonable weight. I haven't given up yet.

Never give in. Never give up. Rage against the machine (the steam cleaner, or whatever).

You are not old! Seriously, you have to actually DECIDE to be 'young' if that's what you want. There are lots of beautiful people at every age out having fun. Be one of them.

It needn't be expensive. My ( local council gym) costs £5 a month, running is free, I do my own manicures, facials, colour my own hair.

Grovel I have enjoyed gardening since I was a teenager. As a young adult I would be at a rave one night and next day pruning my roses.

yes but it's a lot more effort as you get older :)

If I wanted to lose half a stone in my 30s, it was hardly an effort. If I want to lose half a stone now, it feels like a life long project!

the problem is you have less time as you get older - teenagers at home, elderly parents, paying for lots, work etc. Time pressures get worse and everything suddenly takes more time! (well it does for me anyway!)

propel what gym is £5 a month??? My council run gym is £49 a month [SE London]

Otherwise, yes OP I hear you. I also used to be slim and good looking with lovely glowing skin that always won me lots of compliments...

Now at nearly 42 and two children later I have a spare tyre that won't budge whatever I do [no matter how often use my £49/month gym membership!], dry and muddy skin and spots!, general pudginess everywhere and wrinkles around my eyes...

I think my looks went down hill when I turned 40. I look at photos of myself aged 38 and 39 and I still look okay so don't know wtf happened really.

But it is a bit depressing

It's all the fucking effort though.

I could roll out of bed when I was young and effortlessly beautiful - no hangovers, no wrinkles.

Youth is utterly wasted on the young.

Whenever my 16 year old moans I tell her to shut the fuck up as I look over at her peachy blemish free skin, slim while eating a load of sweets and with completely thick long locks.

I just keep telling her that she will never be more beautiful as she is now.

£5 gym membership for over 50s here. Otherwise £22 a month for unlimited classes. ( Not in London)

I just keep telling her that she will never be more beautiful as she is now

I have aged 10 years since I turned 40 2 years ago.
Some of its is stress, multiple bereavements, but a lot of it I cannot think of a reason other than ageing.
I suddenly have wrinkles.
And my hands look old
Cannot shift my tummy fat.
Aches and pains.
General can't be fucked attitude.

sign me up.

i too was gorgeous, effortlessly thin. the OH was looking at photos of youngme the other day and raving about how gorgeous I was and how he didn't appreciate it at the time. Thanks alot.

Now, biking or exercising nearly every day, pot belly, look preggers when sitting down, thickening skin etc. etc. This blows. I am 43.

Yeah but when she whinges about being fat or uglier - I'm not saying that she won't be lovely tomorrow

It not how I look that pisses me off, but all the creaks and aches. Dodgy back, and currently a bad ankle so I can't go running (after all that bloody effort building up to 4 mile runs). Never mind the sodding menopause and waking up bathed in sweat.

Well, okay, the whiskers are a bloody nuisance, and I'll probably get around to dying my hair fairly soon. On the plus side, my skin is better than it has been for years and I've kept the weight off.

I take heart from friends in their 60s and 70s who still ride or swim or play tennis. I try to avoid thinking that when DM was my age, she only had 12 years left.

I AM STARTING TO LOOK LIKE MY MOTHER

despair ;)

123.....you win!

I've started to look like my mother too. Which is rather upsetting since she's 95 years old!

Its all in the mind. I am past 50, no spring chicken, have loads of aches and pains and some mornings I look like I have been dug up. BUT I am currently trying to buy myself a new event horse, so that now my children are older I can waste my middle age jumping ridiculous scary fences. Having more fun now than I have had for years

Yes to all the things confused mentioned but also need, before anything else can happen, a massive dose of can be bothered