AIBU.. Holiday costs? Splitting accommodation dosh.

[IamtheDevilsAvocado]

Here's the deal...

A group of us are going to mainland Europe and hiring a villa in August .

We are two couples (one room each) and a a family with teenage kids (3 rooms).

To get a villa large enough without having to tolerate delightfully messy teenagers sleeping on floor, we've had to go up a price band.

Also the 'family' mum has insisted on an extra room so she can have her old friends that are native to the country to stay an odd few days here and there.. We have never met these people.

We are also travelling in Aug aroubd the kids holidays...we have sucked up the extra cost of travelling at peak time so we can all holiday together.

So we are booking a 6 bedroomed villa.. In August.

we have had a email with our proposed cost per couple/family...the total amount has been divided by 3..AIBU to be about this?

How would people divide this the most fairly? .. Without being seen as either petty or being taken advantage of..?

Why is the wife getting all the blame, and the husband is getting no censure at all? Has he no mind of his own?

When you organise your next holiday with the other couple, say nothing. Don't breathe a word of it until you've got your feet up by the pool and not enough spare space to accommodate any extras (and even if you do have a spare room, then say you don't). But if you mention it to them, they'll try and hijack that one as well. Say nothing!

What about hiring two smaller villas near to each other? You and the other couple share a 2 bed and the family do whatever they like.

I'd rather use my tits to put fires out...

snort

Could you go away with just the other lovely couple?

Hi

In response to above:

Bossys email response: Just one -frosty- line thinking us for letting her know.. And a small dig about it being so close to deadline for deposit.

Have subsequently discovered from nice couple in passing that this was a bossy imposed deadline. .. To clarify there was never any point where bossy would be paying up front and us reimbursing.. We were doing this separately to the owner.

Don't know re whether villa still available - think it often takes a few days to update.

I'm not sure what the revised proposed split was after we pulled out. From what lovely couple said bossy seemed to be clutching at straws re villa... But this was after they said they were pulling out too.

Yes unsurprisingly, lovely couple were about original mail re 3 way split of costs.

Many thanks all for your replies!

I really believe we may have dodged a bullet and probably salvaged our r/s wirh lovely OH

Quote from Devils Avocado

So we may do a hopefully less hassle hotel holiday in autumn.

Sorry for those who would have liked a bossys holiday from hell thread.

Lol!

I agree with you.
I think you've made a dreadful mistake. You need to get in touch ASAP , offer to do the three way split... villa, food, booze, cars.

Then you can keep us entertained ( my life is so boring!) when you come home you write the book, sell the film rights and bingo! You more than recoup your losses.

( course your friends will run for the hills but it doesn't matter , youve kept we mumsnetters entertained. That's what's really important in life! ) Lol!

Holiday price divided per person. Then have a kitty for food etc. bung in £50 per person as a starting pot. Then the same each time to top up Everyone buys own alcohol. Then it's fair for family's and singles

Maddy it's moved on since OP.

Dowser- tee hee! A more amusing 'treatment' would be an offer to go halves.... We should pay for bossy et al.. As -schadenfreude- entertainment .

Situations where everyone is delightfully tolerant and sweet to eachother rarely makes a good story... Unless others enlighten me!

We had a lovely holiday once with some friends - three families altogether. One couple, currently overseas, wanted to spend time with us and treat us all, so paid for the villa (they do have more income than the rest of us). Our way of saying thanks was that we and the third couple paid for the bulk of the food. I did most of the main cooking (but other couples did cook one meal each), because I like cooking, especially for large groups, and when you've done the cooking, there are always lots of people willing to do the washing up. The dad of the third couple made everyone's packed lunches for the day's outing and breakfast every morning, because he was up with his youngest very early anyway.

So, a three way split on costs doesn't have to be the obvious choice, especially if there is an imbalance in finances.

However, paying for someone else's holiday is also not an obvious choice.

I'm paying for ten family members to have a holiday abroad.

There's no food costs to be incurred as its half board. They just need to bring money for a snack lunch and booze, ice cream ( pity it wasn't all inclusive lol. I've only done AI once and couldn't believe that at 4 pm the chuck wagon rolled up again with ice cream and sandwiches! Just three hours after lunch and 3 hours before dinner!)

But yes I wouldn't have it any other way. This was in lieu of a modest wedding in the UK which was going to cost far more.

These are the people I love most and as I wanted to get married on a sunny day we made that choice.

Like you Scholes, they'll remember it for the rest of their lives and it's doing something nice for my kids, partners and grand kids.

A few other stragglers have added themselves along ( after I invited them ;-) ) so it should be memorable , for all the right reasons ;-)

So yes a big party can work. Course there'll be little niggles at times hopefully outweighed by some fantastic memories.

Or I might have to keep MN entertained with what went wrong! Oh no!