To be upset a woman called my child dirty

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Out at a country park today, dd(5) had a wee in the car park as she was busting. A woman walked past with toddler and baby and she said to her daughter who was asking for a wee 'no, you can wait, just because other children are being dirty doesn't mean you have to!'

AIBU to think this was horrible?

This always makes me laugh - nobody would bat an eye if it was a dog but if it's a child people get all judgy!!
She was bu not you OP.

Its wee fgs, the child did not take a massive stinking dump in the middle of the car park. Perspective please!

Exactly piece, a dog, neh fine, a 5 year old young child, omg that's dirty and disgusting. Get a grip!

Bloody Hell I can't imagine ever giving a fuck about a child weeing outside! What is wrong with people? My boy is 5 and has been to the loo outside on numerous occasions.

If someone ever said anything, I think I'd just laugh and tell them to get a life. Jesus wept.

Yes! Was going to say exactly the same, no one gives a shit about dogs weeing outside.

I so totally and utterly agree about the dog thing.
Tbh. Im not sure it would have troubled me if the OP herself had had a wee. I guess I would just think she had been caught short.

The dog argument is ridiculous, dogs don't have a choice of places to wee it is expected that they will wee and poo outside - humans not so much which is why toilets are provided.

Why Are toilets provided for humans?

1. The accumulaton of shit wuld be a health hazzard without them
2. The privacy issue

1. This child was having a wee, not a poo, and no harmful excreta was being left in public
2. Clearly her need for an emergency wee outweighed any concerns she had about privacy.

What is so magically environmentally friendl about dog wee?

The neighbours cats come in a shit in my garden.....does that mean I should let their kids too?

If there is no difference between kids and dogs, there no difference between kids and cats.

Ok so there's a big difference between a 3 year olds bum and wee and not a 5 yo?

Exactly, it's wee, it will wash away, a childs wee same as a digs wee. We're at home, dd who was 4/5 at the time, use the toilet before we go, she sits on it, nothing coming out mummy, oh ok let's go then. Suddenly when we're out, mum I need a wee now, to a young child, it can be now, as they have pribably waited until it's really urgent.

yes there is a difference. 2 years difference.

I don't think the other woman was BU.

TheRealAmandaClarke The privacy argument you give is wrong, as they're provided so others don't have to watch, as well as you don't have to be seen, that's why there are laws against public urination, it's not just what the person who is performing the act believes.

Obviously there's a 2 year difference and how in that time does wee become unacceptable and a bottom the height of rudeness? Her bottom is the same at 5 as it was at 3.

Because she's now of an age where she's able to hold on until she gets to a toilet. She's not a newly toilet trained toddler. Her actual bum is no different than it was before or will be when she's 15!

YABU to give that lady a second thought! You can't blame stupid people for saying stupid things!

It's really not that complicated. Humans use toilets. Dogs don't. It's impossible to pick up dog wee. At 5, most children can hold it to get to a close by toilet. If you know your child has a habit of not doing you offer a toilet when you see one.

Some people think, including me, that 5 years old is old enough to hold it. And if the OP is reasonable to let her child per in public where people can see them, then people are reasonable to comment. Op clearly didn't think about what people thought when she let her child wee, why should the woman care what people think of her openly giving her opinion.

I also think it's dirty. Even as toddlers I carried portable potties! At 3-4, no way would I let a child wee in the park. Its a horrible sight- though understandable if say small toddler, miles from a toilet and in middle of nowhere. Certainly not in a park.

That's the difference though, 2 years. At 3 I can understand a child not making it, they are still learning to some degree. At 5 they should be able to hold it.

The difference is 2 years more.

I think she was wrong to comment loudly. However I think you were unreasonable to let your daughter wee beside the car. Think about it - you drive off, someone else parks there, gets out and steps in it/puts bag/child seat down on it etc.
I'm of the older generation. I read posts like this and wonder if, for example, children these days have weaker bladders than when I was a child. My Mum would not have allowed me to decide I had to wee immediately and anywhere I happened to be at 5 years old. Out walking in the countryside, go behind a bush, but in a car park? Nope.

I pee in the woods all the time. But nobody sees me. My dh pees outdoors a lot as he has a very irritable bladder but again nobody ever sees him do it.
I will use the same decision making with my ds. No worries about the wee outside but keep the weeing act hidden.

It was a field - no one would have 'stepped in it'.

Normally, she goes over grids, she just tells me very 'last minute' she needs to go.

Did this woman that the OP wants us all to put down object to the child's bottom or something?

I had thought it was the urinating in an area that was a public spot that would be walked through and use rather than finding a less frequent spot (or the nearby toilet)

The whole dog argument is odd, I don't think people would be delighted if someone let their dog pee in the middle of a public thoroughfare.

I have to say I don't have a problem with a desperate child peeing outside but think the OP chose an odd spot.

Oh, are there laws against a fice year old urinating in public?
I wasn't aware of that.