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To be annoyed at my friend using my wifi to update her mobile without my consent?

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LoveSchoolHolidays · 23/04/2015 08:08

I have put 2 & 2 together and could be wrong, but a few things have happened recently to make me think my friend is using my wifi whenever she visits my house.

Ages ago I gave her my wifi password so she could use my internet on her mobile phone, I can't remember what she wanted to do at that time. In February we changed provider, didn't tell my friend, didn't even think about it. Then she got a massive phone bill and asked me if I'd changed my password, she didn't connect the two but when I told her to dispute the bill as I presumed it was a mistake, she made a load of excuses why not and that is when I put the two together. I believe that she has been updating the software on her phone when she visits me and so was being charged by her provider when she thought she was using my wifi for free. I did give her my new password before I got suspicious but now I watch her when she visits and she is on her phone more than my other friends, which I think is rude anyway.

Yesterday I had to leave in a hurry and as I was practically pushing her out the door, she stopped on my doorstep and started fiddling with her phone, when I told her she needed to hurry up as I was in a massive rush she made an excuse about a text message. Surely a text message could have been dealt with after she had left and I was on my way. That really annoyed me, I think she was downloading something and had to stop it before she left.

I might be paranoid and come across as a weirdo but I feel she is using me, she doesn't have Internet at home and I do let her visit me with her laptop occasionally when she needs to use the Internet which I dont mind, I just want to be asked, I don't know what she is downloading and on a basic level it is theft.

I'm thinking of changing my password and not telling her, is that just petty?

WWYD?

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LemonYellowSun · 23/04/2015 08:12

It's annoying that she isn't being honest.

I would just change your password if you don't want her using it. It doesn't cost you anything but she is being underhand about it.

letscookbreakfast · 23/04/2015 08:13

It's not theft.

YABU.

SouthWestmom · 23/04/2015 08:13

Is there a cost to you? Or are you just annoyed she's getting something for nothing?

Bunbaker · 23/04/2015 08:13

Why don't you just switch your router off when she visits?

PureMorning · 23/04/2015 08:13

She's stealing WiFi waves?

Petty beyond belief

ineedausername · 23/04/2015 08:14

Is she pushing you over your broadband limit and costing you money? If not, I think YABU.
I also wouldn't class it as theft if you had given her the password.

Bunbaker · 23/04/2015 08:14

But if it doesn't cost you anything I wouldn't worry about it.

Fudgeface123 · 23/04/2015 08:14

You've given her your password, how can it be theft? It's not costing you anything so YABU

BUT If she only comes round to use your WiFi and you don't see her at other times then she is BU

Pippidoeswhatshewants · 23/04/2015 08:14

Unless you have a data cap in your wifi and are actually out of pocket: YABU.

Btw, she is also breathing your air while she is at yours. Hmm

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msgrinch · 23/04/2015 08:14

Yabvvvu! What the heck?! Do you expect her to provide her own tea bags too? Cheers for the laugh op.

BernardBlack · 23/04/2015 08:15

Depends...do you have unlimited downloads or are you capped? If she's using up your gigabytes and you're going to get a bill if you go over your limit then YANBU.

mamadoc · 23/04/2015 08:15

As long as it's not costing you anything I can't see much of an issue.

Is it that you feel she only comes round for this reason? I had an ex-friend who turned out to be a real user. I let her use my phone, computer etc on a few occasions and before I knew it she was round all the time expecting it. She once arrived with a load of washing and was put out I wouldn't let her dry it on my radiators!

seaoflove · 23/04/2015 08:15

If it bothers you so much, change your wifi password again and don't give it to her.

Why does she use yours anyway? Does she not have Internet at home?

jerryfudd · 23/04/2015 08:15
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CatsCantTwerk · 23/04/2015 08:16

She is stealing the internet? Brilliant.

NerrSnerr · 23/04/2015 08:16

Ha ha. Of course it's not theft, you gave her the password twice! If you don't want her using your wifi then switch the router off when she visits.

LurcioAgain · 23/04/2015 08:16

What you're missing, OP, is that mobile data is very expensive, wifi data is relatively cheap. It is quite possible that the mobile downloads would cost a great deal if done via the mobile signal, but wouldn't even make a dent in your free wifi quota (the amount you can download before you get charged). If you go to your wifi provider's website, you should be able to check how much you've downloaded and what percentage of your quota it is. Basically, unless she's coming to visit for the weekend and streaming movies continuously for the entire time she's there, she won't even scratch the surface of your wifi quota.

OrangeVase · 23/04/2015 08:17

Doesn't it cost? I thought it did.

We had a huge bill - £250++ one summer just as the DC got to the age when they were downloading films. (I hadn't got unlimited broadband as I only really used it for e-mail - we now do).

Not a comment - just a question.

Penfold007 · 23/04/2015 08:17

I don't really understand what the problem is. You gave her the password so she could use your WiFi. Are her internet activities putting up your bill or using up your data allowance? As it bothers you just change your password and decline to give it to her.

WhoNickedMyName · 23/04/2015 08:17

is she only visiting you to use your WiFi? that's the bit that would get up my nose.

I'd be tempted to change the password just to see if she notices and mentions it.

Aridane · 23/04/2015 08:17

I think you've got it spot on (as in being paranoid and a weirdo) - sorry!