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Original poster

AIBM to not let ds2 4 wear his Elsa dress out anymore due to twattish sniggering parents

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NellysKnickers · 13/04/2015 16:00

Ds2s hero is Elsa. He loves her and Frozen. He also loves mud, dinosaurs, trains and his bike. He wore his Elsa dress to pick up ds1 from school today. I'm shocked by the amount of parents giggling and pointing, I expected a bit from kids who dont know any better but adults? ?? I'm torn between being upset and wanting to pinch them in the face ( obviously I would never do this in reality) Why is it that people think it's ok to laugh at someone a little bit different, Dh just says they are a bit thick!

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NellysKnickers · 13/04/2015 16:01

Apologies for typos

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SergeantJarhead · 13/04/2015 16:04

I hate this sort of stupidity, I hope your son didn't notice it Op. I sure as hell wouldn't stop my son wearing his dress if it made him happy, especially for the benefit of narrow minded twats. I would also have actually said something to the adults but my choice of words not suitable for outside a school.

Assuming this post is real xD

AlwaysDancing1234 · 13/04/2015 16:06

Sometimes adults can be much worse than kids! I guess the question is what does your DS feel about it. If sniggering upsets your DS then maybe tell him to wear the dress at home, if he's not fussed let him wear the dress!

ApocalypseNowt · 13/04/2015 16:06

Big meanies. I don't think a bit of face pinching would go amiss here....

itsveryyou · 13/04/2015 16:07

I think if he's happy with wearing a frock, then let him keep doing it. Hard as it is to ignore the idiots who think it's funny, their reactions say so much more about them than they do about your son, or you. Unfortunately, people are judgmental, so it might be you have to just ignore them and, ahem, let it go...

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NellysKnickers · 13/04/2015 16:07

Yep definitely real. He didn't notice but ds1 did and explained to one child that if his hero was superman he'd be in a superman costume, just happens he loves Elsa so wearing an Elsa dress. He starts school in September and I'm worried some of them will remember and pick on him.

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Booboostoo · 13/04/2015 16:08

They are very thick not just a bit thick. I hope your DS didn't notice and continues to enjoy his dress.

Would it help if you raised the general issue with the school and they talked to the children about how what one wears is a personal choice that expresses their individuality?

Justusemyname · 13/04/2015 16:08

You would be mad to give into bullies

Let him wear his lovely dress.

Use this as a way iof weeding out people who aren't your real friends, or mature enough to be so.

SeasideSunshine · 13/04/2015 16:09

Why would you not think this post is real? If you have doubts, contact MNHQ.

OP - my 5yo ds would quite happily wear an Elsa dress anywhere we went in public, if he had one. He does have an Elsa doll (and an Anna doll) which he plays with regularly. But yes, even adults can be nasty.

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NellysKnickers · 13/04/2015 16:09

Thanks for responses. You have all reassured me

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EqualRites · 13/04/2015 16:10

If you can, try to let him do it, and explain to him that the people are wrong to laugh at him. It will do his self-esteem more good to hear that, than to have to explain that he can't wear his dress because people are laughing at him.

CtrlAltDelicious · 13/04/2015 16:10

Because people have got bad manners and small minds. Ok so a young lad in a dress isn't something they might have encountered before. No need to act so rudely though - in fact perhaps they should take a few seconds to consider why it clearly bothers them so much.

Totality22 · 13/04/2015 16:10

We haven't had a boy in a dress thread for all of a few days

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NellysKnickers · 13/04/2015 16:11

Sorry to have offended you Totality. Maybe you shouldn't have opened the thread, the title clearly states what it's about

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SeasideSunshine · 13/04/2015 16:12

Oh please. We have parking threads practically every bloody day. So what? I don't recall MNHQ putting out something saying we're limited to a certain number of "boys in dresses" threads each month. Hmm

WhatIsInAUsername · 13/04/2015 16:13

Adults certainly are worse bullies than children. If your ds is happy wearing an Elsa dress then let it go... (Sorry!)

niminypiminy · 13/04/2015 16:13

I still have a lovely picture of DS1 in a purple party dress with a 'captain chaos' t shirt underneath it from when he was 4. It's a phase, and why shouldn't he have it? People are so small minded!

RabbitSaysWoof · 13/04/2015 16:14

Are you sure they didn't just find it adorable? sometimes when people find something cute, it sounds like they are sort of laughing in an awww way, rather than a wtf way.
At least thats what I let myself believe when people laughed at my son wearing a mixing jug we were buying on hes head around tesco.

NeedABumChange · 13/04/2015 16:15

This sort of attitude changes so much depending on where you are in the country. Round here everyone would be telling him how fun he looks.

tumbletumble · 13/04/2015 16:17

My DS2 went through a phase of putting on a dress every time we went to pick up his older siblings from school. I got lots of comments / giggles but I always assumed they were positive (oh bless look at that little boy in his dress). Maybe you're being a bit defensive OP? Or maybe I was being totally oblivious!

Foreverlurking · 13/04/2015 16:17

He's happy, you're happy. So let it continue!
It's the snickerers loss for being close minded :)

noseymcposey · 13/04/2015 16:17

Were they laughing maliciously? my DS (nearly 4) also likes princess dresses (among other things) He doesn't have his own but dresses up in his friends when round their houses. I think this is really very common among boys this age!

I laugh at my DS all the time for dressing up. He got himself dressed in a shirt and tie this morning as he wanted to go to nursery dressed up like Daddy. I laughed at that too.

Are we supposed to be straightfaced about dressing up?

Homeishappiness · 13/04/2015 16:17

I wouldn't outwardly laugh but I do think it's ridiculous and it would certainly elicit raised eyebrows and smirks around here.

EqualRites · 13/04/2015 16:18

WTF Homeishappiness?

tumbletumble · 13/04/2015 16:18

Rabbit Grin at the mixing jug!