AIBM to not let ds2 4 wear his Elsa dress out anymore due to twattish sniggering parents

[NellysKnickers]

Ds2s hero is Elsa. He loves her and Frozen. He also loves mud, dinosaurs, trains and his bike. He wore his Elsa dress to pick up ds1 from school today. I'm shocked by the amount of parents giggling and pointing, I expected a bit from kids who dont know any better but adults? ?? I'm torn between being upset and wanting to pinch them in the face ( obviously I would never do this in reality) Why is it that people think it's ok to laugh at someone a little bit different, Dh just says they are a bit thick!

Revolting? Wow. I think that attitude is revolting.

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What happens when you walk past a Disney store?
Do you develop a rash?

Ok. Do those who think it's ok to laugh, do you also think it's ok to laugh at fat people? disabled people? Transgender? I'm not being pissy, I'm genuinely interested in how your minds work.

Sometimes.

Oh the bandwagon jumpers... so many of them and all on one thread... on the most judgemental section of MN. Bit of a juxtaposition, no?

Children dress in odd things all the time, mismatched things (to an adult's eye) and there are posts about that in 'Chat' quite often. Most posters say that the poster posting about her child wearing these odd things should wind her neck in. In posting this thread, the OP is highlighting her own perception of 'oddness' in her child's attire. If it were fully accepted by her, she wouldn't even be posting because this would be normal.

homeishappiness is right on the money... people will look, might laugh, raise a smile or not even register - but those that do notice might inwardly think it odd, just as they would if a dad would turn up in a dress (as a pp suggested).

Solomon... how can you say where homeishappiness lives is 'grim'? What a stupid and over-used expression and how the hell would you know if anybody judged you/your child with your assessment of their 'laughter'? Bonkers!

This isn't something that needs to be addressed if nobody is making a thing of it and the poster who hysterically suggested treatment for racism? homophobia? etc. needs a head wobble herself. Idiotic overreaction.

Do what you want, let your kids dress as they want - and stop searching expressions of the wider public for approval or disapproval. Generally, we just don't care and this is just attention seeking on a grand scale, which is acceptable in kids only, adults not at all. Do what you want but stop dictating to others what their reactions should be, fgs.

I wanted to punch them in the face because who the fuck thinks it's ok to snigger at an innocent little boy, like I said, I would never actually do it, it just made me sad and angry and to be honest it's the first time I've really thought about the prejudices and narrow mindedness my dcs will have to deal with in the big wide world, why can't everyone just accept each other for who they are?

Woah, you need to calm down.

If you don't want your son to be laughed at because he's wearing girl's clothes, don't send him out in them. Is it your battle or his?

I'm not stupid enough to set my son up for people laughing at him.

I don't think your examples correlate.

Round here, no one would laugh or stare.
I don't think it is a particularly show stopping thing

It us fancy dress. I think it will evoke a bit of looking :)

I hope you aren't comparing your son to a disabled person

Your son could, you know, not wear the dress. Not as easy to get over a disability, ffs.

Because OP et al are dramatic attention seekers for whom polite disinterest is just not on.

Look at Meeeee dammit!

Wow. Small children wearing dressing up gear is revolting?

My oh my.

My 8 year old loves wearing jeans and band t-shirts. Current favourites are Guns n Roses, Ramones and Iron Maiden. BEcause she likes the bands. I've had three/four parents at school ask why she's wearing "boy" t-shirts. Head meet wall.

If they're happy and dressed for teh weather don't worry about small mindedness.

What Lying? Please explain why my son dressing up, as 4 year olds do, mean I want everyone to look at me?

Nelly... your comment is the one that's out of order and you have no right to tell another poster to fuck off. Santana's post makes sense.

What else could you mean by asking if we would laugh at disabled people?

Either you stick up for him when you let him wear something ridiculous or you don't let him wear it.

The poster who hysterically suggested treatment for racism? homophobia? etc. needs a head wobble herself. Idiotic overreaction.

I didn't suggest treatment for racism or homophobia - I was commenting on the fact that Homeishappiness said she knew she was prejudiced for no reason, but didn't seem to think perhaps she should try to be less prejudiced. I was wondering whether she held any other prejudices that she was aok with.

I don't usually post in AIBU, and I think I'll be backing out of the topic and leaving you all to it.

Have we had the obligatory "On MN you're a great parent if your son wears a princess dress, a failure if your daughter does"?

Anyone who would laugh at a little boy (or a little girl!) dressed up in an Elsa dress is an idiot, plain and simple. I hope that most of the parents at your school are kinder than that, OP. Let him wear his dress and ignore the idiots.

I see kids round here dressed up in all sorts including a little boy who regularly wears a princess dress. Doesn't bother me in the slightest but you can't be that naive to believe everyone you come across will accept it?

EqualRites I don't care if you post her or not but I think your comment to homeishappiness was out of order and you should, if you're big enough, apologise for it. It was bandwagon-jumping, nothing less and very unfair - and goady.

Only on MN do I see this viewpoint. And I mean the people who find it "revolting". No one gives two shiny shits what CHILDREN wear around here as they are having fun and most sane people have too much going on (and also actual manners) to comment or care inwardly or outwardly about what a little boy is wearing.

I would find it just SO ODD if anyone cared enough that a boy was in girls clothes/vice versa. Really: get a life.

Hopefully it was a rueful smile OP - maybe you are being over sensitive...? I hope so. Also: best lesson I think you can teach your children is immunity from judgemental types. Wear what you like. If people laugh: who cares.

I have explained that I wasn't accusing her of racism or homophobia, so I don't see any need to apologise.

You can't choose the colour of your skin or your sexuality but you can certainly choose what you wear - or rather, at 4, can certainly be told to put something else on (my daughter isn't permitted to wear fancy dress clothes out of the house incidentally although she can of course wear t shirts with characters on if she wishes.)

I also dislike seeing little boys with shaved heads, pierced ears on under-10s, painted nails on either sex, tops with indecent slogans on (such as 'sexy' for little girls in particular) and a whole host of other stuff. I certainly don't comment on it as children pass as I have manners and I agreed the adults today were UR. However, my private reaction and one I would voice to DH or to a friend would be along the lines of how utterly ridiculous the child looked and how desperate for attention the parent must be.

Anyone else is free to comment on my DCs outfits to their partner or friends, too :)

I didn't find your post in anyway offensive, homeishappiness. We all decide how to 'present' ourselves. Most people don't comment - positively or negatively - they just get on with their day. I'm in that group and any thoughts I have in my head, if I even notice peoples' attire, are private.

And Worrall, I wanted to punch them in the face because who the fuck thinks it's ok to snigger at an innocent little boy, like I said, I would never actually do it, it just made me sad and angry and to be honest it's the first time I've really thought about the prejudices and narrow mindedness my dcs will have to deal with in the big wide world, why can't everyone just accept each other for who they are?

You said they were 'giggling' and 'pointing' OP.

At no point did you say they were sniggering.

I took giggling and pointing in the same way as if he'd waltzed by wearing any other fancy dress costume - in other words in an amused way. Like if he'd turned up dressed as a donkey for example.