To say something about this choice of baby name

[horrifiednamechanger]

DB and SIL are expecting their first baby. The baby is long awaited and I'm delighted for them obviously.

But, SIL they have decided to call the baby Charmaine (yes, spelt like that) and to make matters worse SIL seems to pronounce it almost 'char' rather than the kind of French style 'shar'. It almost sounds like she is ordering a take away.

Anyway upon hearing this news I had to bite my tongue so hard it practically bled. I don't think I did a very good job of hiding my horror surprise.

DB and myself have rather naice upbringing and our DM was a huge bit of a snob, not quite Hyacinth Bucket but not far off. I am fully prepared to accept I have inherited DM's views and IBU.... but I am also sure this would not be DB first or last choice of name, but he is known to 'go with the flow' and 'not cause waves' because SIL can be quite strong willed.

IABU to hate the name and WIBU to say something?

It's dreadful, but I don't think there's a polite way to say it. Their baby, their name choice.

Yabu

Awful. Poor child.

Yanbu to hate the name privately BUT ywbu to tell them. It's up to them. you sound snobby to be honest (but self aware!). It's not worth falling out over if they love the name.

Their baby, their choice. You should not say a thing.

YABU it's none of your business.
We are about to name our DD a name I'm sure some members of our family will hate if they can't be polite about it they have the option of not using it by staying away.

Yabu

This is the reason people shouldn't share their baby names with others

Their baby, their choice

Would nick naming the unborn baby 'chaz' make them reconsider.

That is an horrible name. Really dated too.

"Isn't there a Charmaine Jackson?"

Or maybe it's germaine Jackson. Then get fake confused between germaine and charmaine.

My mum, who is hilariously funny but has a wicked tongue once described a child as being "exactly as plump as you'd expect a child called Chantelle to be".

It is going to sound like chow mein isn't it? Oh dear.

Nightmare name and pronunciation.

It depends on the relationship you have with them whether you say something.

Or start mentioning that you ordered chow mein every time you see them. It might sink in.

You can always buy chop sticks as a birth present.

What's wrong with Charmaine? (genuinely asking!). If you want a bad name then try Cnut - this was on an actual list of baby names I saw once. Run that through spellcheck and you then you have a big problem on your hands. See, Charmaine doesn't seem to bad now, does it

I know a fantastic lady called Charmaine so only have positive thoughts about it.

You're nbu to not like the name, but it's not your decision, it's theirs. So I wouldn't say anything.

I would have to tell them. Anyone else and i would bite my tongue but a sibling? No, i'd tell them.

YANBU to hate it.

YABU to mention it.

It's only acceptable to criticise someone's name choice if it's tantamount to child abuse and this isn't that bad.

I knew a few Charmaine's growing up so it's not that unusual/terrible to my ears. I don't like it, but it isn't bad enough to intervene.

It is awful, but it would be rude to say so, unless they directly ask your opinion, in which case I might have a few alternatives up my sleeve, say it is hard to spell, maybe query the pronunciation.

You will probably love it when the baby it born. I work in a school, and when you like the child, the name doesn't even register after a while

None of your business so don't say anything.

All names are shortened/nick names at high school anyway.

Incidentally my dds name is shortened just the same as you posted by her friends and she's not Charmaine.

Personally I think the name is fine.

Don't catch snobbery and silliness from your mum op. Not nice qualities.

YANBU. It's awful.

I know a couple of Charmaines. Never really thought about it that much - it's definitely not a name i would say anything about to the parents. Leave them alone.

Not a great name. Dated.

Awful, particularly if she is pronouncing it badly. But you can't say anything

I'd quietly question my own brother about it in your position. If it turns out he really likes it, I'd then keep my mouth shut, but if there was any inkling that he didn't like it, I might have to encourage him to think about that.

I think I'd have laughed and asked for the real name. Charmaine?

Really surprised at those saying you should tell them you think it's awful.

How bloody rude and nasty that would be. Amazed.

It's hideous. But you know you can't say anything about it.