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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

967 replies

Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
riveravon23 · 07/04/2015 20:37

I certainly like to believe a child would be just passed over without someone doing some investigating. After all the "friend" could be anyone, as of course could the OP.

Am I correct in thinking that at some point the houseguest told the OP she was going to leave her child....did that not ring major alarm bells?

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 20:44

France? Did someone say France?

This thread is officially bad for your health.

NotNowBono · 07/04/2015 20:48

IFlyAway It's all very rum indeed.

Chippednailvarnish · 07/04/2015 20:52

We're back on the lash! Bottoms up everyone!

conceals concerns about the next chapter involving Mormons from SLC

PunkrockerGirl · 07/04/2015 20:57

On the lash here too,Chipped. CheersWine
stops me losing the will to live over this thread

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 20:59

Omg, I have a dilemma. Take some pain relief for the crippling neck pain or finish the Amaretto.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 21:03

Amaretto it is.....cheers ladies.

PS, Last night I had a very kinky booze induced dream about a certain politician.

I blame all of you.

PunkrockerGirl · 07/04/2015 21:06

Well, Tali My advice would be to finish the Amaretto so that hopefully you can sleep for a while. If the pain wakes you up, then you can take your pain relief. It's a win win situation really.
I'm a nurse so obviously I know what I'm talking about Wink

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 21:08

Thanks Punk Who am I to argue with a health care professional.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 21:13

I agree with you, NotNow - it's a very rum affair indeed! Don't want to wine but I don't think I can beer much more of it! It's all so much lager than life!

Chippednailvarnish · 07/04/2015 21:15
Grin
Topseyt · 07/04/2015 21:20

This thread is more surreal than ever now. Confused

Quite a saga, though unfortunately I have no wine in with which to decipher things. Sad

So the Ghanaian Italian etc. houseguest is now in hospital. Maybe out of OP's hair, maybe not. Who knows!?

How a 10 year old boy would cope with this pantomime going on around him I cannot imagine.

Perhaps the Martians really have landed somewhere and are behind all of this.

Has she been examined or scanned at the hospital to prove that she is actually pregnant and it isn't a fabrication or fantasy?

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 21:21

Its the Absinthe of any southern comfort for the boy that concerns me. Stella really needs to be a better mother.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 21:24

We'll just have to gin and beer it, Tali.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 21:26

< tries to think of pun with Akpeteshie>

Coconutty · 07/04/2015 21:26

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 21:27

Well I have the perfect tonic Better

Topseyt · 07/04/2015 21:27

If she is pregnant the should also scan her to see whether or not the baby is of human or extra-terrestrial paternity.

It could be that the Martians are trying to inveigle their way into our world.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 21:27

< fails>

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 21:31

No wonder I'm going through the Amaretto so quickly. I'm pouring myself triples.

I bet the baby daddy is an Alien from a race of all males who have realised what the can use their dicks for and have been randomly knocking up females for years.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 21:35

Martians and those Indigo children from last night spell bad news for our planet.

Patapouf · 07/04/2015 21:36

Was she discharged then OP?

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 07/04/2015 21:38

It could suddenly explain all the emotionally crippled men that are discussed on here.

I bet George Osborne is an Alien.

Bettercallsaul1 · 07/04/2015 21:40

No wonder we have to console ourselves with alcohol. I'm thinking of the Galaxy.

Fifis25StottieCakes · 07/04/2015 21:41

ilylonglegs Tue 07-Apr-15 18:28:09
She asked me to drop him off. We went onto the ward and directly into the room she was in. It wasn't a problem, although they did say it was out of visiting hours, I just said the boy needs to see his mother. Then when I went back to drop off their chargers and washbag they let me through no problems.

Lilylonglegs Tue 07-Apr-15 20:04:38
You say "so called" but she can tell them anything. I don't know the extent of the friendship except they met in France. The nurse and reception knew he was the son. They offered her a social service placement or someone to come and get him, so she has called her friend. However if she is discharged today, they will leave together to the same friends house

Seems strange not to mention what was said in the 20:04 post in the 18:28 post imo

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